Birth Mother Matters in Adoption

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 21: Adoption Reunification Part 2 of 2   Important Facts About Adult Adoption Reunification: It is not adoptees with poor relationships with adoptive parents that are most satisfied with birth family contact or as a result of negative adoptive family relationships. Every adopted person has two histories, one from their adoptive family and one from their birth famil...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 20: Adoption Reunification Part 1 of 2 Adoption Reunificaiton as An Adult Adoptee, the story, the understanding.  From beginning to end, an inside look into what it is really like.  Listen and learn from Kelly Rourke-Scarry as she shares her own story of reunification and correlates it to the Ruth A. Moran's 4 Stages of Emotion in Post Adoption Reunification. Ruth...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 19: Why Adoption Aftercare Now?   Not all heroes wear capes, they just wear smiles and my mother wore I huge one.  I learned this through my own adoption story.  I believe all people have a purpose in life; this is mine.  All the roads in my life have lead me to where I am today.  I do what I love, but more importantly, I am giving back and leaving a legacy of my m...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 18: Adoption: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly As the co-founder and agency director, there is little I have not seen, heard or experienced.  There should be no secrets in adoption.  When public figures adopt it brings light and awareness to adoption, which assists in adoption awareness, but without releasing personal information it also breeds assumptions, myths an...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption  Episode 17: A Little Self-Esteem Can Go A Long Way  Self-esteem is the stairway out of the basement.  Many of our birth mothers find themselves in negative life cycles and one reason for their adoption choice may be to break the familial negative life cycle.  There is a common thread among many women who wear the moniker of low self-esteem. Adoption can be a way t...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 16: Life After Abortion- A Father's Perspective  Its time to listen to a father's perspective on life after abortion.  Understanding a father's perspective on abortion is rare and underexplored.  Birth fathers have thoughts, feelings, emotions and pain over the abortion and it is time their voice is heard. Whose right to choose is it really? What life may really be...

Paul David Petersen is an Arizona Attorney and a Maricopa County Assessor accused of running a multi-million dollar illegal adoption scheme.  The charges span about three years and involve as many as 75 adoptions.  Paul Peterson was charged in Utah, Arizona and Arkansas with counts including  fraud, forgery, human smuggling, sale of a child, and conspiracy to commit money laundering. Since adoptio...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 14: Grief & Loss in Adoption: Adopted Children, Part 3 of 3 Understanding Grief and Loss in Adoption: Adopted Children.  Listen and learn from an Adoption Professional as well as an adult adoptee. At some point in an adopted child's lifetime, they may experience grief and loss.  Adoptive parents can assit their children through the process of grief and loss and be...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 13: Grief & Loss in Adoption Part 2 of 3: Adoptive Families Adoptive parents may experience grief and loss to some degree both before, during and after the adoption process.  Understand that with adoption comes change; people deal with change in different ways; some easily acclimate to change, while others take time and may experience grief.   Adding a a new family...

Grief & Loss In Adoption: Part One : Birth Mothers “There are two different kinds of strength. There’s the strength to make a parenting plan and then there’s the strength to give that plan to another.” Unknown Birth Mothers do experience grief and not to acknowledge it would be unfair to those experiencing grief and negligent on behalf of society.  To understand birth mother/ birth father grief is...

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption, Episode # 11.  Adressing the "Elephants" in the Adoption Room.    Adoption has so many variables, phrases, various aspects, misunderstandings, myths and unaddressed areas.  Its time to address those issues about adoption so we as a society can become more adoption knowledgeable.  The goal of this podcast is to address those areas that we often avoid about adop...

Abortion is a subject that can be very controversial, however in my experience, often times the strongest abortion advocates have the little understanding of adoption or abortion. Adoption education is paramount.  It is impossible to fully understand the global impact that abortion has on adoption without facts.  Abortion has been a highly debated topic, often frequenting the news, as well as vari...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 9: The Life of a Birth Mother: Snowflakes Birth mothers come from all walks of life. There is no “typical” birth mother and is a mistake to stereotype a birthmother. There are often similarities, but every single birth mother is different, like a snowflake. The portrait of a birthmother has changed over the past fifteen years, but to stereotype or categorize is wro...

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption; Episode 8:Talking to Adopted Children About Being Adopted.    Adoptive Parents often wonder when is the right time to tell their adopted child that they are adopted. They want to learn how to tell them, which resources to use and how to utilize them, how to normalize adoption among their family and friends and lean about hows, whys, dos and don'ts in speaking with...

Adoption is becoming more and more talked about and with more knowledge, comes more questions.  Knowledge is power, so lets become “adoption powerful” because as a society, the more we understand adoption, the more normalize the adoption process, the more accepting it will become, which I believe will negotiate abortion being the popular option and will push adoption to the default option when par...

Your adoption choice, open, semi-open or closed, is one hundred percent your choice. An uplanned pregnancy and an adoption choice does not have to mean that you never see your child again.  If you are on the fence as to deciding between an open or a closed adoption, most birth and adoptive parents find that speaking and meeting with one another before making a commitment, helps them to decide whet...

The mission of the Donna K. Evans Foundation is helping women after placing a baby for private adoption. The goal is to provide women a safe place to return for help; to reach their own life goals and dreams after private placement of their baby for adoption. Any woman who has placed a baby for adoption, regardless of the agency used for their adoption, may utilize our services at any time after t...

It’s a normal question, because most people are unaware of many ways adoption benefits the biological mother who places a baby for adoption.  The beautiful process of adoption offers a tremendous upside for the biological mother that have the potential to be life changing. Some examples include (some are exclusive to our agency): Select and meet adoptive parentsChoose an adoption plan best for you...

The abortion issue! So as an agency, we decided to take a stand and be bold.  After seeing on the news that celebrities are seeking to emulate the #metoo hashtag with the #youknowme hashtag so women who have had an abortion can stand together in unity. WHAT?!?! Where is the hashtag for ADOPTION??? We launched the You Before Me campaign. We believe that courageous women who choose adoption, deserve...

Taking the First Step in Making an Adoption Plan If you find yourself pregnant and parenting, regardless of your reason is not an option for you. Take the first step, accept that you are pregnant. Your life is not going to spiral out of control, you are in the driver’s seat and can stay in control. You don’t have to do this alone.  Adoption is a big decision, it’s a choice that can feel overwhelmi...

Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency Co-Founder Kelly Rourke-Scarry and Radio Personality Ron Reigns, developed a podcast to provide education, support, interviews and news regarding adoption. This podcast is geared for anyone interested in adoption, considering adoption, in the adopted process, and for women who are pregnant and considering adoption. Adoption is a triad of three entities: Bi...