Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke

What happens when you start defining yourself, and your way of being by your attachment style? Do they confine us, creating a trap we unwittingly fall into? In this episode I'm exploring if placing a label on ourselves does us any justice. I share my journey, navigating the nuances of Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant styles, exploring solitude and the rollercoaster of ambivalence in r...

Join me in exploring the impactful journey of H, a listener navigating entitlement during pivotal life moments. H shares her experience with entitlement during pregnancy and childbirth. This episode explores the broader theme of politicizing intimate aspects of our lives and why it's important to stand firm in your experience and not allow others to dictate or deny it. I also opened up about...

These past few months have felt heavy. After writing my book for what seemed to be going on for 3 years, I had to rewrite it as I realised I was writing the wrong book. So that's where I've been, rewriting my book which is now in the safe hands of my publishers. I also want to update you on the on-and-off relationship with my ex, the person I love the deepest and share my insights in rea...

No matter what we say or do, there's always someone ready to dissect, criticise, or just plain misinterpret us. But should we let that silence us? Absolutely not. In this episode I ask you some important questions to help you see where you are holding back, censoring your thoughts, or watering down your message because you fear being misunderstood. It's something many of us grapple with,...

Lately, I've been thinking about the labels society places on us. You might know me as a ‘content creator’ or as someone who influences, but that's just what you see on the surface. My daily work delves deeper than I could ever show you online. It involves extensive research and mentorship. I'm all about exploring self-sabotage and self-censorship and understanding the truth of our...

Prepare yourself for a thought-provoking exploration of three profound life lessons that shaped my path. Last year Steven Bartlett created a Self Development Coaching project, and I was one of the selected coaches. I led the segment on mental health and different elements of spirituality, but through the lens of very grounded, realistic, sustainable self-improvement. I recently found many of the n...

Ever wondered what it feels like to get feedback that challenges you to truly be yourself? Well, I've had that experience recently when I received feedback on the first draft of my book. My editors were quick to point out that I was holding back in my writing. Sure, it stung a bit, but I've come to realise the value of their honesty. Let's be real, sharing openly about this is impor...

Who really holds the strings to who you are? Join me as we dive deep into the captivating concept of self-reputation. I'll unravel the risks tied to seeking external validation and instead, offer a path to nurturing a self-reputation that echoes your values and authenticity. In a world where surveillance is the norm, we can't ignore the hurdles. Think of this episode as your compass, gui...

I’ve been very excited to sit down and record this episode, GIDDY even! I wanted to have a conversation that has been on my heart and mind for a while. Are our standards getting mixed up with unrealistic expectations? And how is this likely sabotaging all areas of our lives? Let’s talk about it. Join me as I share personal experiences and lessons, emphasising the importance of well-defined, ground...

In this episode, I had the opportunity to interview Light Watkins about his book 'Travel Light' and the fascinating concept of spiritual minimalism. We delved into the idea of choicelessness and Light explained how it can lead to greater freedom, peace, and contentment. True minimalism starts from within, decluttering not just physical spaces but also minds and beliefs. I wholeheartedly...

Have you ever stopped to think about all the challenges and struggles we face in our lives? From financial difficulties to relationship issues and personal growth, it can feel like we're constantly navigating through a storm. But here's the thing - it's okay not to have it all figured out. In fact, it's important to be honest with ourselves and give ourselves the grace to take...

This question has been on my mind lately as I reflect on the concept of visibility and authenticity. I've noticed that even those who are already famous or in the public eye can struggle with truly being seen. It's as if there's a disconnect between external recognition and internal discomfort. Drawing from my experiences with clients who grapple with visibility, I see the profound...

I had a wonderful conversation with my friend Sarah on her podcast 'Live Well Be Well' and I just HAD to share it over here because I know it's going to be a useful resource for many of you. Navigating the road to sobriety might be challenging, but it's also a ticket to greater self-understanding, more meaningful connections, and a significant drop in shame. In this lively epis...

Communication breakdown is a major issue today, and learning how to communicate better with ourselves and others is essential. This is where assertive communication comes in. I discuss different communication styles in this episode, including passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive. Identifying your communication style is crucial to navigating self-censorship, cultural conflicts, and personal...

Join me on a personal journey exploring conflict avoidance and intimacy. Discover how avoiding discomfort can hinder genuine connections and carry hidden costs. In today's episode (which is one of my favourites!), I share my experiences and how my attachment style shaped my relationships. Hear a poignant story of how conflict avoidance inhibited intimacy in one of my relationships, for seven...

Does it feel like you're being forced to choose between two worlds, and you can no longer straddle them anymore? Today I wanted to give you permission to choose, to let go of past versions of yourself and the ideologies that are not working. I know the struggle of holding onto versions of ourselves that no longer work, but I want to share in this episode the importance of making a decision an...

Have you ever questioned if it's possible for someone to participate in cancel culture and still feel fulfilled in life? I dive deep into this topic with empathy and understanding, exploring the emotional dysregulation that may drive people to take part in these rituals and discussing the idea that cancel culture is a form of collective sabotage. Later in the episode, Veronica joins us to sha...

Today we're revisiting Ep 12 and the concept of 'faking it till you make it'. As a coach, I do a lot of work around identity and helping people discover who they truly are. And in this episode, I explore why faking it can be damaging because it takes away from the journey of discovering our true selves. In this episode, I share my insights from my own life on the topic of sex and re...

I’ve never shared anything like this publicly… Have you ever experienced the pain of grieving a difficult breakup? Today I'm sharing my current journey through the stages of grief; from denial to acceptance. I’ll be offering my insights through real-time sharing - which is new to me in many ways. Join me as I explore the lessons learned from past relationships, the role of timing, and individ...

Have you ever felt like you needed to reintroduce yourself to the world? In this episode, I discuss the power of reintroduction and how it can be a transformative process for changing oneself and being honest with others. I talk about how reintroduction is an invitation to meet the person you are becoming, and it's important to reintroduce yourself to yourself and not worry about other people...

Staying in integrity with oneself is a non-negotiable for me, and I share my personal experience of accepting my deep desire to be led by a man and doing personal work to understand my fractured relationship with masculinity. I talk about the difference between being controlled and being led in a healthy way and the importance of polarity in relationships.  This episode is a must-listen if you wan...

In November, I went on Instagram Live to pose this thought provoking question to my community: Do your public opinions match your private (and most honest) views? Today I'm sharing that live with you so you can hear my views on this question and how different people answer it.  Are you being effective with how you communicate or not? Are you willing to die on the hill for every opinion you gi...

This episode is a MUST LISTEN. It's easy to believe you're not worthy, that you shouldn't be where you are, and that you lack the skills for your position. And maybe you're right, but is this really imposter syndrome? Today I'm exploring imposter syndrome in a new light, so when you're listening to this episode, make sure you stay open to what I'm saying! I also...

Well, well, well….it’s been a while since we've talked, but good news is in store! In this episode, I wanted to give you a general update (strained voice in tow) and a look into my journey of fighting to get my attention span back! I also share some thoughts on the benefits of choosing slow living, getting curious about what success means to me, and landing on a BOOK TITLE. Dive on in. Book m...

No option but to get honest...let's talk! Books mentioned: Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri Winston Tantric Orgasm for Women - Diana Richardson Tantric Orgasm for Men - Diana Richardson Practices mentioned: Pussy Gazing Tantric / Yoni massage If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and...