CPA- Chanda Pays Attention

As all things should go in sequence I thought I would talk about love bombing. I hinted at it in the last episode but I decided to go into it. You see the toxic side of it really well in Frozen and we end up with an exciting conversation. Love bombing is an emotional manipulation technique. It's not great. You basically love someone so much they are unable to see your more toxic traits. You are em...

So Andrew Tate got taken down by Greta Thumberg  twice in one week and y'all thought I was just gonna stay quiet. Nope!! More importantly guys we really need to stop and start thinking about who we are following we are starting to look very blind.

“Breadcrumbing” literally refers to leaving bread crumbs so that someone can follow the trail. Are you being led on a trail that leads nowhere? How to spot the signs and how to protect yourself!

This week took me to a kind of low place but with friends and help from people around me I felt lifted up. I would also like to explore a fun new phenomenon.

Radical self focus forbids us from being one with the community. Denying ourselves communal input as well as our own ability to pour out. Walk with me on this journey and get some juicy tea too!!

The tale of Icarus is one repeated often as a warning against hubris but what if there's a lot more to the story?....Here in lies my poddy

In a world begging to be more tolerant we have gone to far extremes to make sure no one is offended. But we will offend people, constantly so why soften words or hold back distinct meanings. We will be touching on the Euphemism treadmill and the evolution of language. 

I got Covid and came to a life reckoning. This episode may be a little scattered but it is so important to me, I may not be spitting hot facts but I am telling my life's truths so take that as you will. More resources for COVID-19 below www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/more/index.html www.benefits.gov/help/faq/Coronavirus-resources www.usa.gov/coronavirus www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-co...

It's always dangerous to the collective group when you are ready to pursue individual gains at the expense of the collective. The "pick-me" person seeks acceptance from another group and often their individual actions are used to demonize the collective. I am taking on the challenge of discussing the bizarre and possibly the more complicated conversation of the "pick-me" trope.

This is a grinds my gears episode, for the treatment of Castor Semenya. There are so many harmful stereotypes perpetrated against Black women and Black sexuality. I face them all the time I live in constant fear of voicing rage for example as I know that there's rage stereotypes. Often black women are treated with less gentleness for the assumption of strength. In this episode we see how terribly...

The primary role of dominance hierarchies, is the formation of order and stability within those groups. So where does the Beta male stand? There is a perception over the actual definition I would like to explore that and see what's going on there. 

Just wanted to share a life experience. Nothing profound. Just kindness.

What does it mean to be an Alpha Male? Are you a healthy Alpha? Am I an Alpha? Journey on with me as we try and solve this puzzle.

I am making the argument that Cinderella is actually a feminist tale. This episode is me explaining my journey to understanding feminism. https://www.humanrightscareers.com/issues/types-of-feminism-the-four-waves/ https://thelifeofscience.com/2019/05/14/4-reasons-anti-feminist-women-hate-feminism-and-what-theyre-missing/ Wikipedia https://dailytitan.com/opinion/cinderella-embodies-feminism-through...

Second Deep dive into the dark parts of the dating world and how people can be so misguided. Hopefully thing gains you some good conversations or at least an awareness to what others are going through

Dating Series: What is the red pill movement? why is it good? Why is it bad? What can be done

Often the why behind our mannerisms is lost on us as a modern culture. We take things that seem cute and apply them to our lifestyles without a moments thought to their origin. I was recently wound up about the idea of people doing things I have always known to have strong meaning haphazardly. Here's my take on all this. Sources: https://archives.history.ac.uk/makinghistory/resources/articles/why_...

According to wikipedia lol. Knowledge sharing is an activity through which knowledge is exchanged among people, friends, peers, families, communities, or within or between organizations. Knowledge sharing is so important. I want to dive into it and see what we can learn over the next few weeks.

I have touched on this idea before that the more selfish you are the more you actually act in the interest of other. We talked about this in the episode Kindness is not natural. I believe acting in your self interest is participating in the voting process. Here's my pitch hope you love it!!

After every Kanye album comes out we wonder what is art lol. I think many things are art and what isn't. I have a lot of artsy friends but this does not make them artists. I think this was a fun one but probably a silly question to ask because the grey area is sooo big. Hope you enjoy let me know what you think is art!! Sources: Avital. T. (2003). Art versus Nonart : Art out of Mind . Cambrid...

BLM is now a popular movement. But though it makes perfect sense to me it may not to others. So I want to make a case for the cause and break down why saying all lives matter doesn't make sense

#BeThe1To is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline’s message for National Suicide Prevention Month and beyond, which helps spread the word about actions we can all take to prevent suicide. The Lifeline network and its partners are working to change the conversation from suicide to suicide prevention, to actions that can promote healing, help and give hope. I hope these tools can be helpful to y...

I decided to continue my kindness motif.  I asked what is kindness and use more of a scientific basis . I consider circumstances as a reason for the genetic or innate idea of human kindness. Deeper I shall Dive. So to google I go and there Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. https://www.accountingtools.com/articles/basic-accounting-concepts.html https:/...

Are we becoming increasingly cruel because the very meaning of kindness is lost on us? Why on  earth should we be kind? Where does the whole concept come from? this is the question that haunts me today.

My Journey on Finding out more about this topic that i have run away from and not had a firm opinion on. So I played devil's advocate and I think I'll have to revisit this one but I wanted the conversation out there. https://www.self.com/story/14-abortion-facts https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/abortion/risks/ https://www.amnesty.org/en/what-we-do/sexual-and-reproductive-rights/abortion-facts/ https:/...