Carlie's Couch

Do you finish what you start? If you’re a serial starter, or find yourself excited about starting, but rarely finishing - then this episode is for you. Carlie & Lex explore what keeps us from following through on projects and discuss some strategies to help get you across the finish line. Check out episode 98 for more info about focusing on the process and 102 to confront perfectionism.

Are you a perfectionist? Perfectionism is often seen as a positive quality that pushes us further. However, this mindset can actually hold us back when mismanaged. This week, Carlie & Lex explore perfectionism from top to bottom and discuss ways to be more mindful and have healthier expectations of yourself. This week’s shoutout goes to Brilliantly Black by Dr. Byron Young and Dontae Rayford!...

If you’re feeling worried about a friend, what should you do if anything? How can you help? What if they don’t want to be helped or haven’t asked for it? This week, Carlie & Lex discuss concern for friends and how to assess yourself first and then approach, support, and be there for them. Nick Brooks and his short film Bee won Best Short Film at the Las Vegas Black Film Festival. Shoutout to h...

Celebration, champagne, and conversation. This week, Carlie & Lex celebrate 100 episodes of the Bouch! (One hunnid!) Some special guests joined (virtually, of course) and talked through everything from starting over to balancing work/play, anime to influences for love, and processing other people's perspectives on who and how you are. Celebrate with us! Watch this episode on YouTube

In life, there can be an overwhelming sense of always having to do something or be something, to always be pushing and to achieve constantly. This can lead to exhaustion, overwhelm, overwork, and a debilitating sense of never doing enough. This week, Carlie & Lex explore how to rest and relax without guilt, and how ultimately this is an integral piece of intentionality and success. LikeU Cards...

Goals are important and vital to success, but they shouldn’t be your primary focus. This week, Carlie & Lex challenge you to shift your focus from the outcomes to the process, and how ultimately that’s what helps you win, both short and long term. This week’s shoutout Best Damn Hip Hop Writing: The Book of Yoh storyteller and music journalist, Yoh Phillips. Watch this episode on YouTube

Nutrition doesn’t just come from the food you eat. It comes from the shows you watch, the books you read, and what you listen to every day. How intentional are you with the information you intake? Is your information diet working towards your goals? This week, Carlie & Lex discuss intentionality, nourishment, and when it can be too much. This week’s shoutout is SwayBrand . Go sign up to be an...

If you know what you need to do, why aren’t you doing it? Or why do you put it off? This week, Carlie & Lex attack procrastination, explore its origins, and discuss tangible steps on what it will take to get to the next level. This week’s shoutout is Change The Tune for hosting their first virtual summer program The Studio for over 50 middle schoolers and high schoolers. Learn more and donate...

Do you consider yourself open? Oftentimes we aren’t as open as we think we are. This week, Carlie & Lex explore vulnerability and being open, with ourselves, and in our lives. Exploring what it means, reasons we might struggle to, and how to make that change and become more open in our everyday lives. This week’s shoutout is Tyus Tillman of TablesUp Massage, Stretch Therapy, and now Rocket Yog...

Tune in for our mid-year check-in! Being that we’re in a global pandemic, we understand the goals you set in January might look a little different. So this week, we explore how you can pivot, reposition, and set yourself up for success in these new endeavors.

Do you ever feel the need to over-explain yourself? Or fight so that people see things your way? Defensiveness manifests in many different ways and can negatively impact you, your life, and your relationships. This week, Carlie & Lex encourage you to slow down, take a pause, and practice defenselessness; exploring where it comes from, how it manifests, and what you can do about it. This week’s...

Whether you have a mindfulness practice or are looking to start one, today’s episode is for you. This week, Carlie & Lex discuss the how’s, why’s, and discuss tips to grow and enhance your mindful moments. Tune inwards and join us! For more info, check out Carlie’s latest blog on mindfulness here. Watch this episode on YouTube!

Reflection is an invaluable tool on the journey to self-growth and personal development. But what is reflection, really? What happens when we get stuck in our heads and begin to over-analyze? In this week’s episode, Carlie & Lex explore the difference between reflection and rumination and ways to snap out of it whenever you begin to feel yourself getting stuck. Watch this episode on YouTube!

Does your space inspire you? What does it reflect about you? This week, Carlie & Lex discuss how our environment affects us and the importance of cultivating your space for success: from historical practices like feng shui to color choices, lighting to layout, and being intentional about creating a space that you enjoy. Watch this episode on YouTube

In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, Carlie and Lex discuss the only constant in American history –rebellion. Learn more about the history of protesting, rioting and rebellion in this country; why it happens; things to consider when participating; and ways to get involved. Currently, mass demonstrations are forming across the country demanding justice for George Floyd and respect for Black lives. Wh...

Expectations, we all have them; whether it’s relationships, friendships, work, and even ourselves. These expectations can have a major impact and on us and our lives. This week, Carlie & Lex discuss what they are, where they come from, how to manage them, and why it’s important to get clear on our expectations for ourselves and others. Watch this episode on YouTube!

In this episode, Carlie and Lex explore how our thoughts affect our actions and are predictors of the future. We build upon the practice of visualization, to strengthen the idea of rewiring yourself to think like the person you want to become. This week’s shout out goes to BLK & Bold , a Black-owned specialty tea and coffee brand with a business model centered on social impact! Follow them at...

From life coaches to professional athletes to entrepreneurs we hear about the importance of visualization, but what is it exactly? Join Carlie & Lex this week on the couch to discuss visualization, try an exercise, and discuss ways this tool can be used in our lives. This week’s shoutout is Glass Skin Co. and it’s founder Tranice’. Quality skincare that is both accessible and easy to understan...

This week, Carlie & Lex explore what it means to be in flow and alignment, create some self-checks to notice when you might be misaligned, discuss our personal responsibility in all of this and how to be more intentional moving forward.

How does guilt play a part of your life? Whether consciously or subconsciously, guilt can seep into your daily life, mindset, and relationships. This week Carlie & Lex explore how to recognize where you’re holding on to it, its effects in your life, and ways to stop moving from a place of guilt.

How can we give back to those in need? This week’s episode is for those who want to volunteer and help make a difference for those who need it the most. Carlie & Lex explore a starting point by evaluating your resources, discuss some volunteering opportunities currently happening, and also ideate for some unique opportunities. This week’s shoutout is Our Own for planning meals, buying food, an...

Tulsa has something to say, and they’re saying it! In March, Carlie flew back home to Oklahoma to attend Fire in Little Africa, a multi-media hip hop project commemorating the 1921 massacre of Tulsa’s Greenwood neighborhood known as “Black Wall Street.” Join Carlie & Lex this week to dive into some of the history of the Tulsa Race Massacre, the Fire in Little Africa project, and how Tulsa is b...

What do you do when someone close to you expresses suicidal thoughts, tendencies, or attempts to go through with it? How do you handle it and show support? This week, Carlie & Lex discuss their experiences and lessons learned in these important moments. The suicide hotline is: 1-800-273-8255. If you or someone you know is experiencing these thoughts please call or visit the suicide prevention...

During these times of uncertainty, people are being affected and responding in a variety of ways. So, how do you maintain your head when all about you are losing theirs? In this episode, Carlie & Lex explore the impacts of the pandemic on our lives, the opportunities in these moments, and ways to make sure you’re staying balanced, productive, and taking care of yourself. Watch this episode on...

How open are you to trying new things in your life? What is the line between trying new things and being too reckless? Add this to your quarantine queue and join Carlie & Lex this week to play Never Have I Ever and to examine the areas in your life where you explore versus the ones you don't and why. This week’s shoutout is Nannearl Brown’s new UX informational vlog Unpacked Angles ! Watch thi...