Bite Your Tongue: The Podcast

Pride Month gives us the perfect opportunity to expand our understanding of the LGBTQIA+ community, especially for those of us navigating relationships with our adult children. This heartfelt conversation with Emmy-nominated Matthew Rodriguez , host and executive producer of "It's Okay to Ask Questions ," offers exactly what many parents need—permission to learn without judgment. Ro...

Sally Harris shares her emotional journey through a decade of estrangement with her adult daughter, revealing how she transformed her pain into a mission to help other parents facing similar struggles. • Sally became an alcoholic and extremely unhealthy while her daughter's life was spiraling • After eight years of sobriety, she's now reconciled with her daughter who returned to the fami...

Dr. Charles Fay, CEO of Love and Logic, delivers a masterclass in parenting adult children with the perfect balance of love and accountability. Drawing from decades of experience and his family legacy in developing the Love and Logic approach, Dr. Fay shares transformative strategies that shift our focus from control to influence. At the heart of his message lies a powerful truth: "We can nev...

This was our very first Mother''s Day episode.  I interview my two favorite moms -- Doria and Sharon, two mothers of adult daughters and now both have several grandchildren.  I watch as they continue to share with their grandchildren their magical parenting skills. They share with us their wisdom on creating joyful, respectful relationships with grown children in this special Mother&apos...

In today's episode, Dr. Gene Beresin, Executive Director of the Clay Center for Young and Healthy Minds, explores the complexities of adult children returning home and maintaining healthy relationships during life transitions. Based on four decades of experience with youth and young adults plus his personal journey as a father of four whose adult children all boomeranged at some point, he off...

Today we rewind and delve into the much overlooked topic of sibling relationships.  We speak with Fern Schumer Chapman author of the book Brothers, Sisters, Strangers.  Siblings are the longest relationship we will have in our lives - and our children's.   Whether you're navigating your own sibling estrangement or watching it develop between your children, this conversation offers both v...

We are doing an episode rewind today on our most downloaded episode - Mothers and Daughters.  This relationship carries a unique intensity that often follows us well into adulthood. When does healthy involvement cross into control? How do we navigate the painful territory when our adult daughters push us away? Certified life coach and mother/daughter expert Pam Tronson joins us to unravel the comp...

This is one of our most popular episodes.  Join us for an insightful exploration of the evolving dynamics in parent-child relationships and the often-misunderstood in-law dynamics in our latest podcast episode featuring Rachel Haack . Rachel, a seasoned mental health clinician and mother of five, shares her wealth of knowledge on fostering healthy relationships within family systems.  We delve int...

This episode is a "must listen" for an parent of an adult child on the brink of welcoming a grandchild.  We are thrilled to bring you a special episode with the wise and compassionate Kimberly Beppler, The Grandparent Doula.   Kimberly enlightens us with her journey from assisting postpartum families to recognizing the irreplaceable role grandparents can play in this delicate phase. We u...

🌟 A listener wrote to us about Tina Gilbertson , the guest in today's episode. She told us that Tina "saved her life." The pain and guilt that parents go through when estranged from their adult children is unimaginable.  We asked Tina what really is estrangement? Is it a troubled relationship? Is it silence? "No, she said: "It could also be you talk every day. But maybe t...

This is a very special episode for a couple of reasons. First, we’re thrilled to finally interview Dr. Ellen Braaten , the podcast's original co-host, about her incredible book, Bright Kids Who Couldn’t Care Less. It’s a great conversation.  Second keep listening to find out big news about the podcast But the conversation today is about rekindling your child’s motivation, and the tools she sh...

Today we speak with Karen Denison Clark as she courageously recounts her journey from being a young tennis star victimized by her coach, to becoming a fearless advocate against sexual abuse. Her narrative, shared through powerful media outlets, including The New York Times, serves not only as a beacon of hope for survivors but also as a call to action for creating environments where victims feel s...

Are you missing the signs?  Do you really know how your adult child feels and are you ready to begin to mend a fractured relationship?   In this episode, we sit down with Sally Harris , to explore the nuances of maintaining strong, healthy relationships with adult children. From navigating differing values to addressing estrangement, Sally shares practical advice and strategies for parents strivin...

In this episode, we explore the joys and challenges of visits with adult children, whether during the holidays or throughout the year. Our guests,  Pamela Heckelman , a certified Empty Nest coach, and Rabbi Schlomo Slotkin a seasoned relationship counselor, share their expertise on building stronger, more fulfilling connections with adult children. How can parents create a welcoming home environme...

Today we discuss the circle of life and explore the emotional and delicate balance of caregiving.  For most of us we will be caregivers to our spouse, parents or even our children. And at some point, our own children will be our caregivers.  We are lucky to have two guests.  The first is Dana Eble, who has   been involved in Alzheimer’s disease philanthropy for more than a decade, which led her to...

Prepare to gain invaluable insights into the intricate dynamics of family relationships as we chat with Rachel Haack , a seasoned mental health clinician, mother, and daughter-in-law. We discuss everything from daughter-in-law issues, being a good mother-in-law, grandparent and we even have a poll our guest is going to share about what bugs young adults the most about us - and vise-versa! Rachel o...

How do we transform our parenting roles as our children become young adults? Today we speak with Julie Lythcott-Hames , former Stanford University dean and bestselling author of "How to Raise an Adult" and "Your Turn." Joined by guest co-host Erica Gardner-Gray, we unravel the complexities of modern parenting, addressing societal pressures and the myth of effortless achievement...

Should you be involved in your adult child's dating life?  Listen and find out. Discover the art of balancing parental involvement in your adult children's dating lives as we bring you insights from the esteemed matchmaker, Rachel Greenwald . Our conversation takes a deep dive into the ever-evolving dating landscape, where technology and social media have turned dating into a skill that...

Unlock the secrets to fostering resilient and independent adult children with Dr. Charles Fay, co-founder and CEO of Love and Logic. We promise you'll gain actionable insights into shifting your parental role from caretaker to supportive guide, helping your children thrive as self-reliant individuals. Dr. Fay uncovers the pitfalls of parental guilt and codependency, offering practical strateg...

Ever wondered how to better support your millennial children without overstepping? Tess Brigham , renowned as the "millennial therapist," joins us to share her unique journey from the glitz of Hollywood to the fulfilling world of psychotherapy. Discover her expert insights into fostering independence in young adults by encouraging them to solve their own problems, rather than simply hand...

Would you like to unlock the secrets to building deeper, more rewarding relationships with your adult children? Join us in this BONUS episode rewind for a compelling conversation with Dr. Ruth Nemzoff, author of "Don't Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships with Your Adult Family."  Ruth shares her invaluable insights on transitioning from a central role in your chi...

Another listener favorite! Today we discuss the sometimes difficult, yet rewarding relationships between mothers and daughters. We speak with Pam Tronson, parenting coach with a special certification in mother/daughter relationships.  The connection between a mother and daughter is one of the strongest and most important family relationships. Accepting that it can be difficult and messy is key to...

Ever felt the sting of disappointment when your adult children don't quite live up to your dreams for them? Join us in a special rewind episode where we sit down with the insightful Jane Adams, PhD, author of "When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us."  Jane unpacks the emotional rollercoaster that many parents experience, offering her personal story and expert advice for letting go and al...

We are answering your questions!  When our inbox fills with numerous questions on a particular topic from listeners, we know it's time for a dedicated podcast episode addressing those questions.  However, not every query requires a full episode but each deserves an insightful answer. In this special installment, we've compiled questions from you—our listeners via email and social media—a...

In this episode we talk to Francine Russo, Francine Russo, a renowned journalist and author of "Love After 50: How to Find It, Enjoy It, and Keep It."   Francine shares her personal journey through widowhood and divorce, and the unique advantages of finding love later in life. She says new love in later years is the best love. Listen and find out why. Merging families in adulthood, also...