Coaching Your Family Relationships

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 150 Questions from Listeners about Establishing Healthy Boundaries The questions asked in this episode were some of the questions asked in the Boundary Boot Camp held July 2024.  Questions asked in this episode: 1.      I say YES to things I don’t want to do, and I don’t really have time for. I feel so guilty saying...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 149 – The One Virtue You Can Cultivate That Will Change the Foundation of Your Relationships When you interact with your family or in your marriage, do you operate under the assumption that the other person is doing the best they know how to do? The assumption that they love you and don’t mean you harm? What if you...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 148 - Perfectionism Damages Our Self-esteem and Cripples Our Growth We live in a society that tells us it is not OK to make mistakes or show weakness. Perfectionism is our society’s favorite flaw and is celebrated, but it is really damaging our self-esteem because we will always make mistakes - we’re human! No wonde...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 147 – Why Your Self-esteem Has Such a Big Impact on Your Relationships The way YOU feel about YOU affects the way you treat other people and the way you show up in your relationships. Your worth is not something you create, it’s something you discover. But, unless you know some tools to manage your brain, you will k...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 146 -  How to Connect in a Healthier Way with Your Family Through Proper Boundaries  This episode is not about keeping people out of your life, it’s about how to keep them in your life in a healthier way. Our culture today is more divisive than ever, and that is showing up in our homes. More adult children and teena...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode #145 Moving Out of Co-dependency and Into a More Mature Relationship  Co-dependency and enmeshment are common ways of relating to each other in our families. Most families value same-ness. We want to be the same as the other people in our families in order to feel like we belong and are accepted. Until something in...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 144 - Conflict in Marriage - Listeners' Questions Answered Questions sent in by listeners. There were some really great questions asked in this episode. Interestingly, each question had to do with an unresponsive spouse.   We will often get stuck in a situation and not know how to do something different. The an...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 143 - Dealing with Uncertainty and the Anxiety it Creates When you have a situation in your life and family and you don’t know how it’s going to turn out and if everything will go the way you want it to, that is uncertainty and will surely cause you some anxiety, maybe even some fear. The reactions we usually go to...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 142 – How to Stop Polluting the Ecosystem of Your Relationship What we dump into our relationships will affect the health of that relationship. We will breathe in what we put in. If we are putting in resentment, anger, passive-aggressiveness, we will breathe in the effects of that. This episode addresses how to stop...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 141 – The Best Way to Share Your Self-Development with Others If you are excited about your self-development journey, and you find yourself sharing (uninvited) with others, wanting the people you love and care about to have these tools and feel better, just like you’ve learned, that is normal. But, when we share uni...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 140 - Ask Me Anything - Listeners Questions Answered Questions sent in by listeners. There were some really great questions asked in this episode – ones that most people can relate to.  The answers to these questions are a starting point. We will often get stuck in a situation and not know how to do something differ...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 139 - 7 Common Emotional Mistakes In this episode, I’m highlighting the most common emotional mistakes I’ve seen my clients make. We experience our lives through our emotions, and these mistakes keep us from fully experiencing our lives.  1.       Thinking our emotions are a problem we need to solve. 2.       Thinki...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 138 – What’s the Difference between Coaching and Therapy? If you have been wondering what coaching is and how it differs from therapy, I dive into that topic in this episode. Therapy has been around for a long time, and many people are familiar with what therapy will help with. Coaching has been around for decades,...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 137 – Have a Difficult Conversation without Your Emotions Taking Over If you’ve been putting off having a conversation because you get emotional and forget what you want to say, or you break down, or anger takes over, this episode is for you. It’s most likely no one ever taught you how to talk about difficult topics...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 136 - A Different View of Forgiveness Are you someone who gets stuck in thoughts about how you’ve been hurt and have trouble letting go of that hurt? If that’s you, this is your episode.  In this episode, I’ll give you a different view of why you might be stuck and how to begin moving forward. Want help processing y...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 135 - Developing Differentiation with Gina - Client Spotlight Differentiation is the ability to hold onto who we are in an authentic way when we are staying in connection with other people and doing that in an emotionally and mentally mature way.  My client, Gina, has been working on developing the skill of Differen...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 134 - How to Not Take Your Hard Week Out on Your Family Have you had a hard week? Do you feel depleted and have nothing left to give? Has your brain and/or body shut down because you just can’t do any more than you’re already doing? If this is you, listen to this episode for five things you can do right now to begin...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 133 – Is it Conflict or Contention? Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but contention is not. What do you do when you find yourself in conflict with a member of your family? The way you view them and you will determine if you’re escalating into contention. In this episode, I review the Gottman Institute’s Four...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 132 – Defensiveness The seventh Losing Strategy is being defensive. When we get defensive, we are going to war with the other person. We put on our armor and we gather our weapons. Defensiveness comes from our inability or our refusal to take a look at ourselves and self-confront. It is also one of the 4 horsemen th...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 131 – Resentful or Costly Accommodation The sixth Losing Strategy is Resentful or Costly Accommodation. This happens when we collapse who we are into what we think other people want us to be. We deny our own needs and desires, and we give up or refuse to look at what is important to us. Resentment can easily set in...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 130 - Withdrawing from a Relationship The fifth Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Withdrawal. When we withdraw from a relationship, we are disinvesting in it. When we are criticizing and fighting, we are still invested in the relationship. Withdrawal is a sign that we’ve given up and are no longer giv...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 129 - Punishment and Retaliation – Losing Strategy #4 The fourth losing relationship strategy is Punishment and retaliation. This can show up in covert and overt ways, but at its core, we turn ourselves into a victim of the other person and we are then feeling justified in withholding approval and affection, or even...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 128 Unbridled Self-expression The third Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Unbridled Self-expression. When you were growing up, was there someone in your home who ruled the atmosphere of the home with the way their words or emotions came spilling out? What was that like for you? When we allow ourselves...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast Episode 127 - The Sneaky Ways You Are Trying to Control Other People Part 2 of Losing Relationship Strategies is all about how we try to control the way other people think of us, the way we try to control what other people do, and how we are trying to control situations in our lives because we can’t handle our own anxieties...

Ask a question, send us a message, or let us know how you like the podcast 126 - Needing to be Right Our brains have a natural need to be right, and that comes from the way we take in our experiences and make meaning of them. We each have a different way of taking in experiences and how we make meaning of them, and that works directly against forming strong relationship connections with others whe...