Building Resilience

So many of us spend a lot of time and energy on talking down on ourselves. Fortunately, a lot of us are in the healing process—but we can't just not talk bad about ourselves. On today's episode of Building Resilience, we're going to talk about the opposite of thinking badly about ourselves—going out of our way to celebrate ourselves! We'll talk about comparing ourselves to others (and why we shoul...

Imagine you got asked to do a new project at work, and imagine it causes you a lot of stress thinking about it—while another member of your team might be super excited! It's the same project, so what's the difference, you ask? Perspective. If you believe that it's the environment that causes you stress, you're helpless until the environment or the circumstance change, which we know is hard to do....

We've all heard the famous quote "whether you think you can or can't, you're right". While that's a little over used and maybe a little over simplified, the fundamental truth it teaches is actually correct. In our day to day lives, we have worn paths into our brain that our thoughts will follow—beliefs about things we assume are true because, well, we've never questioned them. Some of these belief...

For us parents, being a parent takes up so much of our physical energy and time, but also our mental energy! We want to be the best parents we can and raise these darling little ones (or not-so-little ones, in my case) to be the best they can be. However, along the way, we'll inevitably come across thoughts like "Am I good enough?", "Am I ruining my kids?" or even "Should I even be a parent?". On...

What is the difference between a life coach and a therapist? Are coaches trained as much as therapists? What about certifications and practices and degrees? Believe me, I've heard it all, but the one I hear most is "Is life coaching just a watered-down version of therapy?" While therapy certainly has its uses, life coaching is also a vital process I recommend anybody go through. But how do you kno...

A manual sounds like a pretty handy thing to have—to help you troubleshoot your washing machine or fix your phone. But when we make imaginary manuals about the people in our lives, it can be anything but helpful. On today's episode we discuss not just a manual, but THE Manual! It's not a physical book—it's a frame of mind that can seriously give the relationships in our lives a hard time. Spouses,...

We are all confronted with thoughts that we don't like. But what if I told you that there was a way around that? Your brain is a house, and you can choose your guests! I know, this sounds difficult to believe, but it's as easy as trying on clothes—YOU are the one who gets to choose which thoughts you wear and YOU alone. Join me on this episode of Building Resilience where I talk about thought ladd...

When some people think of the phrase "Self Care", they have images pop in their head of bubble baths, manicures, or a massage. While self care can definitely include those things, it means so much more. Many of you don't have a natural instinct for self care, and while you may think that's selfless, it's probably doing more damage than you think. Join me on this episode of Building Resilience as w...

You may not know this about me, but I love to travel. That might even be an understatement—it's part of who I am as a person! As part of my series on memory resilience, I'm talking about travel as a a clever way to capture memories with your family (or even by yourself!).  I'll give you some tips for before, during, and after your trip to not just travel, but have a treasure trove of lifelong...

Relationships are part of everybody's life, and we all have them. Unfortunately, despite our best efforts, some of them don't end up being great for us. Aimee Gianni is the perfect guest to talk about this—she's a coach, a marriage and family therapist, and just a fantastic human being. Since healthy relationships are made of two separate, healthy individuals, we talk about how to achieve that for...

As we enter a new year, it's a great time to reflect. How was your 2021? Did you accomplish what you wanted to accomplish? One way I like to look forward is by using a word as an intention for the coming year. Sometimes I reuse words, (which may seem a bit boring, but it works!) but for 2022 I've decided to use the word "remember. Join me as I discuss why I chose the word and lay out a framework w...

The end of the year feels like a fantastic fresh start to many—so it has a lot of people (including myself) thinking about the future. Sometimes, though, thinking about the future can bring up some anxiety about the unknown. But what if there was a person who could help you through these uncertainties? What if they could make you feel better about how things are going to turn out? And what if I to...

The holidays! The season of joy and family—for some of us. For others, it can also add shades of stress, anxiety, grief, and more. That's why this week, I'm giving you what is essentially a holiday survival guide! I've got some tips that will not only help you survive the holidays, they'll help you thrive (sound familiar?)! Learn how to turn old anxieties into things you don't think twice about, a...

It's the holiday season, and nothing says "holidays" more than "traditions". It can sometimes be hard to pinpoint the exact origin of a holiday tradition. But what if I told you that intentionally starting a new tradition can be meaningful, impactful, and help you enjoy the holidays more (your family too!)? Today, we're talking traditions: how can you create meaningful traditions that your family...

Tapping/EFT/Emotional Freedom Technique. None of them are particularly catchy names, but the concept is exciting and different—and it looks like science is backing it up as well! If you haven't heard of tapping/EFT therapy, today we're going to chat all about it. Have you ever struggled with meditation? Does your mind wander endlessly when you're trying to focus? You aren't the only one—I went thr...

This week, as most of you know, is Thanksgiving for my American friends (Happy Thanksgiving to all of you). I thought since that is the case, we could take some time to revisit the topic of Gratitude. Gratitude isn't just saying "thanks"—it's so much more. I'd go as far as to say that it's vital to our mental health! It's also not just something to do, it's something we can continuously get better...

The phrase "I don't know" is a tricky one. It can both be something that's okay to admit, and a sneaky phrase that ends up being an avoidance mechanism. Today, we're going to explore three things that you can do to override the sneaky thought of the cop-out and excuse of "I don't know". Learn some strategies (like writing) to help you discover the things you're feeling. Visit me on my Facebook pag...

Today I've got the privilege of interviewing Betsy Jensen—a body and mind life coach. She helps people connect with their bodies and heal their chronic pain, while teaching neuroscience principles and current research on chronic pain. She uses proven strategies to calm the nervous system and rewire the brain to produce less pain. You can listen to her podcast, Unstoppable Body and Mind here: https...

This is a big episode—I am flying solo. As of October 1st, Heather and I decided to close up shop on H & L life coaching and head our separate ways. However, I am excited to take over the podcast and to continue to bring you all the things that will help you create the life that you want. The podcast will continue just as it has—there's just a lot more Leah! Because of this, I thought that lif...

When we think about future self and all of the goals we want to achieve, we tend to look at the end goal, not so much the journey. Unfortunately for us, delayed gratification doesn't tend to come naturally. Focusing on the finish line means that we don't always achieve the results we want because we can get in our own way. But building a habit is exactly that— building. The tiny changes we ma...

Meditation is a topic that every life coach and wellness expert talks about. But it's so much more than just "ohm" and "ah"—it's a way to teach our mind and body to heal itself. We've all heard so much about what meditation is, but what are the benefits? And how can a beginner just "release" stress and discomfort? To explore these questions and more on the rich topic of meditation, we are joined b...

It seems as if some people don't think that anything is their responsibility and they have all kinds of excuses—why they can't change things that affect their life negatively. People say things like "I couldn't help it" and "It isn't my fault", but what that really does is it tries to eliminate responsibility. Today we talk about the concept of "100% Responsibility and 0% Excuses"—it may sound har...

So many things in this life are learned from trial and error—even something like walking! However, our parents didn't get mad because we fell down while learning—can you imagine? On the contrary! They expect a baby to be a little shaky and they're definitely going to fall. This is a basic human concept called "anti-fragility"—getting up when we fall and trying again, and recognizing that's part of...

Some feelings we feel day-to-day are useful. Some not so much. And some can be actively desctructive. Today we're talking about a concept that everyone reading this will be familiar with—and that is shame. It's that voice which says words such as "I am not lovable", or "I'm not good enough". Shame causes people to feel trapped, powerless and isolated.  In today's episode, we want to discuss w...

Money! We all use it. We all earn it. But talking about it? That's another story. Molly Claire was one of those people—but one day, she realized that her beliefs about money were not only hers alone, she realized that her own thoughts were part of what was limiting her. On this week's episode of Building Resilience, we talk about money beliefs (we all have them!). What are your money beliefs? How...