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Freedom to be yourself, to be true to who you are is liberating, it's beautiful, and it should be welcomed, embraced, and enjoyed. “I don't need to have my hands " held" to live/ navigate the world. Being true to myself is the most liberating thing I've ever done. I enjoy being older than my 20s” Demida.

There is something very wrong when children intentionally kill and show no remorse.

I find that one of the most misconstrued words in English is intimacy. Intimacy is not sex, though sex is a part of it it’s much more than the physical aspect. In my chat with Pako and Dineo Tlou we look at different areas of intimacy- enjoy!.

This is the third and final session of the Post-Covid Career Prep with Femi Bolaji. Femi puts all the sessions together with guidance on equipping oneself and preparing for the next step.. She unpacks the "bucket of competencies" that will be necessary to survive in the post-covid workplace,

This is Part 2 of Session 2 What exactly are soft skills? Leadership, Communication, Collaboration and more, Femi expands on them as she continues to guide us to work in the new normal . #softskills #postcovidcareerprep #learningagility

Continuing the interview with Femi Bolaji, International HR Management Consultant. In this session we focus on What Skills are needed to be “who you need to be” ( session 1). What exactly are soft skills? Leadership, Communication, Collaboration and more, Femi expands on them as she continues to guide us to work in the new normal . #softskills #postcovidcareerprep #learningagility Invest in yourse...

Automation. Atomisation. Augumentation These are not just buzzwords, rather words that we need to familiarise ourselves with in the new post-Covid workplace. Are you ready to emerge from the cocoon of your coach/bed office? Do you have what it takes to: COVID changed every aspect of life. Literally. In this series of Podcasts (3 in all), we will focus on the career aspects of these changes. What h...

Over the years the description of what the family is has changed, and yet some of have been the same but we just didn’t give it a name. So there was always the nuclear family, the step family and what we now call the blended family we just didn’t name that particular one. To clarify, a Step-family have parent or parents who come into a marriage with kids from previous relations but none together....

I can’t be a Karen, I am not a Karen, yet my peeves list is growing, and I need to vent. There are so many more important things to worry about but they are so out of my control and nothing I can do about them so… I may not be able to change any of these peeves either, but I can rant and vent on; hem lengths, bad manners and unisex changing rooms

Parenting a teenager can feel like having an alien in the house. To parent a teenager in a world that encouraging sexual freedom requires the wisdom of Solomon. What will you do if you find our your teen is sexually active.

I had a smile plastered on my face throughout this interview, with Granny Pat it’s always love, laughter, hugs and coffee! At a few weeks shy of 82, Patricia Matthes aka Granny Pat is an incredible woman; wife, mother, and grandmother to dozens of children, biological and “adopted”. She has and continues to touch lives with godly wisdom, sensible advice, straight forward common sense!

When couples stand before God and family and say their Marriage Vows, is it just a ritual, or are the vows meant to be kept?

We conclude Fathers month chatting with these incredible young men, Bongani Masilela and Thami Pooe are role models for the younger generation and game changers for theirs. They speak frankly about growing up in a free South Africa, their relationships with their fathers and how they will parent.

Pastor Tim Grage is a father of two incredible adult-ish children. What’s his secret? He unpacks for us what he and his wife have tried, tested, what has worked and what can be done to enrich relationships between parents and their children. Parenting rules of engagement has changed to the extent that it can sometimes feel like navigating a field of uncharted land mines. We live in a global villag...

Being a dad is more than biology. In a world of baby-daddies, absent fathers, men with multiple baby-mamas, men who live up to the true calling of a father are gold, a treasure to have and to hold onto. A true father has enormous influence over their child’s life, determines his/her future. A father’s role can not be under estimated, in a world of chaos children find an anchor, a safe place, love,...

Ndia Madagadela lives life to the fullest. In personal, family, and her business live she’s gone through broken them and is flying high.

The issue of abortion is a very sensitive one, for the person going though the procedure, having to come to that decision. When should it be permissible to have an abortion? Is there ever a right reason? Who should make a decision about getting an Abortion? Government? Politician? Family? Affected person?

One of the most difficult topic to talk about is Grief. It’s something that affects everyone, young or old, it has no boundaries, and yet it’s something we just cannot prepare for or guard against. Everyone reacts differently and some people are emotionally touched that their mental state is destroyed or so impaired that they never recover from it. Is there any advice, any word that can make it si...

What is the purpose of female circumcision? Why are girls subjected to it? What is the benefit to the child? How do we stop the blood letting?

This was first posted on my YouTube page. The shock of the slap given by Will Smith to Chris Rock is still vibrating round the world. Not only that it was done but also done publicly. The genesis of the slap is lost to most of us, for there is surely more to it than the unsavoury joke made by Chris Rock. I don’t support the actions of either of men but I am a bit concerned about some of the commen...

Kone Gugushe is a ball of positive energy, if I could call an adult a bundle of joy then that’s who she is. Mum, wife, daughter, friend and very busy executive, how does she do it?

RAPE: the crime, typically committed by a man, of forcing another person to have sexual intercourse with the offender against their will. This crime is made worse when the person committing the crime is the one that is supposed to protect, Where is the escape? How does one move on from here? Is there hope for a normal life after this heinous crime?

We have to speak out, on this issue silence is not golden. Gender-based violence must not be stigmatized. The shame is not that of the victim but the abuser and yet the abuser is without remorse. Gender-based violence is a scourge on society, if one person is affected we are all affected. The occurrence of GBV has increased in recent years, made worse with the lockdown worldwide. This is not limit...

I know you mean well but...there are times when love and concern are better shown by not speaking. Times when words and actions tend to scratch places that are already tender. They are unwanted and unwelcome, how do we navigate those instances?

This was initially posted as a video on my YouTube channel last year. I have edited it slightly but the main message has not changed. I find that women are not as tolerant of each other as we should be, we disregard, belittle of just ignore the very thing that makes us different from men - our display of emotions. When we bruise other women emotionally we are all the less for it.