couples in focus

In this episode of Couples in Focus , Thomas and Michael unpack one of the most critical yet challenging aspects of any relationship—understanding and expressing your needs. Why do we often hesitate to voice what we truly need? What stops us from being honest with our partner about our desires, fears, and expectations? 🧠💔 Join us as we explore: The importance of self-awareness in identifying you...

Summary In this episode, Thomas Westenholz and Michael Preston discuss the common scenario where one partner is eager to pursue couples therapy while the other is resistant. They explore the reasons behind this resistance, emphasizing the importance of understanding and compassion. The conversation covers effective communication strategies, the significance of timing when discussing therapy, and h...

Summary In this episode of the Couples in Focus podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Thomas Westenholz delve into the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on how small disagreements can escalate into significant arguments. They explore the underlying reasons for these escalations, including past experiences, communication gaps, and the emotional weight of words spoken during conflict...

Summary In this conversation, Thomas Westenholz and Michael Preston delve into the dynamics of anxious pursuers and avoidant partners in relationships. They explore how these attachment styles affect communication, emotional regulation, and the overall compatibility of couples. The discussion highlights the importance of recognizing relationship warning signs, understanding protection patterns, an...

Summary In this conversation, Michael Preston and Thomas Westenholz discuss the intricacies of emotional focus therapy (EFT) and the common relationship issues that arise in therapy. They explore the concept of communication issues, emphasizing that these often stem from deeper emotional cues and attachment styles. The discussion delves into the dynamics of pursuers and withdrawers in relationship...

Summary In this engaging conversation, Thomas Westenholz and Michael Preston delve into the intricacies of Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) and its profound impact on relationships. They explore the journey to EFT, the significance of attachment, the role of shame, and the importance of communication in fostering connection. The discussion highlights the transformative nature of therapy, emphasizin...