Black Millennial Marriage

Like Saturn, the sisters have returned to one another.  Tune in for this extra special Indie where Randie interviews her baby sister, Bri. In this episode they discuss their childhoods, and Bri reveals what little Bri wants from Little Ran. Later, Bri talks about what going no contact with certain family members has taught her, what she does to take care of herself, and what being a sister means t...

Hey y’all!  With just a few more episodes left for this season, Mikey and Randie are back with an update. In this episode, they detail what’s been going on with them. They shed light on weight loss and gain, new projects, layoffs, and more.  But what they also really want is for you to tell them what YOU have been up to. It’s getting closer and closer to the end of the year and they need your revi...

So what had happened was…Randie’s mom heard her Indie episode, Mothering Myself. And like, duh right? That was always a possibility. And still..Randie was scared shitless. Tune in to hear about the creative block Randie's been experiencing, her thoughts on her own cowardice behavior, and what finally accepting her safety means for her. She wonders…what will it look like now for her to create s...

Hey y'all, Hey! It's a good day for a throwback. And in this episode the Chapmans highlight BMM EP 059: Why Do Millennials Fall in Love? Do you remember that episode? It was a lot of fun and Mikey and Randie wanted to share the unedited version of that episode with you. In this episode, Randie reads a listener’s love story that started at Sonics, involves a little head, and ends in a lasti...

Hey y’all! Tune in for the Chapman’s first mini episode this season. As a reminder, Minis are all about their experiences as parents and in this episode Mikey and Randie reveal what parenting Drew has made them realize about their childhoods. The list ranges from being hit a lot to, in some cases, wishing they had the parents they wanted. It’s a fun episode in that Randie and Mikey really enjoyed...

Hey y’all!  Was a pastor featured on the BMM podcast on your Bingo card for 2023? It certainly wasn’t on Mikey and Randie’s, but seeing as this season’s theme is “Lemonade” the Chapmans are committed to acknowledging the nourishment all around them. Enter Kristian A. Smith, a man who wears many hats, and is also the host of the Holy Smokes Spirituality and Cigars podcast.  In this episode, the cou...

Hey, (in our best Mikey voice), he’s back. It’s been over a year since Mikey dropped an indie and in this episode he reveals where he’s been and how working on his latest project— his 1978 Monte Carlo Landau—is healing him.  Tune in as Mikey nerds out with some history about the car, details the story of his cousin Quacy a.k.a. Chess gifting him the Monte Carlo, and discusses the three things re-b...

Hey y’all! In this episode, Mikey and Randie detail their most recent relationship breakthrough. It started with an argument and turned into a moment of vulnerability.  And it’s all thanks to that damn word chart. Later, Randie brings a fight or flight questioning Mikey about therapy. But it’s all love, when in the end they show each other some PDA.  As always, the Chapmans appreciate you for list...

Hey y’all! In this episode Randie interviews her sex and intimacy doula, Yanitza.  Together they droid out over their pleasure muse THE Janelle Monáe, discuss the shame surrounding sex, pleasure, and intimacy and what this work has taught Yanitza about herself and about people. Later they talk about how grief affects our capacity to receive, and what working with a sex and intimacy doula looks lik...

Hey y’all! In this episode Mikey and Randie interview Dr. Jeannelle Perkins-Muhammad on her latest book Into-Me-See: Mastering Black Intimacy for the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted and there’s so much to say. Before beginning the interview, The Chapmans and Dr. Jeannelle share their first memories of feeling safe. Later, the duo learn that finding out she was married to a narcissist inspired Dr...

Hey y’all. Mikey and Randie, are back after a hiatus of seven months. And in this episode, they detail what’s changed about them and how having boundaries, self-respect, and faith again has affected them and the podcast for the better. Later, Mikey brings a fight or flight that turns into a poem, wondering when Randie will remember who she is. But, just like old times, it’s all love when they show...

Gettin’ Free! : A Juneteenth Collaboration brought to you by Sistas Who Kill: A True Crime Podcast. We know that history is told from the side of the victors, but that leaves room for misinformation and false narratives.  We are on a mission to change that. 11 Black podcasts have come together to reclaim our history and tell it our way - flavor and all. Welcome to a chronological journey to get fr...

Listen to us on:  Youtube  |  iTunes  |  Spotify  |  Stitcher  |  Google Podcasts Didn’t expect a bonus Indie Episode from Randie did you? (Or maybe you did if you caught her latest IG Live) She misses y’all! Mikey and Randie both do. And they want you to consider this episode an apology, an olive branch, and a promise that they will be back sooner than you think with episodes. Get excited. And ....

Listen to us on: Youtube | iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts . Now whoever thought that making more money and making it out of the valley would scare the hell out of Mikey and Randie? Can you relate? Tune in as the Chapmans detail why abundance has been triggering them and find out how they self-sabotage and re-ground themselves back in the present. Because the truth is, it's been...

Listen to us on: Youtube | iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts Was an episode with Randie's dad on your bingo card for 2022? Tune in as Big Ran gets interviewed by the shorter half of the Black Millennial Marriage podcast. Together the two detail their happiest childhood memories and later Randie learns what inspired her dad to give up the drugs you snort and heavy alcohol. Big Ran a...

Listen to us on: Youtube | iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts . There are plenty of things Mikey and Randie wished they remembered before they argued. And in this episode, they’re gonna discuss. Tune in as the couple talk about being on the same team, being allowed to be angry, and remembering that they don’t have to internalize the others’ triggers and more. Later, Mikey brings a fight...

Listen to us on:  Youtube  |  iTunes  |  Spotify  |  Stitcher  |  Google Podcasts . Mikey and Randie are finally on the same page. Tune in as the couple detail their current home buying journey, barriers that stopped them in the past, and why, four years since moving into the Bat Cave, they’re finally ready to take action. Later, Randie brings a fight or flight that makes Mikey laughs till he crie...

Listen to us on: Youtube | iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts If you find that you're always in some type of f*ck sh*t, then you're the problem. You are the problem. But it's not just you though. In this Indie episode, Randie details reading Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. She explains why she finally read the book, confesses to being a codependent in recovery, and re...

Listen to us on:  Youtube  |  iTunes  |  Spotify  |  Stitcher  |  Google Podcasts . Mikey and Randie haven’t had a relationship check-in in a long long time, until today that is. For the inaugural episode of Season 5, tune in as the couple rate sex, family, communication, self, and money on a scale of 1-5. The convo is all things juicy, funny, and enlightening, and they hope to inspire you to chec...

Listen to us on: Youtube | iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts . Phew it's been a long long time, and the Chapmans have missed y'all. In this episode, Mikey and Randie explain their impromptu break, read your emails, play your voicemails, and gift Patreon superlatives.  Later, Randie brings a fight or flight that questions if Mikey knows the true meaning of words. But in the end,...

Listen to us on: Youtube | iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts . Will you laugh until you cry? Mikey and Randie did. Like, real tears while hearing each other read the funniest stories they could find on the internet. After all, it can't  all be doom and gloom--can it? No one can stay down forever, and the Chapmans believe that. There were many many times they never thought they'...

Listen to us on: Youtube | iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Google Podcasts . April 24th marked six years that Mikey and Randie have been married, and it's safe to say they didn’t know what they were really getting into when they said “I do."  So, there lies the question…would they still marry each other if they knew about all the grief they would endure? The answer is "Yes and"…lol....

Listen to us on:  Youtube  |  iTunes  |  Spotify  |  Stitcher  |  Google Podcasts Randie’s stuck on a roller coaster that sends her round and round on a ride of hating herself, shaming herself, and blaming herself for Noble’s death. At least that’s what her therapist says. But why? Why can’t Randie just be sad and mourn without beating herself up? A phone call days before Noble’s birth may give a...

Listen to us on:  Youtube  |  iTunes  |  Spotify  |  Stitcher  |  Google Podcasts . In  Lemonade  Beyoncè said, “Grief sedated by orgasm. Orgasm heightened by grief,” and the Chapmans believe she was on to something. In this episode Mikey and Randie discuss how grief has affected their sex life. Together they detail sex before and after Noble, how sex has evolved, and then end the main segment wit...

Listen to us on:  Youtube  |  iTunes  |  Spotify  |  Stitcher  |  Google Podcasts It’s been a long time since Mikey has dropped an Indie and if you think he’s been stalling, he has. Still, while it’s hard, the father half of the BMM Podcast knows not talking about Noble is not an option. Join him as he details why it’s hard to talk about his deceased son, how he fears he’s just too angry, and worr...