Couch Time with Amy Wine

Perfectionism can be a complete relationship killer.  And unfortunately, it is also very common. I counsel many couples in my practice that deal with a pattern of perfectionism in their relationship and as much as I hate to admit, I’ve also dealt with it in my own marriage.    So, how do we safeguard our most important relationships from the trap of perfectionism?    In this episode, we discuss pe...

This week’s episode will be a replay of one of the fan-favorite episodes! I will be talking about the nine transformations you want (and need!) to have in your marriage.  Some of these things might be going well for you and your spouse, while some of the others might need some serious work.  9 Transformations For Your Marriage: You want to calm down anger in your marriage  You want to reconnect wi...

We’ve all heard it said that the best defense is a great offense, right? Well, that is especially true when it comes to helping our kids maintain their health - both physically and mentally.    I am really excited for you to hear my conversation in this episode with Dr. Jonathan Gingell of ProCare Chiropractic & Sports Therapy.  Dr. “J” works extensively with athletes to help improve their hea...

Have you ever wondered how your physical health can impact your relationship?  I often do counseling sessions with couples where I refer them to see their medical practitioner for underlying health issues that can impact mood and energy levels. By improving their wellness, they often regain the motivation and energy to improve their marriage as well.  That’s why I am excited to hear from my guest...

Are you tired of arguing with your spouse and getting nowhere? Feeling like you’re never on the same page? If you and your spouse have different marital styles, those are going to be at the root of ALL your disagreements. Never heard of marital styles? Perfect! Then let’s get to work. I want to teach you how understanding your marital styles can strengthen your marriage and prevent unnecessary con...

Does work somehow keep getting in the way of your marriage? If you, your spouse, or even both of you are high-achieving professionals, that can put a lot of pressure on your relationship. Often in ways you don’t even notice!  T une in to learn the 10 areas that create problems in marriage for high-achieving couples and how to approach each one head-on so that you can be sure they aren’t causing la...

Have you wondered how to comfort your kids and teens during this COVID-19 pandemic? We are all navigating this together for the first time, and it can be hard to know what to say.    In this episode, I’ve sought out some advice on how to help our kids directly from the source. I’ve turned my podcast mic over to my oldest daughter Alison - a rising senior in social work at Belmont University - who...

Are you an entrepreneur who’s considering bringing your spouse on board to work with you in your business? This situation can be tricky to navigate in ANY marriage, and it’s best to carefully consider if it is right for you.  In this episode, we are joined by Ashley Shaw, who has learned from experience what it takes to successfully blend a busy life and entrepreneurship while working together wit...

In this episode, hear Jon and I uncover how we fall into the same Pursuer-Distancer trap and who plays which role. Listen to our unguarded conversation as we own our mistakes, share our crazy thoughts and inclinations, and reveal where the problem really lies.    On Today’s Episode, You’ll Discover: How the Coronavirus has impacted our family and business How a pursuer and distancer react differen...

How do abandonment issues in childhood affect your marriage? Do you tend to hold back from giving your marriage everything you've got? Maybe one of you is guilty of throwing out the “d” word one too many times.    In this episode, I am joined by Stephanie Fryer who is a student of the SPARK Re-Ignite beta course. Stephanie and her husband have been married for 26 years and have four children....

What do you do when you feel that your marriage isn't going to last? How do you learn to communicate again when you've only had years of either silence or arguments? How much does your upbringing affect how you interact with your spouse?   In this episode, let's hear the answers from someone who's been lost with those questions and is now making gradual marriage transformations...

How do you forgive, let go and rebuild trust after your spouse's affair? What can you do if your marriage has become like roommates stuck together? How do you achieve calm when your life is in chaos?   These are tough questions that need straight answers.   For today's episode, I have a special guest from the Spark Re-ignite Course, Jena Flores.  This is my chance to get to know her a li...

How are things going with your marriage and family since you’ve been in quarantine?  Have you gotten into a good flow or do things still feel chaotic? I wanted to bring Jon back on the podcast for this special episode and I know many of you will be excited because you have been asking for him!   The good news is that he is back and we are chatting about how we are learning to co-exist with four pe...

I know from experience that parenting is hard, especially in times of high stress, but people are coming together more now than they ever have before.     Taking a step back from rushing to school, work, and activities leaves us with time to communicate and spend time together as a family.  Ask yourself what you can be doing right now to make the best of your current situation.    I know it’s toug...

In our last episode, we talked about the circle of control that helps us stay positive during this period of crisis. This time, let's dive deep into one area that many people cringe just thinking about: Finances!   If you're like me, you may hate numbers and budgeting, but it's high time you do some diligence to better weather the storm we're in. Make sure to tune in to today’s...

These times are tough. It doesn't matter when it is going to end or what the government is going to do about it. Let's focus on YOU and HOW you are dealing with it.  Where are you struggling right now? What is something you can do to turn your mindset around and make things better during a time when things are hard?     In this episode, let's talk about your personal emotional well-...

Freedom and love are the foundation of a good marriage. But why do some seek to control their spouses? How do they do that? And if you're the controlling spouse, can you still break free, or set boundaries, from this damaging habit?   In today's episode, we are going to talk again about boundaries, but this time we're going to talk about one segment of boundaries in your marriage: c...

In football, going out-of-bounds means not making a score or losing a game. But if you're going out-of-bounds in your marriage, that means total tragedy!   In this episode, let's discuss seven of the most common problems married couples encounter because they fail to set boundaries. Discover how negative patterns of behavior, communication, and mindset can ultimately destroy your marriag...

Today is the day I focus on you, my dear listeners, as I answer and voice my opinion on some of your most frequently asked questions about marriage. Allow me to shed light on matters such as being friends with exes, marriage curfews (really now?), and trust issues.   I will also reveal a personal mistake you shouldn’t have to repeat.   Learn about jealousy, the urge to control and using sex, or th...

Do you see your life and relationships to be in constant chaos and drama? You often wonder, is it just bad luck or am I intentionally setting myself up for stress?   In this episode of Marriage on Fire, Jon joins me as we paint a picture of a truly chaotic day in our family life. Hear how chaos starts, how it escalates, and how you can react to it in a more productive way.  Jon and I also unravel...

When yelling and silence no longer work on your husband, is it time to give up? How can you establish a connection with someone who is emotionally unavailable?   In today’s episode of Marriage on Fire, I’m joined by Jon once again. It's about time we hear his side of things as we talk about how our conflicting family background has ingrained in us, habits and values we had to unlearn to save...

Does addiction mean your marriage has to end? How do you help the ones you love without enabling their destructive behavior?   In today’s episode of Marriage on Fire, I’m joined by licensed chemical dependency counselor intern, Adriana Wallace. Adriana works closely with clients at the Amy Wine Counseling Center, aiding in the process of overcoming the hold chemical dependency can have on individu...

What effects can our marital conflicts have on our children? And what can we do to decrease stress and boost intimacy regardless of family stressors and other outside factors? In this episode, I’m joined by my 18-year-old son and budding entrepreneur, Austin who offers a fresh take on marriage and parenting from the other side. I get his thoughts on marriage, conflict and he offers some blush-indu...

Are you feeling connected in your marriage? Or are you feeling disconnected?  Some days you may think things are going great and other times not at all.      I see couples come into my private practice all the time who are feeling disconnected.  One of the spouses feels like they are constantly the one who is trying to make things better, while the other might be withdrawing from the relationship....

Today on the podcast I will be talking about the nine transformations you want (and need!) to have in your marriage.  Some of these things might be going well for you and your spouse, while some of the others might need some serious work.  I have discussed these transformations with hundreds of couples in my private practice as well as close friends.       Make sure to tune in and stay until the e...