Brilliant Balance

If you're listening to this, you probably procrastinate. Maybe in all aspects of your life, maybe in just one, but you do. Because even if you have everything running on time and seemingly perfectly in your life, there are still areas in which you might procrastinate. The truth is there are some psychological patterns that actually drive procrastination. And we don't always recognize them. So we k...

The whole world has been abuzz about one movie for the past several weeks. Barbie. My entire team has been talking to me about it, my friends have been chattering about it, and my kids couldn't wait to see it, so I finally got myself to a theater to see what the hype was about! And it was a beautifully produced, impressive movie. I wasn't necessarily blown away in the theater, but after breaking i...

Do you ever feel like you're doing too much? Rhetorical question, right? We often say we "have no choice" And even though we end up acknowledging we're doing too much and taking on extra responsibility that's weighing heavily on us We aren't doing the things that help us lighten this load. The truth is, some behaviors and situations can keep you stuck in patterns of doing too much for a long time....

Midlife is not always an easy time for women. And when you combine this season with the mental and physical effects of menopause and perimenopause that affect women during the very same time, it can be exhausting. Unfortunately, women are often dismissed by healthcare providers, and can have most of their symptoms written off as hormonal or superficial. As a result, there are a lot of questions an...

This episode marks the 300th time I've seated myself in front of a microphone to record this show. Doing this consistently for 5 years has given me so much perspective and taught me more than a few things about life.  Once you embark on a creative journey, you tend to feel the work growing with you. And if you're given to working on it actively and consistently, you're sure to encounter some of th...

I admire working moms. They have high standards, have high professional ambitions, and are highly talented. Even though they have incredibly demanding work and family lives, they also have very high standards about showing up at home for their kids. But there are things that no one really knows about them. The general public has somehow arrived at a lot of inaccurate conclusions about them. And sa...

One important question I like to ask women in my coaching program is this - What would you do if you could do anything? What's the change you'd like to see in the world? The answer is always a variation of 'I want to help people.' And whether young, old or in midlife, the universal desire to be of service is rooted in our DNA. However there is a disconnect between the desire to be of service and t...

There comes a time in your life when you need to level up. It might be your health, relationships, or career.. Only you know what you need to take to the next level. But the problem is, you might be pushing it down and resisting it without knowing. You could even be resisting it by doing NOTHING about it.  The truth is: everything you want is on the other side of a decision - and the actions that...

When is the right time to educate your kids on money? The truth is: not everyone's approach to teaching financial responsibilities has to be the same. Some people start giving kids allowances early on and teach as early as possible, and some prefer to keep their kids blissfully unaware until they're a little older. So there's really no right answer. But when we're ready to teach our tweens (or tee...

Neediness is often regarded as negative. But why? We're brought up learning to take care of other people's needs, and by adulthood we're often skilled at it. But when it comes to voicing our own needs, we become ashamed of speaking up and out. The truth is, if you don't communicate your needs so they can be met, you'll never be satisfied. And you'll keep living in a state of low-grade dissatisfact...

Be honest - is there clutter accumulated in your space? Your office, home, garage or even your closet? We ALL have it! But this clutter is insidious. Because after a while it can blend in and start to look as part of the decor  to us. So at some point instead of noticing it,  you just start to live with it. It can also affect your inner calm/balance and even hinder you from seeing new opportunitie...

When summer begins for your kids, not much changes for YOU in terms of work life and rhythm, especially if you're a working mom. Meanwhile your kids are clamoring for even more attention and care than during the school year. As a working mom, summer is the time when kids' lives change pretty dramatically;  their rhythm and daily structures are entirely different but yours aren't. You still have to...

Being able to articulate what you want so you can get it is a powerful skill. It's also a foolproof way to take one step closer to achieving your dreams. But after taking calls with some listeners of this podcast, I discovered most of them weren't getting what they wanted simply because they were afraid to speak up about what they wanted. Here's the thing… If you want to claim what you want in lif...

Taking time for yourself is a powerful practice that allows you to reflect and reset from the stress of everyday work, life and family. But most women don't do it. Why? They think they're busy with everything going on in their lives, so they can't afford the time to decompress.  And that's normal. But there will never be a perfect time to do it, so in order to have these experiences you have to ac...

We all have those seasons - the ones that we experience as a surge. Fast. Full. Little time to rest.  They take up most of our time and energy. And we need more concentration and agility just to stay afloat and not go under. This can be hard, but it can also be JOYFUL and EXCITING. The goal is to get through these busy seasons with your mental, emotional, and physical health intact and your relati...

The mass shooting at Covenant School in Nashville, Tennessee brought the school shooting count to 89 for the year in the U.S alone. Guns are now the leading cause of deaths in children and teens. As a parent who speaks to an audience of parents, this is horrifying. We simply must find ways to curtail these acts of gun violence before they happen. Why? So we're not just left cleaning up the afterma...

We're wired to hustle. We've been trained to hustle since childhood and most of us don't know any other way. From babysitting, to working through college, to working through grad school. We don't know any other way to navigate life than by grinding it out. But there are certain seasons in which we should slow down, because rushing at the same pace during that time would be detrimental to our physi...

Conflict is something we often try to avoid.  But that's not something to be proud of. Want to know why? If you'd rather be a people pleaser and ignore the things that bug you rather than face them head on - it can fester resentment and erode your relationships. Or… You can face the situation head on and have a courageous conversation. You can soften the conflict and move the relationship forward....

Finish lines have a powerful allure to them. They inspire us to begin important journeys and give us strong motivation to go after our goals. However, sometimes we misinterpret which parts of our lives need finish lines, so we approach everything the same way and wind up overloaded. If this sounds like you, there's a way you can find a cadence you can sustain as you pursue  your goals all while re...

You might be a perfectionist if… You're restless and discontent with anything that is incomplete, operating at over-capacity and running yourself ragged to get things just the way you like them. Or you might start LOTS of projects and never finish them. Or you might work REALLY hard to get people to like you. It turns out there's not just one kind of perfectionist, but nearly all the faces of perf...

There's a voice in our head…and it isn't very nice. Labeling us, attacking our insecurities, and constantly making us feel like we're just not good enough.. If we let it, this negative inner dialogue can really take us under, keeping us stuck and even making us question who we truly are. But we can change that negative dialogue to a positive one. We can start our day motivated and move through it...

We are working all the time. And not always in the classical sense: going to an office, burning late hours etc. Instead, we use most of our waking hours to do things that feel like work. Whether it's calls taken from the car, scheduling people to do other work, taking care of our parents, or organizing new projects. There is always something to be done. And we never feel like we are ever completel...

Merging professional ambition with managing your home life isn't easy, but I think it's worth it. While you may constantly have to task-switch between meeting professional goals and meeting the needs of your family, the satisfaction that comes from having a foot in each world runs deep. The question is - what do we do with the guilt?! Wondering how our professional ambition will affect our kids ke...

I've spent a LOT of time talking to women in midlife, women who have to constantly re-balance the competing demands of their professional lives and family responsibilities to make room for some FUN. And a sad little secret of this life stage is that a lot of us don't actually like our lives very much. We've done all the things that are supposed to deliver us to the 'promised land'. We have the car...

Have you ever felt like you're underwater? You have your head down, you're swimming hard and just trying to get through whatever life throws at you. We've all been there at some point in our lives. It happens when you're struggling to keep your business afloat, or dealing with career upheaval, or taking extra care of a family member. It's not easy. In these dark and difficult times, we need light...