Birth Mother Matters in Adoption

Podcast 96: Adoption Agency Front Line Workers- Birth Mother Case Manager Assistants Learning about the roles within an adoption agency. Adoption Birth Mother Case Management Assistants are the support team for the birth mother case managers.  Their roles, duties and responsibilities include the following: Birth Mother intakesAssisting with Birth Mother housing during her pregnancyAssist in financ...

The Ugly Side of Adoption: Failed Adoption Matches, Disruptions and Dissolutions Part 2     Regarding the financial aspect of a disruption.  Our attorney has been very strict about not deviating from our contract.    What many adoptive families don’t understand is why they don’t get refunded their money in these situations.  What financially goes into an adoption includes: Agency insurancelegal fe...

Birth Mother Matter in Adoption Episode 94: The Ugly Side of Adoption Failed Adoption Matches, Disruptions and Dissolutions Part 1 What’s the difference between a failed adoption match, an adoption disruption and adoption dissolution? Terminology: Failed Adoption Match is when a birth mother, has established herself with a prospective adoptive family and decides not to procced with an adoption pla...

Birth Mother Matter in Adoption Ep. 93: Expectations vs. Reality in Adoption One of the roles of working with an adoption agency or an adoption attorney is to make sure both the adoptive parents and the birth parents are living on Planet Reality, which can be accomplished by the following to both the adoptive parents and the birth parents: Thoroughly explaining the adoption process in great detail...

  Birth Mother Matter in Adoption Ep. 92: Adoption Match Preferences Differences Between Birth Parents and Adoptive Parent For Adoptive Families Adoption Match Preferences Drug useMental illnessOpen vs. Closed adoptionCommunicationRealistic expectationsWhat is disclosed to bms and what is notRelationship with bm: during pregnancy and afterUnderstanding the internal conflict a bm may have regarding...

For international adoptions, the Hague was implemented for protection of the children, birth parents and adoptive parents. The Hague Convention on Protection of Children and Co-operation in Respect of Intercountry Adoption (Hague Adoption Convention) is an international treaty that provides important safeguards to protect the best interests of children, birth parents, and adoptive parents who are...

Adoption is an entity where scams are a part of our reality and one where we have had to stay ahead of the scams, change our protocol and make sure that our clients understand that we take our jobs seriously.  Let’s dig deeper into birth mothers by breaking scamming down; Why do birth mothers scam adoption agencies? What types of scams have you seen/witnessed? What do you do as an agency to protec...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #89: Why Women Choose Adoption Again In speaking solely for our agency, Building Arizona Families; I get asked this question often from adoptive families:  “What are the chances that our child’s birth mother may get pregnant and choose adoption again?” The answer may surprise you…very possibly. We do everything we can as an adoption agency to assist our birth mothe...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #88: Covid-19, Adoption & Masks AT BAF Adoptions are proceeding as normal in terms of how many women are coming into our agency and choosing to make an adoption plan.  We are still taking all precautions: Building Arizona Families and the Donna K. Evans Foundation are taking the necessary precautions to protect the health and safety of our staff, adoptive families,...

Podcast 88: The Pressure on Family Members When Working in the Adoption World Working in the adoption world is an emotional rollercoaster, time becomes no longer your own, beliefs become rock solid resolute, and you want your loved ones to embrace your passion with the fierce velocity you do.  This all-consuming career choice can have positive and negative effects; sometimes even when things are e...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast 86: What If I Am on the Fence About Making An Adoption Plan & When is it Too Late to Place My Baby For Adoption Sometimes life presents options and opportunities where walking a new path, paving a new road leads to choices, options an opportunities that you may not have considered before.  Adoption is a choice that is as old as time, biblical and honorable....

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #85: Naming Your Baby Adding adoption into the equation, adds another layer.  This is a very, very touchy subject for all parties involved.  This is the way  the law works, at least here in Arizona.  A birth mother can put whatever name she chooses on the birth certificate.  The adoptive family can have the baby’s name legally changed when the adoption is finalized...

Podcast 84: Getting to Know Your Poddcast Co-Hosts Listen and learn all sorts of fun facts about your co-hosts as we dive into our own lives, so you can learn more about us. Hearing chosts once a week and learning bits and pieces of their lives being interwoven as adoption related matters ar discussed.  However,  we thought it would be fun to dedicate one podcast to learn more about us as people a...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #83: Adoption in the News 1) Gerber Babies selected first adopted baby!  Magnolia Earl, a 1-year-old from California, was selected from among more than 327,000 entrants to represent Gerber in marketing campaigns. 2) The first newborn to be legally surrendered under Arkansas' new safe haven law was dropped off at a Benton fire station last week.  3)  DIscussion of t...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #82: Two Lives, One Choice Part 3 of 3 With any documentary there are always people for or against the message the documentary is projecting.  This particular documentary "AKA Jane Roe" is particularly controversal due to the subject matter of abortion.  In the adoption community, abortion is an alternatve that negates many of the beliefs and stands of adoption; ch...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Eopside 81: Two Lives, One Choice, Part 2 of 3 Understanding both side of the abortion coin: ProLife and ProChoice will only educate either side to a greater extent, thereby enabling them better prepared to make a make life change.  As a believer in the ProLife Movement, stepping back and looking at the ProChoice beliefs enables us to see where they are coming from...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 80: Two Lives, One Choice, Part 1 of 3 LIsten to Ron Reigns as he talks about his own experience with abortion and how it has impacted his life and his loved ones.  Listen to what it is like to reveal a regretted previous abortion choice to your spouse.  Listen to the heartbreaking discussion of how to discuss it with his adult son.  Ron shows bravery, hero...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 79: Adoption Miracles According to Dictionary.com, the definition of a miracle is an effect or extraordinary event in the physical world that surpasses all known human or natural powers and is ascribed to a supernatural cause. such an effect or event manifesting or considered as a work of God.a wonder; marvel.a wonderful or surpassing example of some qualit...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #78: Effects of Social Media on Adoption  It is important to be cautious when using social media because there may be some downfalls in incorporating social media and your adoption process, that could potentially open you up to both scams and criticism.   There are many suggestions for adoptive families looking to connect with a birth mother; getting a Google Voice...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode #77: Parenting An Adopted Child, Part 2 Depending on factors, variables, belief in parenting styles parenting a biological child in comparison to parenting an adopted child are not very different. The focus should be added into your parenting rather than taken out.  Here are some examples and suggestions in a brief overview.  Listen to the episode to hear i...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode#76: Parenting a Child  Adopted at Birth There are some variables that may impact and affect the way a parent “parents” a child: Gender of the childParental relationship with their own parents (adopted child’s grandparents) and the parenting they, themselves were reared inA parent’s own temperament, their level of educational, culture, socioeconomic status a...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #75: Misunderstandings Surrounding Adoption Birth Mothers love their babies and are making an adoption choice because they have chosen to put their babies before themselves.  Birth mothers may be facing factors that society may not realize: There may be little to zero support from friends or family members. Drug use and homelessness are very common reasons for an a...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #74: Finding Peace in Uncharted Waters; Reaching the Acceptance Stage To date all of us are surrounded by uncharted territory, learning to navigate and forage new paths, create a new lifestyle, then the one we were previously used to.  Whether we considered ourselves happy, fulfilled, living a life of joy or even the life we wanted to be living, we were familiar wi...

Birth Mother Matters #73: Naseem- A Birth Mother's Adoption Journey Listen to the story of one brave women who choose adoption for her babies.  She shares her selfless choice, her reasons behind her decisions, the struggles and her experience.  She is one of our podcast listeneners who wanted to share her story from another state because she believes in the power of adoption, despite the heartbrea...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast 72: Why do Birth Mothers’ Adoption Experiences Vary? A question that many birth mothers have asked me before, during and after going through an adoption; is why do some birth mothers happy with their adoption choice, and others are not as happy afterwards.   There are so many variables that may positively or negatively affect or impact their journey.   Your...