Courage Within You with Silvia Turonova

One of the main mistakes we make when we set a goal is that we don't get clear on what it will carry.  We can't expect to make significant changes in life while our lifestyle remains the same. Something eventually needs to give in.  The question is: Is it your goal or your free and fun time? Some of us are satisfied with their 9-5, free weekends, some hobbies and family time. There is nothing wron...

Before you tune into today's podcast episode, I want you to ask yourself this question" How committed am I to myself, my dreams and my most important goals?" We have commitments like our family, spouse or partner, our career, and our job. As important as all of these are, it's crucial to recognize what deserves our priority and when. Today, I want to call all of my people pleasers and those who ha...

It's been over a year since I left my marriage and had an opportunity to heal and reflect. At first, I labeled my marriage as "failed." I couldn't be further from the truth.  This experience taught me so much about myself and my inner power. It created some of the most significant breakthroughs in my life and helped me to evolve very fast. It reminded me that rapid growth is priceless. Many of us...

At an early age, we often adopt limiting beliefs and patterns without ever questioning if they are valid and if they are contributing to our growth or sabotaging it.  These beliefs become our way of life since they're the only thing we know.  Because many of us weren't led or taught how to develop a strong self-belief, we do what we think we can do not what we are actually capable of doing.  The c...

Inner power is a state of mind. It's about fully tapping into your potential and believing that you have what it takes to figure things out and handle anything that comes your way.  The problem is that only a few of us use it since we either believe we don't possess such a skill or that the external world easily takes it away from us.  Fortunately, this is far from the truth.  Developing inner pow...

The reason why we often settle for things or people is that we are afraid that the next thing, job, business, or a person will be worse than what we have right now.  Instead of risking and taking a chance, we want a safe bet. But the seemingly safe option if often the one which stops us from growth but keeps us stuck.  In my private Facebook group "Women's Inner Power Circle",  one of my members a...

Last week, we talked about the desperation which comes from the desire to control outside circumstances. Today, we will focus on the desperation associated with people and their presence in our lives.  When we love and care about someone, it's natural to fear to lose them since they matter to us. But what about people who don't care about us and don't respect us? Why do we put them on some sort of...

One of the most common reasons we feel desperate is our desire to control external circumstances. We wish things could be easier or we feel entitled to a better life. If things don't go as planned, we get desperate and scared.  Desperation itself isn't an emotion that is beneficial to our growth unless we learn to let go and focus on building ourselves from the inside.  When we feel desperate, we...

One of the most powerful feelings you can have is stillness. When you are in the midst of chaos but still manage to feel still - that's power.  And this power comes from taking care of yourself and having spiritual hygiene in place. Think of this mental state as a happy medium - you aren't too calm and you aren't too excited. You are somewhere in the middle where you feel solid on the inside and f...

One of the most profound ways on how to embrace self-love and create deep relationships with others is by setting clear and healthy boundaries.  What often prevents us from setting boundaries is the fear of losing people. We are afraid that if we set higher standards or communicate what we aren't willing to tolerate, people will walk away.  The truth is that those who aren't willing to respect thi...

Living on auto-pilot means doing things or perform activities which you are so accustomed to and used to, you don't even think about them.  Let's take driving, taking a shower or brushing your teeth. Those are activities that you want to perform with ease in order to avoid feeling overwhelmed. That's when your auto-pilot mode comes handy.  The problem is that we do things on auto-pilot in so many...

During challenging times, when we aren't in our best or feel overly stressed out, we tend to lose focus and postpone our goals.  As much I understand that stress and uncertainty may impact your mindset and performance, this is the time to double down on your goals, your focus and your personal growth.  You aren't born to "chill." You are here to challenge yourself and grow. The world didn't stop -...

Uncertainty itself doesn't cause as much stress as the desire to control. The inability to control situations or people is what brings us suffering since it leaves us to feel hopeless and desperate.  The only aspect in any given situation you can manage is you, your thoughts and therefore your emotions. That should be your focus at all times. Uncertainty will always be present in your life whether...

Many of us try to change things by altering our external world instead of doing the inner work first.  The quality of your life stands on your mindset. Instead of controlling things that are out of your control, learn how to manage your thoughts and feelings which you have full control over. No matter where you came from or how many limiting beliefs you've adopted over the years, you can always ch...

There are two ways to deal with challenges, daily demands or things that frustrate us and bother us: we either escape or we elevate.  Frankly, there isn't anything wrong with occasional escaping by grabbing a cocktail with your bestie or crushing on the couch and watching a funny movie.  But if you escape more than you elevate, if you numb your emotions and lack of fulfillment by overeating, subst...

There is a difference between being physically alone and feeling lonely. While time alone allows us to reflect and relax, loneliness makes us feel like we don't belong and there isn't anyone who understands us. Our feeling of loneliness comes down to one important thing: the quality of our relationships. Strong connections bring people together since they create a deep sense of belonging. However,...

You develop self-respect through actions and behaviors which support your values and match your blueprint.  In other words, if you are behaving in a way that is aligned with your standards, you will naturally respect yourself.  We often look at other people and ask for or demand respect. If we don't get it, we blame them. We feel like they should respect us when in fact, respect starts with you an...

One of my good friends once said: "If we didn't have all the lows in life, the highs wouldn't seem so high." The main problem with hitting rock bottom is our expectation that we shouldn't be in this situation at the first place. This idea of pain-free life creates suffering which doesn't allow us to see the benefits and lessons.  Pain isn't optional but suffering is.  Can you imagine that you look...

If someone asks me what is the most powerful skill we can develop, I will say it's self-reflection. Being able to reflect on your shortcomings and change them is power.  One of the most common topics on the internet these days is how to deal with toxic people. But what if we tolerate toxicity and drama in our lives because we are toxic? I know, that's some hard look in the mirror moment, isn't it?...

Many negative emotions that bring discomfort are a result of our expectations that life should be always good, we should be always happy and positive.  Often, it's not discomfort itself that causes pain but also our perception of what discomfort represents for us.   If we see discomfort as a burden, we will suffer. If we see it as a currency, we can learn to manage practically anything from losing...

One of the well-respected coaches once said: "When you change the way how you see the world, your world changes." The main focus of every coaching session I have with my clients is to help them see what they can't see, to make them understand that their potential truly has no limits and to show them how to build the most powerful mindset.  One of the very effective ways to do that is to ask them q...

The most common reason people give up on their dreams and goals is that they love the reward but not the process.  Many of us have this "how-to" mentality. We think that what we need is the structure or a step-by-step process on how to achieve what we want.  But that's not all. Every person's growth is different. Every process is unique and often challenging at times.  If you want to succeed, if y...

Perfectionism is an unattainable goal. You can't touch it or feel it or reach it.  When the desire for improvement turns into an obsession to be and act perfect, constant feeling of not being "good enough" creeps in because what you are striving for doesn't exist.  Any growth, whether personal or professional will be one of the most imperfect things you will experience because growth itself is mes...

Anytime you work towards a worthwhile goal or something big and exciting, you have to understand that you won't always feel motivated.  Big goals bring challenges and obstacles and these situations won't always feel pleasant. You'll feel discouraged, frustrated or tired. Motivation won't be there but your willpower will. Use that instead.  In today's podcast episode, I am going to break down the m...

There are two types of pain we can experience. One comes from growth, the other comes from regret.  The problem is that many of us are looking for constant happiness and instant gratification. We want to feel good all the time without realizing that real growth and fulfillment comes from overcoming challenges and feeling uncomfortable.  Here is the truth that many people don't want to accept: you...