Clarity on Fire

A year ago, on my birthday, I did something I'm prouder of than almost anything I've ever done: I published my own solo podcast!   Forever Alone: One introverted millennial's half-agonizing, half-hopeful journey through singledom.   It's like a memoir, in audio form. But people tell me it feels less like non-fiction and more like listening to a novel. Whether you're single or not, it'll resonate w...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Bummed Entrepreneur, who worked her buns off for years to build a successful business. She has a great business partn...

A lot of you are people pleasers, and you know it. You cycle through the greatest hits every day! 🤘   🎶 Avoiding conflict 🎤 Saying yes to everything, when you want to say no 🎸 Not setting boundaries 🥁 Refusing to speak up   They're classics for a reason! But there's so much more to people pleasing than the popular stuff — there are deep cuts, too. Stuff you probably haven't heard about, becau...

There's not much worse than wanting your life and relationships to change — to deeply thrive — and not seeing or understanding why you can't seem to get there.   One of the silent causes behind SO many relationship woes (romantic, of course, but ALL of them, including the ones you have at work and with work) is your attachment style.   Never heard of it? Well, you need to! And we happen to have th...

Are you a wee bit tired? Burned out? Exhausted to your core? Weary to the marrow of your being?   🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️   It's OK if the world feels like a lot. It IS a lot, and has been for a long time (I mean, we're all still pandemic fatigued, on top of … gestures wildly to everything else ). Big, big things — planetary, global, national — have a personal impact on us, even though we, individually, d...

If you haven't been in the Clarity-verse (it's a thing, I've decided) for a while, you might have missed the fact that one year ago Kristen got a full-time job .   Not because she desperately needed one. Or because Krachel was on the verge of a breakup (going strong, thanks!).     It was because she wasn't walking her talk.   Ironically, one of the people who created the Passion Profile Quiz was s...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Giamhi, a senior in high school whose parents are pushing her to go into a field like engineering or teaching. She do...

Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception — you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.   But that takes time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it's just long enough...

Ever seen that meme of a circle with text in it that says "your comfort zone," and then a little dot way outside the circle that says, "where the magic happens?"   Ugh, makes us want to roll our eyes. Because it's TRUE. And we wish it weren't!   But alas, magic does happen when you're willing to get uncomfortable. Except it's not easy at ALL to get out of your comfort zone. Especially if you want...

For those of you who don't know (or maybe forgot, since it's been so long), Rachel and I used to write a new blog post every single week for YEARS. In fact, our writing was what we were most known for in the early years of Clarity on Fire.   All of our old blogs are still available on our site ( check out our full library ). But many of those old posts haven't seen the light of day in a while, eve...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Andrea, an artist who's been working in her field for 4 years. She's struggling to enjoy her job because her work isn...

I recently heard Sam Laura Brown get interviewed on a podcast I occasionally listen to, and I immediately had three visceral reactions:   This woman deeply understands what's behind perfectionism and talks about it in a way I've never heard before.   I really want our listeners to hear her wisdom, because I know so many of them will relate.   Uh oh, I think I might be more of a perfectionist than...

In the 17-or-so years that I've been working, I've quit a LOT of jobs. I could probably do an Ariana Grande-style 7 rings musical rendition of all the jobs I've quit … but I'll spare you.     (Though if you did want a list, you could just go back and listen to us recount all the (embarrassing) things we've quit on the podcast .)   From the Old Navy store at the outlet mall, to nannying, to investm...

Ever been so burnt out that you were ready to up and quit your job with no plan?   We've been there — and actually done it … more than once. 😅 My client Sonya has, too, which is why I invited her to be this month's "interview with a normal person."   Listen in as Sonya and I get into:   How a toxic job and boss made her start questioning a career she thought she loved. What happened after she mad...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Tiffanny, a Thriver ( on the Passion Profile Quiz ) who works full-time and has spent the last 2 years trying to get...

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast!     Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode we're diving into Atlas of the Heart by the one and only Brené Brown.   You're going to love this book, and this conversation, if you...

Well, we totally were not intending on doing another message from the Universe episode so soon after our last one, but the expert guest we have for you couldn't make it work until next month, so here we are. Apparently the Universe really wanted to talk to all of us!   So, listen in as we find out what was so important it couldn't wait another month. ;)   Today we pulled a few cards from The Encha...

In the past few weeks multiple clients have come to us with the same question (so you know it's time to talk about it on the podcast):   I'm afraid I can't get what I want because I don't know enough yet. How clear do I REALLY need to be?   So, in this month's brand-new Side Chat we're demystifying the hazy line between what counts as "clear enough" and what doesn't. Listen in as we talk about…  ...

Full disclosure: Ever since my client Terece first told me she was planning to write a book (a lifelong dream of hers), I knew I'd eventually want to bring her back on the podcast to talk about it.     I've had the joy of seeing Terece's massive transformation over the last few years from a self-doubting people-pleaser ( see my original interview with her on ditching perfectionism ) to someone who...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Concerned Daughter, who has a very supportive mom—so supportive, in fact, that she tells her kids she doesn't need a...

Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception — you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.   But that takes time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it's just long enough...

One of my favorite quotes from any movie, ever, is from Men in Black —when Tommy Lee Jones is talking to Will Smith about the existence of aliens (I may have written and recorded a whole blog about it years ago):   "Fifteen hundred years ago everybody knew the Earth was the center of the universe. Five hundred years ago, everybody knew the Earth was flat, and fifteen minutes ago, you knew that hum...

I know a lot of you are already well aboard the "woo woo" train. You booked yourself a ticket on a day when Mercury wasn't in retrograde, and you're chilling in a first-class compartment that you saged before unpacking your crystals.   Some of you probably nervously boarded the train, wanting to believe more in the mysteries of the Universe, but skeptical of where it's going to take you (or if it'...

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Leslie, who's interested in an array of potential careers from HR to wedding coordination to photography to therapy!...

Raise your hand if, when you think of "job searching," the list of to-dos that come to mind sound something like:     Update resumé, write cover letter, apply, wait, repeat.   What if we told you that LITERALLY NONE of those things are how you get a job in 2022?   If you're skeptical, you won't be after hearing our interview with Emily Liou, former recruiter, career coach, and total genius when it...