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Due to conditioning from the outside world, many of us are not living our true selves. How intentionally are you cultivating your relationship to self? We explore our relationship to self in the past and present. Self-judgement and playing the externally driven game How do we know what’s true for us? Logic vs. intuition Checking in with yourself for clarity Balancing coherence between intuition an...

Doubt doesn’t necessarily have to be something negative. It can be used to your advantage if you choose to. Where does doubt show up in your life and how do you relate to it?   Doubt is like a peephole into fear. The iceberg metaphor. Inserting curiosity between doubt and fear. Doubt and fear can be healthy. Relationship between results and doubt. Never questioning things is dangerous. Checking-in...

Integrating who you are being while on travel into daily normal life can be a transformative process. What excites us about travel? Are we traveling as a way to escape and numb, to grow, or maybe both? We explore perspectives of intention on travel.   Memorable trips. How do we relate to travel? Integrating the learnings from travel back into daily life. Intentionally creating travel experiences w...

Coaching can transform your life and worldview, but only if you want it. It is not a need, but a want. We discuss our purpose and role as life and business coaches. In addition, we explore our perspectives on the impact of coaching.  Valuable lessons from sports coaches from our past. What coaching is to us now. The way of being of “coach” is applicable everywhere. The role of a life and business...

Shifting your relationship to quitting requires clarity around commitments. The decision to quit something is often influenced by wanting to “fix” uncomfortable feelings immediately. Other times, the decision can be empowering in service of love and well-being. A negative connotation to quitting. Choosing an empowered perspective on what’s working and not working. Approaching quitting with curiosi...

Sharing and not sharing wins is laced with our conditioning since childhood. What do we notice about ourselves as we create those opportunities? Are you sharing or not sharing wins from love or fear? We discuss our relationship to wins and losses since childhood and how it has shifted. Being intentional about noticing wins. Sharing wins with certain people. Judging our wins. When I win, someone el...

Anger and sadness are two sides of the same coin. The healthy expression of both is critical to human well-being, but we’ve generally been conditioned to vilify these emotions. We explore our experiences with anger and sadness. Reactionary vs. intentional release of emotions. Anger is bad, sadness is weakness. Are you more comfortable with anger or sadness? Willingness to practice anger and sadnes...

Reinvention can be an exciting and liberating process of authentic self-expression if you’re up for the journey. We explore how reinvention looks and feels, and why we do it. Being stagnant or complacent leads to reinvention. Reinvention is an empowering and thoughtful process. Becoming the person you want to become. Humans don’t like change or uncertainty. Openness creates experiences and leads t...

Our definition and relationship with transparency is very layered. How transparent are we with ourselves and with other people? Are we using transparency as an excuse to protect fears or express ourselves lovingly? We explore various layers of transparency and our relationship to it. Honesty as an introduction to transparency. Communicating the facts AND feelings about a situation. Withholding fee...

The clever ego is always trying to protect our fears with excuses, stories, and justifications. But how aware are we of its shenanigans? We explore some of the dynamics between ego/mind and heart/spirit. Being self-aware of the ego at play. From “me” to “we.” Getting your ego checked and rebuilding identity. Ego’s reaction of defense and justification. Seeing the patterns and reflecting on them. I...

A disempowering meaning is often associated with discipline. It can be valuable to redefine it. We explore some of the layers of how discipline shows up in our lives. Discipline in culture. Discipline from obligations vs. from wants. The fine line between discipline and rigidity. Self-awareness around attachment to rigidity. Lack of results connected to inaction due to a lack of discipline. Confus...

The stories we make up about the past can help or hinder us. We have the opportunity to make a conscious choice to shift our relationship with resentment. We discuss some of the complexities of resentment.   Resentment and victim energy. Pain pushes until vision pulls. Using resentment as fuel with intention. Holding onto something in the past with negative emotions hinders big progress forward. N...

Tranformation is scary and rough. It is also necessary to reach our highest potential and contribute our greatest impact on the world. We discuss the importance of choosing transformation.   Defining moments of transformation. Transformation starts with an external invitation or calling from within. Patience with the process. Why even transform in the first place? Staying in the comfort zone and t...

Time is interesting in that we can never get it back, we all have the same amount of it, and we all need to use it. Yet, it’s just made up. We discuss our interesting relationships with regard to time.   Scarcity relationship to time. Time efficiency and rigidity. Time is an illusion. Innate sense of urgency with limited time. Shifting your relationship to time as you grow. Quality time. Play and...

Habits shape our lives through consistency. They either empower or disempower us. We discuss the importance of creating habits that support the growth you want.  Influence of parents’ habits. Learning structure through sports. Procrastination. Being aware of and intentional about our habits. Habits because of obligation vs. habits created. Tying habits to your What For? Importance of having suppor...

How we define commitment plays a major role in how we show up for those commitments. The impact can be life-changing. We discuss the connection between commitments and life’s purpose.   Empowered or disempowered view of commitment. Commitment being long-term. Reminding yourself of why you chose to do what you do. Committing to myself. Having grace instead of trying to be perfect. Intention around...

Having awareness of our needs vs. wants can be powerful and tricky. As our level of awareness grows, so will our discernment around needs vs. wants. We discuss the importance of distinguishing needs vs. wants.   What’s the distinction? Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Distinguishing wants beyond baseline needs. What we really want are the feelings that things give us. Slippery slope of wanting somethi...

Awareness and intentionality around who and what you associate with are critical factors in living in alignment with the best version of yourself. We discuss association and its impact on your life.   How do you define association or tribe? The importance of mentors. Awareness around the impact of family members. Association with things other than humans. Knowing when your Being shifts negatively...

We often learn to diminish our dreams at a young age, but we can take responsibility and choose to reignite the fire within. We discuss mindset around dreaming big, small, or not at all.   Being a dreamer vs. practical. Saying yes first and figuring it out after. Dreams being limited by the people around us. The sticker business squashed. How early do we stop dreaming? Choosing to dream again. Pus...

Culture is vast and dynamic. It can be deep-rooted as well as superficial. And it is something we get to create. We touch on the interconnectedness of cultures and their impact on us. Bento boxes and cafeteria food. Identifying with multiple cultures. Carrying forward cultural values rather than superficial aspects of culture. Creating your own culture regardless of family history. Pop culture and...

What truly lights you up? Where does your inspiration come from? Where are you suppressing it? We discuss various nuances around inspiration. What inspires me? Core beliefs as inspiration and creating a life of freedom. Internal motivation and inspiration vs. external. Searching for inspiration. Giving ourselves permission to dream. The link between dreaming, your Why, and inspiration. Knowing wha...

With so much conditioning since we were born, what really is the authentic self? How we show up in our lives is largely a performance, therefore inauthentic. We discuss the complexities of authenticity. What’s authenticity to me? Being your truth as it is today. Authenticity coming from ego vs. intuition. Authenticity being a loving, grounded, or centered place. Is it possible to be authentic with...

What role does spirituality play in your life whether through religious expression or otherwise? As humans we experience a physical world and, for many of us, a spiritual one that is beyond the physical. We discuss our thoughts on spirituality and the role it plays in our lives. Ego being a barrier to spirituality. Spiritual practices in helping to navigate uncertainty. Spirituality being a proces...

We communicate through our lens of limited understanding of ourselves and the world which is highly influenced by our conditioning. So, it is no surprise that misunderstandings between people happen frequently. We discuss our thoughts on communication in relationships. Barriers to communication in relationships. Creating communication styles in agreement with others. More communication is better....

How important is power to you? Do you seek it or avoid it? For what? True power is contrary to what we have been conditioned to believe. We discuss our perspectives on power. Perspective on power shifting from when younger. Power and fear. Power and clarity. Power and culture. Dangers of entanglement of power and success. Noticing what drives our relationship to power. How do you access your power...