Coaching Your Family Relationships

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #051 – Is My Child Identifying as LGBTQ a Phase? Heather Frazier from Pivot Parenting Podcast is a good friend of mine and is also a fellow life coach who specializes in coaching parents of teens. In this episode we discuss one of the common things we have parents say to us, which is parents saying they think their child id...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #050—Doing hard things makes life easier My website: tinagosney.com Doing easy things makes life hard. Doing hard things makes life easy. This especially applies to how we approach our relationships with our family members. When you allow yourself to be reactionary to things that happen, you create a harder situation for yo...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #049 – Recognizing Grief and How it Shows Up, with Stephanie Pickle Grief comes when you lose something that was important to you. It doesn’t just come when someone we love dies, it shows up at other times in our lives when we lose something we value or when our life takes a different turn than we expected, and we lose the...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #48 - Conditional vs Unconditional Love Most people think they know how to unconditionally love the people in their lives. They think they know what that looks like. But, most people have never received unconditional love from anyone in their life, so they don’t actually know what it looks like. This episode details the dif...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #047 - Mothers - Stop Setting Yourself Up for Failure This is the second episode in a two part series. Listen to part 1: Episode 46 -  Investing in the Mother is Vital to the Health of the Family Mother’s Day is only a couple of days away, and if you’re like most mothers, you’re NOT looking forward to it.  Maybe Mother’s Da...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #046 - Investing in the Mother is Vital to the Health of the Family Are you a mother who prioritizes everyone and everything before yourself? If you’re feeling the effects of perfectionism, mom guilt, identity crisis, or burnout, this episode will help you learn why you want to begin putting yourself on the priority list. P...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #045 - 3 Reasons You Are Struggling Because of Unmet Expectations The #1 one thing I hear in my coaching sessions is that my clients have unmet expectations in their relationships and they feel terrible because of it. Emotions like: frustration, disappointment, anger, sadness and they get stuck feeling those emotions becaus...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #044 - Let's Talk About "All Things New" by Fiona and Terryl Givens Language is important. The meanings of words are important. This book by the Givens explains how many of the words we use at church do not mean what we traditionally think they mean. The words we use are wounding many members, especially our...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #043 - Stop Reacting and Start Responding When you react from a really emotional state, you can do some damage to the people around you, and then you end up regretting how you showed up. In this episode with Micah Gosney, we'll show you some ways we have reacted and flipped our lids and how we  show up differently now...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #042—The Power of Curiosity Having trouble not being reactive to the people in your life? Do you find it hard to find patience and love for others when they are not showing you patience and love? When it’s hard to find love, it can be easier to find and hold the emotion of curiosity. This undervalued and underestimated emot...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #041 – What the Heck is Trauma at Church?! A conversation with Lindsay Poelman As I have recently learned about how trauma shows up in our lives, in many different ways, and how it affects the ways we then interact with our world, I began to see how trauma has showed up in my life, and in my family members’ lives. I have al...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #040 - Exhausting Yourself with Worry About Your Child Are you a parent who spends lots of time and mental and emotional energy worrying about your children? Worrying is a useless emotion and does nothing but cause problems. It causes parents to show up dismissive, controlling, disapproving, and disagreeable. Showing up thi...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #039 – Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Kids The healthiest relationships have the strongest boundaries. If you are a parent who has trouble establishing boundaries with your adult children, this is your podcast. It can be hard to set a boundary, and then it can also be hard to uphold a boundary once you set it. Often, we...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #038 – Saying Things You Wish You Never Would Have Said We’ve all had times when we said something very unkind in the heat of the moment, and it causes damage to a relationship. Sometimes it just seems so hard to control the words that come out of our mouths, and then we have such a terrible feeling afterwards, thinking, “I...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #037- Love and Peace with Your LGBTQ+ Child, with Meagan Skidmore If you are the parent of an LGBTQ+ child, chances are, that there has been a time when you have felt like your entire world has crumbled and you're trying to put the pieces back together. Or, maybe you're in the middle of that right now, and don&apo...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #036 - Barriers that Get in the Way of Us Loving Others Your ability to love others will directly affect the quality of the relationship you have with them. There are barriers to feeling loving feelings, and those are common across the board. In this episode I’ll give you 3 of the main barriers to love and why you will want...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #035 - Unconditional Love No Matter What Sometimes it's hard to find love for other people. Sometimes those people who are hard to love are in our own families. This episode is all about finding unconditional love for others, from family members to complete strangers. Loving other people is much more about where you ar...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #033 – When Parenting Brings up Shame Even the best of parents has a hard time not allowing their child’s choices to define something about themselves—good or bad. We all get caught up to some degree in Parenting Comparisonitis. The truth is, when your child makes choices you like, you can’t take all the responsibility for...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #032 - Sara Brewer and Overcoming Pornography It's hard to find a person in the church that hasn't been affected by pornography in one form or another. It's part of the world we live in, and it's infecting our families in so many ways. Sara Brewer, a fellow life coach, is doing so much good in this area...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #031 - What Being Emotionally Mature Looks Like in Your Life It’s really easy to be reactionary with your family members. We have patterned ways of dealing with problems and with each other and breaking those patterns can be difficult. One of the problems the patterns provide us is that we get stuck not allowing ourselves o...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #030 – The Most Efficient and Effective Way to Help Your Family in 2022 The way we usually try to help people is not usually the most effective way to help them, and we don’t even realize there is a better way. In this episode, I’ll talk about a more effective way to help them, and to have influence on the people you love....

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #029 What to Do When You and Your Spouse Disagree About Your Child This episode is taken from a class I taught earlier in 2021 because I saw so many of my clients coming to their sessions and talking about how the disagreements they were having with their spouse when it came to decisions about how to handle parenting issues...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #028--Finding Joy in the Middle of Really Difficult Circumstances When life gets hard, it’s difficult to find any joy in it. I see more and more people going through very difficult circumstances, and I don’t see them getting any easier, so let’s figure out how to have joy in the middle of those hard things. You don’t need t...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #027 - How Parenting Detours Affect Your Marriage, with Aimee Gianni Sometimes the parenting road is pretty smooth and easy, and sometimes it gets really rocky. It can almost feel like there’s no road at all and you have to pave a new path in some uncharted territory. When that happens, there’s bound to be some differing op...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast #026 – When you say, "It's All My Fault” If there’s one universal thing I hear clients say, it’s, “This is all my fault,” as they list all the ways they think they have failed their child. It’s not helpful to think this way and thinking this way doesn’t lead you to any resolution, it just keeps you stuck right whe...