Birth Mother Matters in Adoption

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption S2 Ep. 147:  Birth Mothers and a Birth Father AZ Pregnancy Help is dedicated to assisting birth mothers in their adoption journey through Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency. Adoption matters!

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption S2, Ep. 146 Abortion Updates & Adoption Impact So many states are introducing new bills regarding abortion.  These bills are geared to restrict abortion and save lives.  Listen and learn about what is happening around you, the less abortions had, the more possibilities for adoptions to occur! 

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption, S2, Ep145: Adoption VS DCS Listen to a former Department of Child Safety worker to understand what happens when a birth mother has an adoption plan and DCS (Department of Child Safety), formally known as CPS (Child Protective Services) arrives at the hospital and tells the birth mother that the state is going to take custody if the birth mother does not complete h...

Birth  Mother Matters in Adoption, S2, Ep. 144  : What I Wish I Had Known... Take a look back with us as we walk down the road of 16 years of working in the adoption community.  Listen to the lessons we have been taught and how we have grown as adoption social workers.  Learn more about understanding birth parents and adoptive families.

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption (BMMIA) Podcast S2, Ep. 143: Reunification From the Adoptive Family's Perspective Our co-host, Kelly's Rourke-Scarry's adoptive parents open up about their thoughts, feelings and experiences when she reunited with her birth mother.   Listen to one family's experience with adoption reunification.  Learn about how their adult daughter reunfied with her birth mother a...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast Season 2 Episode 142: Reunification, My Story I was born in 1973 and placed for adoption prviately.  My adoption was a closed adoption.  I looked to find my birth mother and was sucessfully reunited in 2007.  Listen as I talk about what that was like, how it felt and what I have learned.  Adoption reunifications can be as different as snowflakes and adoptee...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast Season 2 Ep.141: Factors That Can Prevent Someone From Adopting    Not every person who wants to be an adoptive parent will be qualified or eligible to adopt.  The way eligibility is determined is through the adoption home study process.  Every state has their own individual requirements to be eligible to adopt.  In this podcast we are going to focus on the...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast Season 2; Ep. 140: Sharing Fatherhood “It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.”– Johann Friedrich von Schiller Birth fathers may be an important part of the adoption; whether they are directly or indirectly involved is their choice.  Birth fathers have their own feelings, thoughts and emotions regarding the adoption of their...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast Season 2 Ep. 139:  Sharing Motherhood Sharing motherhood between two women is something that can be extremely hard to conceptualize or accept.  When a woman chooses to make an adoption plan, she selflessly chooses to share her role as a mother with an adoptive mother.  This choice is an incredible one.  Sharing motherhood is an incredibly complicated concep...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast 138: Why Choosing Adoption for an Unplanned Pregnancy May Be Benefit A Birth Mother’s Other Biological Children Choosing adoption for an unplanned pregnancy is one thing when you do not have other children to consider, but another when you do. Choosing adoption in these cases may benefit your other children in ways you may not even realize. If you are pregn...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2: 137:  Biological Grandparents Role in the Adoption Process What roles can Birth Grandparents play in an adoption plan? The “birth grandparents” are direct lineage to the adopted child, their medical history and social history matter to both the adoptee, the Aps and the birth parents.  They are more than just an extension of the BPs they can contribute the...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption, Season 2,  Episode 136: Adoption Matters; 2020 A Year in Review Take a walk back with us as we review 2020 in the adoption world. Looking back at 2020, we discuss all the factors that played into successful and unsuccesfful adoption outcomes.  We look at the status of the Paul Peterson case.  We look at where the abortion laws stand today.  Follow us on Facebook,...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, Ep. 135: The CHRISTMAS EPISODE Remember to: Give yourself and your family grace regarding phone calls/skypes and facetime since COVID-19  has prevented so many families get together. Avoiding holiday parties and get togethers is the best idea for a newborn for many reasons- and COVID-19 adds another layer! Relish in the small things. Make little special m...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption  S 2 Ep.134: Choosing CPS/DCS Over Adoption- P2 When making the choice to work with DCS, Birth Mothers may be given the opportunity to participate in services to rectify the issue that brought their baby into the state’s care and custody.   The Department of Child Safety Reunification Plan may include the following depending on the birth mother’s circumstances for...

When experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, sometimes there may not be a favorable option.  These two paths are quite different journeys and understandably can present a difficult decision. For some women, after delivering their baby they must choose between private adoption or placing their baby in the care and custody of  Department of Child Safety (in some states this entity is referred to as Chi...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 132: The Profile of a Birth Father Some interesting things that the public may not understand or be aware of regarding birth fathers: We see repeat birth fathers with different birth mothers at different times. Birth fathers can have access to many adoption services, but rarely engage: CounselingCommunication with the Adoptive ParentsDevelop an independen...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, #131: Birth Mother Expenses Both adoptive parent and birth parents have many questions surrounding birth parent funding.  This podcast will address birth parent expenses and what an adoption agency or adoption attorney in the State of Arizona is allowed to disburse to a birth mother.  This podcast is geared to the laws for Arizona State only, however for...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 130: Being the Bearer of Bad Tidings Sometimes in the adoption world, we have to deliver bad news.   No one likes to be the bearer of bad news.  One of the reason is they are the ones to catch the brunt of the bad news, regardless of whether it is within their control or not.  The concerns of the deliverer of bad news really focus on: How to manage their...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Podcast, Season 2, Episode 129: Understanding Desperation in Adoption Some Birth Mothers come into an adoption agency because they are pregnant, and many women have reached a point of desperation due to situations such as: Being Homeless; scared to remain on the street due to being pregnant, and they are hungry and cold/hotThe pregnancy may be the result of an act...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 128: Birth Mother Support Birth Mothers need and want your support as an adoptive family.  Here are some ways you can effectively show your support. (Always make sure these ideas and suggestions are in compliance with your state adoption laws, your attorney and/ or agency adoption laws.) Send support notes to your birth mother that are handwritten that sh...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 127: Why Holidays Can Be Hard Holidays can be tough on people regardless of whether or nor they have an adoption plan.  Sometimes both Adoptive Families and Birth Parents have a difficult time.  Christmas is considered by many to be the  “most wonderful time of the year,” but often it is just magnifying the trying times you may be experiencing .  The holi...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 126: What Happens When a Family Walks Away Sometimes an adoptive family is matched with a birth mother and changes their mind and walks away either after being matched or after the baby is born.  This podcast will dive into the reasons as to why adoptive families would pour time, resources and emotions into an adoptive match and then walks away from the b...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 125: Covid-19 & Adoption Updates Updates on Covid-19 as they impact and affect birth mothers/birth fathers and adoptive families. What we as an adoption agency are doing: Masks are mandatoryTemperature checksFollowing all social distancing guidelinesMedical grade air purifiersAcrylic ShieldsHandwashing / Hand Sanitizer are available and advisedOffices are...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 124: Is Adoption a Taboo Subject? Definition of taboo according to the Merriam-webster.com/dictionary  a: a prohibition imposed by social custom or as a protective measure… b: something that is not acceptable to say, mention, or do : something that is taboo… As part of the adoption community, it is our responsibility to increase adoption awareness, promot...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, Podcast 123: Factors Contributing to Successful Adoptions Many adoptive families inquiring about adoption what they could have done to increase their chances of their adoption being a success.  We have spoken in previous podcasts about why adoptions sometimes fail due to the birth mother or birth parents.  So that begs the question; can adoptive families...