Courage Within You with Silvia Turonova

We don't heal through judgment while inflicting more guilt on ourselves for the choices we make. We do it by understanding what happened to us and taking responsibility for our healing by consciously changing our self-sabotaging habits. For most of us, the results of our survival mechanism won't make lots of sense to our adult logical selves. Self-betrayal or self-sabotage is, in fact, the protect...

Is there such a thing as knowing too much? Can we miss out on profound moments of healing and growth because we try to crack the complex code of our mental and emotional recovery while overlooking the simplicity of this process? In today's episode, I will take you back to the basics of what it means to transform your life and heal your past one thought at a time. Although disciplining your mind ma...

How do you make yourself feel good when facing challenging times, and do you even allow yourself to feel good in the first place? Today's podcast episode was inspired by my past 2 weeks when I felt like I was on an emotional rollercoaster while struggling to find any inner balance or peace. I realized how my spiritual practice allowed me to get through these weeks with more calm and ease and remin...

A couple of weeks ago, I published my first self-love meditation to heal your inner child. Since many of you enjoyed it, I decided to create a little bit longer meditation for self-soothing and bringing more joy and inner peace into your life. This is a great meditation if you need a little more care and a little more nurturing.  "It's not through healing that you will love yourself. It's through...

You come into this world as a super cute, adorable, perfect, playful, lovable, and carefree baby. Your soul is pure and your heart wide open. But then… Life happens. Suddenly you find yourself in your adulthood, considering whether you should get a therapist, move to California, go to one of the anonymous meetings or lie to yourself and pretend that everything is fine. Since you are here, I assume...

I am thrilled to share the 10-minute meditation on self-love and connecting with your inner child.  Healing Through Meditation  During the years of my healing, I tried many tools and techniques to learn how to heal my past while developing a more loving relationship with myself. I am honored to be able to share these tools with you and help you on your healing journey.  I've tried many ways to hea...

I am sure you tried many ways, read tons of books, and listened to podcasts and videos on how to love yourself, how to see your worth, and how, at the same time, to heal yourself. Or, perhaps, you stumbled here by accident (or by choice) and want to learn how to overcome the never-ending spiral of self-sabotage, people-pleasing, and self-punishment.  No matter where you are on your journey, one of...

Previously, I mentioned to you that I created a free self-coaching worksheet as a way to teach you how to develop this life-altering skill, and I am also providing you with nine questions to coach yourself. Click HERE to get the worksheet. In today's episode, I want to talk more on this topic since coaching has exponentially transformed my life, and I have seen many people who created significant...

One of the most common patterns I observed during my growth and the growth of my friends and my clients is that once we start healing and growing, we are overly harsh on ourselves. We believe we shouldn't be feeling the way we feel, we shouldn't be acting in old ways, and we should be better than we are. As I always say, growth is an imperfect process, and occasional emotional relapse or stagnatio...

One of the most common struggles people share with me is the fear of healing or growing. At first, it may sound counterintuitive since we all want to be happy, positive, and peaceful since that's what growing and healing provide. However, if we bottled up too much for too long , looking at the truth of who we are or the truth of our situation terrifies us. Although the fear of healing and growth i...

Perfectionism is a desire not to be seen for who we are but to hide and pretend that we are someone we are not. Perfectionism is based on fear. Often, we strive for it since we don't want to fail or be seen who we are - with our failures, shortcomings, weaknesses AKA imperfections. The most common fear is the fear of failure. But there is also fear of rejection, unworthiness or not being good enou...

For many of us, it's uncomfortable to admit that we are "playing around," not doing the work we know we have to do while being stuck at the same place in life. Once we admit that we are the ones standing in our way, what's left? There isn't anyone to blame or point fingers at, and we are challenged to take responsibility. So if you feel that you are struggling right now, that the same situations k...

When we choose to lie to ourselves and stay in denial, it's because we don't want to see the truth about ourselves or others. These lies give us instant gratification, take away responsibility, allow blame while at the same time, we are betraying ourselves. We do that because the truth seems to be too much to handle. But without being 100% honest with yourself, you can't grow. Growth is confrontin...

There is so much wisdom, teaching, and opportunities in pain or hardships we are going through. But since we are such emotional beings often driven by what we feel, we overlook the lesson and look for the nearest exit or instant gratification instead. Then we wonder why some of the lessons keep repeating themselves over and over. In todays' episode, I will share with you a 4-step process on how to...

Hello, my beautiful soul. When we blame, we give our power to someone or something else, and our emotional and mental state depends on external circumstances. But when we choose to take responsibility for our life, it's like saying, "I am in charge, and I am taking my power back." There are two types of self-responsibility. One is what I call "artificial responsibility and then there is what I cal...

People who experience traumas, fight the feeling of abandonment, struggle to see their worth or their value will often settle for less without recognizing it. You may find yourself in toxic relationships, constantly wrapped up in the drama, tolerating things you don't feel comfortable with, or taking abuse while never questioning it since it feels like home. But when someone who has healed or have...

In the previous episode, I talked about what emotional armor is and the reasons many of us carry this guard to protect ourselves from hurt, pain, or disappointment. But as we already learned, emotional armor is a product of our fear - fear to get hurt or fear to feel pain. We develop this coping mechanism since we haven't healed certain parts of ourselves, haven't overcome our traumas, or haven't...

In today's episode, I want to talk to all of my tough cookies, who are carrying this illusionary shield, or as I call it, the "emotional guard" for protection. We guard up because we got hurt. Since we don't want to feel this way again, we armor up, hoping it will protect us from experiencing this pain again. Do you know what I found out, my friend? This guard is nothing but an illusion, and it's...

Well, hello there, my beautiful soul. In today's episode, I will teach you how to build emotional resilience but before I dive deeper, let me give you a simple definition of what it means. Emotional resilience is the ability to adapt to stressful situations and cope with life's ups and downs. Resilience does not eliminate stress or erases life's difficulties but allows you to tackle or accept prob...

Any transformation or growth requires one essential skill, and that's self-awareness. Self-awareness is the willingness to see and acknowledge who you are, with all your imperfections, toxic traits, wounds, strengths, and weaknesses. Being aware is about being responsible for your life, thoughts, emotions, and actions. To me, my friend, that's power. Many of us fear acknowledging the truth about w...

One of the most common questions or concerns people share with me is how to properly deal with what we call the "hard stuff." Since our desire to feel good, to feel happy and excited about life is strong, our desire to stop feeling sad, depressed, or betrayed is even greater. But when we push those uncomfortable emotions away and try to drink away, binge away, or work away from our pain, what we a...

For many of us, the idea of "How do I love myself?" is a million-dollar question. I will answer it in today's episode since there has been a lot I learned in these past months. Look at self-love as a skill you want to learn and develop. Like any skill, it takes a little bit of time and practice to get it "right" or become more familiar with it. For me, self-love requires three things - awareness,...

Have you ever left a relationship, a job, or a situation and couldn't understand why you stayed in it for so long even though it wasn't good for you? You may be asked yourself "Why did I tolerate it?" As human beings, we are flexible. We adapt, we blend in, we change and we adjust to whatever situation we are in if we are in it long enough. And whatever seemed once unacceptable, becomes insignific...

How often do you find yourself in constant doubt when it comes to your decisions? You are going back and forth between multiple options, then consult your problems with numerous people, gather seven different opinions while feeling even more confused and unsure than at the beginning.  So often, people come to me and ask me; "What should I do? What is the best thing I can do?" And I always tell the...

Developing a support system for yourself is one of the fundamental ways on how to work towards transformation and overcome personal challenges. When we talk about the support system, we often refer to our family or friends, our therapist, coach, or a mentor. Although the support of your environment is essential for effective growth, what can you do, personally, to support yourself? Your support sy...