Carlie's Couch

* We had some technical issues with the audio this week! We’ll be back with that A1 next week. What makes a person judgemental? How does being judgy affect our lives long term? In this episode, we explore how judging others and ourselves makes us unhappy, why we do it, and how to be more aware of and decrease our need to judge everything.

Ever feel like everything was going amazing and then BAM! Something happens? Do you have a habit of self-sabotaging? Then this week is for you… and us too lol. In this episode, we explore the upper limit problem: from the roots in our limiting thinking, to our habits and self-sabotage, and what it takes to break through and break into our genius zone. This week’s shoutout is Heaux Butters!!! Carli...

"In the Beginner's Mind there are many possibilities. In the expert's mind there are few." -Shunryu Suzuki This week is about exploring the concept of beginner’s mind: what it is, how to apply the framework to your life, and what you can gain when you commit yourself to being curious and staying open to what’s possible. This week’s shoutout is Thomas Glenn or TAG II Productions for producing the l...

This week is our 150th episode!!! 1-5-0!!! To celebrate, we decided to catch up with some of your favorite guests on the Bouch! Kiara Imani, Coach Ace, Derria Underwood or Dlolo, and Preston Dawson drop some valuable life lessons and inspiration for your journey and update us on all the amazing things they’re working on now. You don’t want to miss it. Share this with someone who could use a little...

This episode is about gaslighting. The term gets tossed around often, but what is it, really? Tune in this week to learn what it looks and feels like, how you could be doing it to others, and how to identify when you’re a victim of it. This week’s shoutout is US!!! We are celebrating our 150th episode next week and are excited to be bringing back some of our favorite guests. If this episode helped...

What is decolonizing therapy? How does decolonizing apply to mindsets and relationships? This week we are hype to have licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Sandra Espinoza grace the couch and share her expertise on decolonization, how it is currently being implemented in therapy and in education, and how it can elevate our personal growth and therapy sessions. With 10+ years experience as a...

What does self-care look like for you? Self-care isn’t one-size-fits-all so it’s important to figure out what works for you. Tune in this week for ways to build your self-care toolkit. Your practice will ebb and flow as you and your life do, so these are some ways to support you throughout that journey. This week’s shoutout is The Mental Motel , a community, brand, and resource built for self-love...

How do you know who you really are? What are your personal values? Do you value what you say you do, or are you lying to yourself? This week is important because your values determine how you live your life. Explore the importance and impact of your values and try this exercise with us this week to help you define your personal values and ensure you're living your life according to them. Watch us...

What happens when you find yourself on a path that no longer fits you? How do you know when it’s time for a change? This week very special guest Nannearl Brown, UX Researcher & Host of Unpacked Angles, shares her journey from engineering to tech dropping some major gems on moving with intention, starting over, self-care, and not letting your career define your life. Follow and connect with Nan...

At the end of the day, it comes down to you. Your decisions, your thoughts, and how you navigate through your life. So how do we know that we can trust ourselves? How can we sharpen our instincts and self-awareness? This week, we explore why our first "instinct" might not always be in alignment with our higher selves and might be problematic, and delve into some tactics to help us refine our insti...

Stop forcing. Start flowing. Oftentimes, forcing anything brings about the exact opposite of our desired outcome and limits our possibilities… not to mention adds compounding stress to ourselves and whatever or whoever it is that we’re trying to force. Why do we try to force things? Join us on the Bouch this week for some indicators that you may be trying too hard or forcing things in your life an...

If you want to have deeper conversations, this episode is for you! Giving advice can be great, but how can we be better coaches, friends, mentors, and resources for those around us? Tune in this week to learn a framework to help you remain curious in conversations and help provide the space for people to develop their own ideas and solutions. This week’s shoutout is the Fire in Little Africa team...

Do you suffer from impostor syndrome? This week, we choose violence. Violence in the form of licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and corporate consultant Stevon Lewis. Stevon specializes in helping clients identify, challenge, and overcome impostor syndrome. Tune into this week’s episode to learn more about impostor syndrome, how it may be manifesting in your life, and some solid tips from Stevon t...

We all get thoughts from time to time that we’re not good enough. What causes insecurity, what happens when we’re feeling insecure, and what can we do to kick insecure thoughts and actions? This week’s shoutout goes to The Anchor School founded. by Destiny Woodberry Watch this episode on YouTube!

How do you define a successful relationship? How do you make it last while pursuing your goals and supporting your partners? In this episode, we chat with Sanford and Anastasia Williams to learn some keys to a happy and successful relationship. Married 31+ years, 3 kids, a JD and an MD under their belts, the Williams’ share their story and the building blocks of how they have been able to keep the...

Are you a critical thinker? If you want to grow, get unstuck, or expand your horizon of knowledge and understanding, then this week is for you. We explore the importance of applying critical thinking to your life, how we can get stuck in patterns or socialized thinking, and ways to sharpen your skills. Watch this episode on YouTube!

Nobody is an island. Everybody needs help from someone at some point or another and we all know it; so why is it hard for us to ask? This week, we explore the vulnerability it requires, discuss ways to improve, and challenge you to an exercise to help you practice asking for help. Watch this episode on YouTube!

Networking can be shallow, overwhelming, and a waste of time, or it can be the key to your next big client or opportunity! It’s all in how you do it. This week, Carlie & Lex explore ideas to expand your business network intentionally, the do’s and don’ts of partnerships, and how to foster client relationships. Watch this episode on YouTube!

Conflict has a bad rep, but it’s a necessary part of life. Conflict is an important building block for relationships and key to personal development. This week, we discuss the importance of conflict, explore conflict management styles, and give some tactical tips to help you improve in the heat of the moment. Watch on YouTube here!

Everything starts with you, your story, your heart. This week the Bouch hosts special guest, Eniafe Isis, writer, storyteller, entrepreneur, and founder of All Her Words. This alchemist of emotion gives insight into her journey on what it means to come undone, talks us through sharing her story and processing through writing, and discusses creating a conscious community that supports and uplifts w...

There is so much power in allowing yourself to embrace everything that you are, powerful and soft, assertive and receptive, rational and emotional. This week, Carlie & Lex highlight the importance of embracing our femininity, (this is for the men too!), and discuss ways we can allow ourselves to be softer and tap into our feminine energy. This week’s shoutout is Yvonne Bulimo of fitness brand...

Prioritize your life, or someone else will. If you have ever found yourself overcommitted or never having enough hours in the day to get it all done, this episode is for you. While we can’t help add more hours to the day, essentialism can help you do less, but better. This week, Carlie & Lex explore the tenets of essentialism and discuss practical applications and activities to help you narrow...

While most of us enjoy giving, did you know that it is just as important to be able to receive? From compliments to gifts, love to support, let's stop blocking our blessings, and learn to receive. This week, Carlie & Lex explore the importance of receiving, how it relates to personal and professional success, and provide a few challenges to help you improve and welcome abundance. This week's s...

You are the steward of your own potential. It’s up for you to incorporate time in your schedule to pause & reflect. In this episode, Carlie & Lex discuss ways to harness your mind, tune in to you, and reflect on how you’re feeling by using in-between moments more wisely This week’s shoutout goes to Celeste, who actually gifted the book that inspired this episode, for all of the good energy...

How do you define your self-worth? Jobs, relationships, success and failures, are so often the criteria we use to define ourselves. What would it look like if we detached from those external sources, and validated our own self-worth? This week, Carlie & Lex explore the concept of self-worth, how we often attach it to things outside of us, and how we can own our power and validate ourselves. Br...