Break Free with Becky

What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you’re doing it wrong—but because you’re doing it backward? If you’ve ever thought: “I’ll be happy when I lose the weight” “I’ll relax when everything is done” “I’ll feel worthy when I have the relationship / money / confidence” This episode is for you. We’ll break down why most of us are living from what Stephen R. Covey calls a Have–Do–Be model tha...

Today, I'm honoring my cat Gidget, who passed away recently after 16 years together. She was with me through early motherhood, postpartum depression and anxiety, addiction and recovery, and so many life challenges. She woke me up at 5 AM every morning for 16 years. She was persistent, demanding, loud—and the best teacher I could have asked for. In this episode, I share three unexpected lessons tha...

January used to feel like a slap in the face. The holidays were over, and I was left with what I used to call the January Hangover . It’s that feeling when you realize you ate too much, spent too much, splurged too much—and overall lived the last month in a whole lot of too muching … with not nearly enough vegetables or movement. But here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to feel that way. You can step...

Are you living your life on purpose… or just responding to whatever lands in your lap? In this episode of Break Free with Becky , we’re talking about two simple questions that will wake you up from autopilot and help you start creating the life you actually want to live: Who are you becoming? and Who do you want to become? Most of us move through life on autopilot—reacting, rushing, checking boxes...

Most of us try to change habits by forcing ourselves to “be better.” We white-knuckle. We use willpower. We start strong in the morning… and by the afternoon, the tank is empty and we’re right back to our old routines. In today’s episode, I show you a completely different way to change your habits—one that's based in neuroscience and one that actually works.  I share my own 30-year habit of eating...

In this episode, we dive into the most underrated skill that can change your life in just 10 seconds: celebrating yourself.   In this episode, I share how learning to celebrate myself helped heal deep shame and build momentum after recovering from a 15-year opioid addiction. You’ll learn why your brain ignores the good, how tiny daily wins create massive change, and how to start training your mind...

In today’s episode, I’m diving into something that used to run my entire life: worry . I worried about everything—conversations, my appearance, my children, money, the future. I genuinely believed the act of worrying calmed me down and gave me control.  But here’s the truth: worry solves nothing . It’s fear-based thinking pretending to be useful. It keeps you spinning, looping, pacing, and stuck....

Have you ever noticed how hard it can be to hold onto peace, joy, or love—even when things are going well? In this episode, I share what I’ve learned about capacity and why feeling better isn’t just about changing your thoughts or circumstances. I’ll teach you the difference between capability (what you can do) and capacity (what you can hold), and how you can start growing your ability to feel mo...

Almost 20 years ago, my life changed in a single, unforgettable moment — I found myself face down on a dirty hospital floor, unable to move. What began as a simple game of noodle hockey at work turned into a lifetime of chronic back pain, lost dreams, and an unexpected journey toward healing and growth. In this episode, I share the full story — how my back injury became a forced opportunity for gr...

For years, I believed things about myself that weren’t true. I told myself I was dumb, I wasn't good at anything, and I’d never be happy. But none of that was truth — it was me lying to myself about who I really am. In this episode, I talk about what it means to stop believing those lies and start seeing the truth of who you are.  In this episode, I share: The ways we lie to ourselves  The cost of...

Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to others? In this powerful episode, we're diving deep into one of the most universal struggles we all face: the belief that "I'm not good enough." This belief runs quietly in the background for so many of us. It shows up in comparison, in self-doubt, in the way we try to prove our worth — and it keeps us stuck. I’ll share how this belief gets planted i...

The greatest lesson I ever learned, I learned from a clown. In this episode, I'm sharing one of those moments where fear took over—heart racing, body shaking, mind screaming “run!” It's one of most transformational stories from my life: the night I came face-to-face with one of my biggest fears at a Halloween haunted house nearly 20 years ago. At one point, I literally ran screaming into the bushe...

In this powerful episode, I share the story of how a simple mistake in my notebook led to a profound realization that changed how I see struggle, pain, and purpose. I open up about my own journey through depression and addiction, and how those darkest moments became the foundation for the strength, compassion, and wisdom I carry today. If you're in the middle of something hard right now, this epis...

This is one of those episodes that has the potential to change your life.   What if the very thing you’ve been chasing—comfort—is actually the source of your biggest discomfort? For years, I tried to control every detail of my life so I could feel comfortable: the exact temperature of the room, the brand of food I ate, the clothes I wore, even the social situations I allowed myself in. But instead...

Most of us spend our lives trying to avoid our emotions. We eat, scroll, stay busy or distract—just to get away from feelings we don’t want to feel. But all of this avoiding keeps us trapped in a life we never planned on living.  Your emotions aren't something to fear. They are quite literally the key to freedom.  In today’s episode, I’m sharing some of the most powerful work we can do with our em...

In this episode, I’m unpacking what emotions really are, how they show up in the body, and how they fuel everything you do or don’t in life. If you want to change your life, you need to learn about your emotions.  Here’s what I’ll cover: ✨ The difference between thoughts, sensations, and feelings.  ✨ How emotions are created in the body.  ✨Why we don’t have to be afraid of them.  ✨ The purpose...

Ever feel exhausted, even when you haven’t done much? Or find yourself dragging through the day while wishing you had more energy? In this episode, I share how I went from chronically fatigued and burned out to discovering that energy doesn’t just come from our bodies—it comes from our minds. Here’s what you’ll hear: The difference between physical energy and mental energy. How your thoughts can e...

Do you have an area in your life you’ve tried to change… but keep failing? Do you feel like change is impossible for you? If so, this episode is for you. Join me as I how I know that we all have the ability to change no matter how many times we've failed. From camping trips that once terrified me to long-standing habits I finally overcame, I dive into how our beliefs shape what we think is possibl...

What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't your circumstances or genetics, but simply the way you see yourself? In this episode, we explore how our perceived personality traits become invisible shackles that keep us stuck in patterns we think we can't change. Discover why the labels we give ourselves ("I'm shy," "I'm a procrastinator," "I don't travel well") become self-fulfilling prophecies...

Have you ever had someone tell you to "just stop thinking about it" and you knew you couldn't? In this episode, we dive deep into why trying to control your thoughts actually makes them stronger, and explore a powerful alternative.  Join me as I break down the neuroscience behind why our brains are designed to think constantly, explore the default mode network that creates our automatic thoughts,...

What if the only thing standing between you and the life you want is a thought you keep believing? In this episode, I’ll show you why affirmations often don’t stick, what's required to shift your thinking, and how to use bridge thoughts that actually work. You’ll also hear how changing one belief completely transformed my relationship with my son—and how you can start believing new thoughts that c...

Your thoughts shape your feelings, your actions, and your life—whether you realize it or not. In this episode, I show you how to stop believing every thought in your head, separate fact from fiction, and take back control of your mind. Small shifts in your thinking can create huge changes in your happiness, confidence, and peace of mind. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The difference between ci...

Have you ever felt like you've lost your strength—like life, hormones, or circumstances are running the show instead of you? You’re not alone. Over the past few months, I’ve been navigating perimenopause, health challenges, summer chaos, and all the ups and downs that come with them. What I’ve learned is this: being in your power isn’t about everything lining up just right —it’s about remembering...

In this episode, I open up about my lifelong struggles with anxiety and depression. I share the challenges I faced growing up, my experiences with an eating disorder and addiction, and the pivotal tool that helped me turn my life around. You’ll learn: What my journey was like.  The tool that supported my recovery Why change is possible, even when it feels impossible This episode is for anyone who’...