Conversations with Toi

Today's Sponsor is by Bruush an electronic toothbrush company. They are offering our listeners 15% off with code POD15 at https://bit.ly/3xe5g7S Staying the course even when giving up seems too easy and comfortable. Like Beyonce says winner doesn't quit on themselves. So we talk a very personal story where I had no choice but to stay the course. Self care go tos the week. What are they and how hav...

Sometimes we get so caught up in the admiration of others who we will are doing better than we are that we don't humble our eyesight. We don't know what someone has been through to get to where they are. We need to find a way to love ourselves a little more. Our condolences to DMX's Family and friends. We said last episode that we would keep him in our prayers and sadly he has passed. Black Lives...

We discuss the epic Verzuz TV battle between the Isley Brothers vs. Earth, Wind, and Fire. This was hosted by Steve Harvey who waited his entire life for this moment. Ya'll got to see Steve Harvey pretend he's the member of both groups Don't forget, Baxter Blue as discussed in the show, https://baxterblueglasses.pxf.io/3PeZDr to save 10% off a pair Did you hear the Nick Cannon song, No weapon feat...

Listen forgiveness and forging relationships at the same level as before...it doesn't always happen. We talk about counting up whether or not to forgive or not and what goes into the process and self-care through it all Here is the blog that goes along with this episode: https://toitime.org/national-reconciliation-day/ Also both vaccines complete how did I make out? Happy Easter weekend! Instagram...

Its been an entire media storm this week. Derrick Jaxn has been living an entire lie. He is a "relationship guru" who has sold a lot of women the story line of what to look forward to when they find the man of their dreams. Yet he is a living and walking nightmare. His wife is a victim. However in her eyes....listen in! Today's Episode is sponsored by The SkinStore. They are offering our listeners...

This week we had to discuss the accountability of when parents go left. Also kids can go left too. Such as the perceived notion of the leaked snippet of Kirk Franklin and his grown son. Can parents push kids grown or not too far? We discuss this as well as accountability of owning yourself. This week I had a personal blow up that was seasoned from childhood silent treatment tactics. Today's sponso...

This has been a year to remember. A year of loss and emotional ups and downs. The hardest part is not being able to see loved ones. Watching my children lose their social skills and being in the house for the betterment of the year. The joys have been there as well. Although a large majority of my extended family had Covid-19 we were safe. Reminding myself of that point daily has been crucial. Thi...

Trigger alert! This notion that elders are incapable of bad vibes or even bad intentions have to be dispelled. Even with that in mind, you can disengage with a parent and not out right disrespect them. You can stand up for yourself and not hit below the belt. We talk about this culture of embarrassing children on social media channels. It's disheartening to say the least. I understand being a pare...

First comes love than marriage, than the baby in the baby carriage or something like that. What happens when the love of your love wants to stop having kids and you may or may not want to? Do you get your tubes tied out of his request or benefit of your health for a man who asked for your hand in marriage but isn't your husband? That man now has had more babies with his new wife because changing o...

Its amazing for those who have a desire to experience motherhood to hold that baby for the first time. Unchecked trauma can creep almost instantly. Having to be told by a child that your delivery is of off putting can be hard to swallow. Parenthood comes with a lot of gut checks and laying the ego down to give a child what they really need Blac Chyna's mom goes on a rampage calling her all kinds o...

I interviewed Ms. Katrina Hall of Philadelphia, PA. She is an actor, director, and playwright. She is Phoenix Theatre's 2021 Virtual Artist in Residence. Listen in as we discuss the production and the surrounding themes such as forgiveness, relationship, and how religion can sometimes influence us good or bad. Get tickets here: http://www.thephoenixtheatrepa.com./ The play runs from Friday Februar...

We had to talk about the Gorilla Glue incident as well as Trey Songz. I am married not blind. However we do talk about adulting and the 3 things that got me through this hectic week. We all need some practical things that we can do in addition to therapy. Happy Love Week. This week is full of emotions. Some couples fight more this week too. So don't think everyone is as in love as they post their...

Who doesn't know a difficult person? We have them all around us. From being contentious to down right rude the world needs a spirit lift. We talk about how to navigate around them We also discuss therapy for the week. What were the easy parts and how navigating towards your healthiest mindset can be an asset to everyone. Grown grown-that point in my your life where you no longer deal with folks ex...

When I moved from my small town of Lancaster to Philly I didn't think I would last 2 weeks let alone 10 years. Here we are showing up for myself, exploring life, raising a family, and becoming whole! Cheers to 10 years and many more adventures! Also check out the podcast featuring my husband as we talk mental health it will make more sense as you listen to both: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podca...

Quintessence Theatre Presents The Little Princess by Frances Hodgson Burnett. Renea Brown plays Sara a young lady who is sent to a boarding school while her father is at war. He is pretty well off so while there he showers her with lavish gifts. One day he died and didn't leave anything for her care at the Boarding School and well that's when things goes left.... I interviewed Renea to find out wh...

What a week. It was the longest shortest week. However it was full of amazing history. We have a new President and in the first time in history we have a woman, a Black woman, and an Asian American woman in office. For all of the little girls who dream big dreams-its their time to shine Catching up with the week with self care tips and this weeks joys and pitfalls. Learning to apply the lessons of...

So many times we aren't able to see that we have an issue. When we do it's up to us to take personal responsibility for our actions. Let's keep it real, adulting sucks but must be done. Social media round up-y'all knees strong enough for the Buss it challenge? I personally didn't get my Meg Thee Stallion knees for Christmas so that's a NO for me. Also New "IT" couple Lory Harvey and Michael B Jord...

What an entire week?! Welcome 2021 or something like that. We talk about falling and what grace comes from that. Of course with a New Year, everyone is doing all kinds of new diets, fads, or putting in new systems-what about sleep?! We talk about the melee that took place at the Capital-I got thoughts Remember you can always get more content by following at www.toitime.org

We are only a few days away from 2021. Am I the only one who is scared? Pure craziness of what lie ahead is like the land of the unknown. We discuss Christmas and the stress that unfolded. Therapy has been intense however super necessary. Goal setting in 2021 what does that look like? A quick bonus episode as we prepare for whatever the New Year brings!

You know how crazy 2020 has been what will 2021 bring? I don't know but I hope it is coming in right. Do we burn planners and kill dreams? Nope! We do our part to be the best version of ourselves and adjust as we need to. Also a lookback at the great things that 2020 brought since 2020 had enough negativity in it. Merry Christmas-7 days to go we will be back January 8th with a bonus in between!

As we get closer to the holidays and more and more of us are missing our family I share my memories, tips, etc. to help us get through Memories are what keeps us close to loved ones present and transitioned! What are your favorite memories that make you smile, angry, or sad? Its okay to feel it all!

Watched Iyanla Vanzant episode with Lisa Raye and I share my thoughts. What is the concept of Proverbs 31 woman is it just to be a stay at home wife or mother? Also holiday traditions and expectations.... We extend season 2 to support others during the start of seasonal depression. We talk about therapy and how vital it is to healing. How would you deal with abandonment from your mother?

Who starts Thanksgiving with Therapy? I do. It was helpful and necessary. I don't let any one shame me in needing therapy etc. So if you need it you better get it. We talk about the actual social distant day as well as the weekend plans to shop small, local, and minority owned. Happy Thanksgiving and enjoy the weekend and time

Thanksgiving is being served with a dose of Lockdown 2.0. The way in which we here in Philadelphia will be eating smaller meals as we aren't able to get together with loved ones. We also talk about comedian Mo'Nique who says that the real reason she calls her husband "daddy" is because he is raising her Anxiety Triggered this week and I am not sure if it had to do with the lockdown or just normal...

I was paying attention long enough to buy toilet paper and not enough to know that a potential lock down is on the full horizon. I have had more panic attacks than a little bit Social media round up-where do the miserable nap? Somebody grab they Pastor....John Gray out here apololizing (I spelled it correctly) again, Celebrating 6 years of blogging and I talk about staying in my lane.