Charlie’s Toolbox

Dear Over-Liker why is liking someone such a bad thing? If you have self-respect, can you also give love freely? Can you feel excited about a new prospect and still live your life and not compromise your values? If you want to learn how, please listen to my podcasts...    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on:  https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/charliestoo...

Anxiety is natural. Anxiety about dating is natural. Everyone has it, but the difference between a person enjoying their date while being slightly anxious and the other who lets her anxiety ruin her dating experience is how they manage it. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on:  https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook:  https://www.faceb...

The truth is living in magic is harder than living without it. You have to decide if you want to live in magic, or if you’d prefer a different method. If you prefer to live in magic, you have to dedicate yourselves to even a glimmer of magic in life. So, how do we do that? How do we train our eyes, our hearts, and our souls to accept that magic can be found anywhere at any time and in any state of...

Psychology Today defines self-sabotage as  “Behavior that creates problems in daily life and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors include procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury such as cutting.”  Many are not aware and don't know why they self-sabotage. In this episode, we discuss how to see your li...

The truth is…. Dating is hard, but it isn’t. It is hard when you are holding your breath, secretly waiting to be saved, validated by a partner. It is hard when one negative or ugly comment from a prospect sends you into a spiral. It is hard when you move your boundaries because this guy is GREAT! Even though you have no real way of knowing. It is especially hard when you feel that this is your onl...

This episode is dedicated to women who can’t quite make peace with their mistakes. In the next few minutes, I will go through tactics on how to better understand your mistakes. I will discuss the best ways to reframe them, find the lesson, and make peace with them.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on:  https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox...

30-year-old settling is subtle. Often only you know. Or your friends know, but love you too much to tell you this is not the best you can do. 30-year-old settling is not fully committing to mediocre, but sort of embracing it. Now, I understand that sometimes you just don’t have the fight in you, and good enough is well… good! But for those of you who want excellent, I have some tips to keep you go...

This week we discuss boundaries. I thought this was a great topic to dive into because it’s one of those topics that you have to constantly reflect on and readjust. In this episode, I will provide a couple of gentle guidelines that will help you get started with enacting strong boundaries. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on:  https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter:  https://twitt...

How do you own your life, accept it, and even go so far as to find pleasure and joy in it? In this episode, I provide tools for you to own your life.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on:  https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter:  https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen...

A while ago I wrote a tweet that stated, “Girls, please be self-absorbed. I beg of you. It saves you from a lot of pain & heartbreak.” I had many women retweet, share on Instagram, and message me agreeing but asking how? In this episode, I will break down the contours of a self-centered life and by the end, you should have a full picture of what that looks like for you   For more tools on dating a...

Fear is a powerful force. It is a response that warns or protects you from danger. Basically, its sole purpose is to help you survive. Fear is something we are supposed to have and it is extremely helpful. However, when exhausted and perverted, fear can be the very thing that stops you from enjoying life. In this episode, we will discuss methods to attack and confront fear.    For more tools on da...

This episode is for people who struggle with trusting themselves after a difficult breakup. Those folks who experience a traumatic heartbreak and decide to forego vulnerability because they suspect it is the cause of their immense pain. It is for the children of terrible caretakers, who weren't afforded the space to be vulnerable and loved unconditionally. It is hard to be vulnerable when this is...

So many of us fail, but we don’t openly talk about it due to shame and embarrassment. A failure can have your stomach in knots. It can zap your energy and have you in a sunken place where you ask yourself “Why bother?” So, the question begs to be asked how do you get up when you have no life force? In this episode, I hope to give you some strategies so that you can gain the energy back to be yours...

In this episode, we discuss the topic of Carefrontation. We discuss its definition. When to use it and why to use it... Carefrontation is another way to understand confrontation. It is from a place of love. You love yourself so much that with every interaction and space you enter in, you notify those around you of how you want to be treated. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on:  htt...

When we learn about the power of no, we often do so by having it removed from us. We are either told it is unladylike to say no (aka boys won’t like you), or we are abused by the people closest to us and feel as if we have no choice (aka do this to keep the family functioning). As a result, we go along with things we hate. Date people we don’t like. Develop no boundaries and allow people to impede...

Are you hiding who you are because you think people will not like you? Do you think the mask you put on is more likable? Why do you think that? Why do you think you are not worthy of being seen? Why must you wear a mask to be liked, cared for, or interested? This episode discusses the benefits of living an authentic life and the tools to take you there.  --- 💌**Stay Connected with Charlie's Toolb...

In this episode, we discuss two emotions we are often ashamed of: Jealousy and Envy. We look at the source and break down why. Finally, we will solve this dilemma and teach you to draw inspiration instead.  --- 💌**Stay Connected with Charlie's Toolbox** 💌 1️⃣ **Join My Substack Community:** Get exclusive insights, resources, and in-depth conversations delivered directly to your inbox.  https://s...

Welcome to another enlightening episode of Charlie's Wellness Toolbox! In this thought-provoking installment, we delve into the intriguing topic of processing mistakes and explore its profound impact on personal growth. Join me as we unravel the origins of our ingrained patterns for handling mistakes and examine how this framework manifests in various aspects of our lives. Discover the detrimental...