Clarity on Fire

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   A Huge Fan Forever, who's been offered a new job that seems great, but is really nervous considering they got let go...

Last week I took you on a journey through the heartbreak and awkwardness of high school and college —I know I made at least one of you cry, so I consider that a success—and now we're onto Chapter 3 of Forever Alone and (dramatic pause) adulthood.     And if you thought becoming an adult made me any more clear, confident, or "together" than I was as a teenager, you'd be very mistaken. Here's a prev...

If you're anything like us, we're pretty sure you loooove a good personality assessment. There's nothing quite like getting your geek on with something that cracks a new code on the human experience.   We've been hearing a lot about Human Design for the past couple years—from clients, friends, and fellow coaches—but we hadn't done any deeper digging yet. So instead of try to read about it online (...

Thank you all so much for the outpouring of support, comments, and love I got last week for my birthday and the release of Forever Alone! I've had SO much fun putting this out into the world, and hearing your feedback has been the cherry on top.   I'm back this week with Chapter 2: Proms & Palpitations—where I'm dialing it back to 2002 and pressing play on my relationship history, starting with hi...

A couple weeks ago one of my client's asked, "Why is it so hard to get myself to do things that I KNOW are good for me? I really do want to eat healthy, exercise, not sit on the couch binging Netflix for hours after work … but finding the motivation is so hard. How do I get motivated??"   To which I replied, "How about we start by NOT trying to find motivation?"   In this month's brand-new Side Ch...

It's Rachel's birthday! And if you've been following along, you know that also means that today she's giving herself, and you , a big gift … the first chapter of Forever Alone : One introverted millennial's half-agonizing, half-hopeful journey through singledom.   I've watched her pour a ton of time and energy into this—it's been a true labor of love! I'm just as excited as you to listen in (becau...

So … I did a thing. A BIG thing. And since it's my (well, our ) podcast, I'm allowed to make Kristen interview me about the big thing I've done. ;)   Back in January, when Kristen and I were trying out (and massively resisting) The Artist's Way , an idea fell nearly fully formed, into my lap:   I want to create my own podcast about my ridiculously long, weird, confusing, painstaking journey throug...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Your Biggest Man Fan, who has achieved some pretty spectacular things in life: Climbing out of poverty, losing 130 po...

Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception — you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.   But honing your intuition can take time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if i...

A lot of us know for sure when we're up in our heads—over-thinking, spinning with anxiety, acting like life is a formula that you can solve if you analyze it long enough.     And most of us probably know by now that there are other places you can be, besides the mind … like the body, or your intuition.     But making the journey from mind to body or intuition is daunting and confusing, especially...

Yep, you read that subject line right! I (Kristen) got a job .     I know some of you are like, "Umm … excuse me, what?? "   First of all, rest assured this does NOT mean I'm stepping away from Clarity on Fire or anything of the sort. On the contrary, getting a job will (counterintuitively) free up my best mental and emotional energy to pour back into my client work.     The thing is, when you're...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Ana, who's got a LOT on her mind right now: Trying to work from home while caring for two small kids, a recent ADHD d...

Imagine making the momentous decision to pack up your entire life and move cross-country from Pennsylvania all the way to Portland, Oregon. You decide to start your move on January 1, 2020, because it feels clean and fresh with possibilities, and you embark on your journey with enthusiasm and optimism.   And then everything, and we do mean everything , promptly falls apart.   You get COVID, but yo...

A few weeks ago we put out a call for Dear Krachel questions, and a LOT of you asked us questions about feminine energy—turns out many of you listened to our normal person interview with Carolyn Canonica and came away wanting to know more about how you actually do feminine energy.   We promised we'd dedicate a whole episode just to this question, and here it is! In this month's brand-new Side Chat...

Earlier this year we talked about finding a dream job in 24 hours .     We figured it was only fair to also hear the exact opposite side of things—what happens when you've been wanting a dream job (or anything!) forever and ever and ever and you still haven't gotten it?   So, on this month's brand-new interview with a normal person, Rachel and Natalie dive into…   At what point do you decide you'r...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Ashley, who's wondering how long is too long to stay at a bridge job? Diana, who listened to last month's Side Chat a...

Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception–you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.   But honing your intuition can take time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it'...

One of our favorite lines in Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone is in the very first chapter, when Vernon Dursley is introduced:   " He hurried to his car and set off for home, hoping he was imagining things, which he had never hoped before, because he didn't approve of imagination."   Can you imagine how differently Harry's life would have gone if he'd decided to be more of a Dursley than a Po...

I don't know about you, but I (hi, Kristen here!) have been feeling extra overwhelmed lately. There's just always so much to do!     And yes, most of it is all stuff I want to put my time and energy into, but it still feels like a lot of doing . I've been feeling a strong urge to sloooow down the pace of life lately and stop trying to make everything happen all at once.     The beautiful part abou...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Samantha, who listened to our last Side Chat about wants vs. needs and started wondering about how that idea applies...

First and foremost– May the Fourth be with you.     Secondly–WHEW, do we have a litany of important news to share!   Listen in today as we break down some major events happening in the Clarity on Fire world. The teasers include…   Why we're significantly changing how we do 1:1 coaching for the first time since we started 9 years ago … and what that means if you're interested in working with us thi...

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast!   Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode, we're diving into a brand-new book: Radiant Rest by Tracee Stanley. The last couple books we've talked about ( The Artist's Way and The...

Full transparency, one of our biggest pet peeves is when people hear the "career" part of "life & career coaches" and assume we help people scour job boards and edit their résumés. There's nothing wrong with that—it's just not what we do. If you've found us, you may very well want a new job. You might find yourself pursuing job boards and staring at your résumé, wondering how to polish it so that...

So … I was in a therapy session and my therapist said something that filled me with, as I told Kristen during this episode, "The wrath of hell." Why? Because she, unintentionally, broke one of the cardinal rules of anyone who's in a therapy/coaching/healing profession: Make the person in front of you feel seen and heard. I brought her my very raw, tender emotions about something that was deeply tr...

One of the hardest lessons I have to learn over and over again is that you will never be done . Ugh. It would just be WAY more convenient if life was arranged into predictable milestones that I could work toward at a reasonable pace and achieve with stunning regularity, thank-you-very-much!! And I also love control! When getting what I want depends on how much I'm perfecting myself and my actions,...