Beyond Surviving with Rachel Grant

I connect with Aaliyah Hammer-Furbert about the research she conducted as a part of the AP Capstone Diploma program on the power of collective healing through synchronicity. Just 18 years old, Aaliyah is already a powerful voice in the healing world and her research shows us that there is so much to gain from incorporating structures that support uniting people in their healing process. Read her s...

I know in my own healing journey, there were many days when I think, "Can't all of this sh*t just been done already!" I wanted to rush ahead, push on, hurry up the process. And so so so many of my clients feel that same internal pressure to "get over it" fast. This is not how life or healing works though (gasp!). Instead, we must understand all of the ways our inner child has been bullied to hurry...

Finding ways to feel and express anger is one of the most powerful ways to heal your inner child. That part of you that had so much to say and express and never got to - yeah, it's not going to just magically go away. Worse - this suppression leads to people pleasing, emotional shutdown, and even depression. Let's explore ways to give our inner child permission to express anger! #beyondsurviving #...

I remember a time in my life when I felt absolutely swarmed with negative thoughts. From the moment I woke up to the moment I went to bed, it was like navigating a field of land mines and constantly mis-stepping. The thoughts were like bombs going off and so all I could do was survive each day and just beg for sleep so I'd have a little bit of reprieve. This, my beloveds, is not how we are meant t...

This week, we explore the ways we can nurture and reassure our inner child so that we can generate stillness, calm, relaxation and release the churning thoughts and mental alertness that can stop us from being able to rest. #beyondsurviving #yearoftheinnerchild #rest #safety #nurturing #hypervigilence #reparenting #discovery #authenticself #healingispossible #coachrachelsays #nervoussystemregulati...

Are you constantly sacrificing yourself and your peace, because you spend a lot of time seeking the approval of others and doing everything you can to escape disapproval or disagreement? Yeah – I’ve sooooo been there – and it is exhausting. Let’s explore how we can reclaim our peace, let go of an excessive need for approval, and use self-love as a powerful tool for transformation. #beyondsurviving...

I connect with Keeper Catran-Whitney and we discuss a very important and often ignored topic: the hidden trauma brothers experience after learning their sisters have been sexually abused. We discuss the importance of brothers being invited to engage, so they can become allies with their sisters and also heal in their own right. This hidden trauma must no longer be so! Keeper wants you to know, “We...

When you are raised in a household where there is more unpredictability than consistency, your nervous system becomes aligned with chaos and dysregulation. Remolding your nervous system such that consistency (rather than rigidity or perfectionism) becomes the new norm is a process, but there is so much to gain and this is such a beautiful way to reparent our inner child - to give them the dependab...

Learning how to invest our time in nurturing and maintaining friendships is critical to our self growth. Yet we often remain in friendships that are unhealthy for fear of losing connection. Let's explore how to start spending our "people points" on people who will support our growth! #beyondsurviving #yearoftheinnerchild #friendships #bonding #connection #discovery #authenticself #healingispossibl...

Get ready folks! Today we really dig into the heart of the matter when it comes to inner child work - reparenting! We discuss how to heal our nervous system if our foundation was unfavorable through offering ourselves right now, in the present day, the comfort and nurturing we need without judgment. #beyondsurviving #yearoftheinnerchild #reparenting #comfort #nurturing #solidfoundation #discovery...

For many of us who grew up in unpredictable households, we crave "sameness" as we have come to believe that this is what would protect us and keep us safe, and so we fear change. But change is an opportunity, an invitation to become attuned to ourselves and the world, to grow, and to find our way "home". Let's explore how we can uplevel our relationship to change so we don't miss out on its gifts!...

I chat with Camil Martinez about her journey healing from childhood trauma, writing her book, and how sharing her story has led to even more healing. Camil wants you to know, “Telling your story is for yourself – no one else!” Facebook group- Helping Victims Become Survivors Learning to Cope Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/beyond-surviving . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for...

When we grow up in abusive households, often that comes with a lot of rigidity and control. We are often being told EXACTLY HOW to do things and are not given space to explore our own approaches, ways of doing and being. This week, we get to explore the power of tuning in and allowing ourselves to do things OUR WAY! #beyondsurviving #yearoftheinnerchild #mastery #learning #intelligences #ididitmyw...

One the the by products of trauma is that we don't feel safe in the world and with people. One of the ways we try to mitigate this fear and pain is by becoming manipulative and demanding of others. We want things done OUR WAY! A huge part of healing is being able to "create solutions that meet [your] needs without violating anyone else's boundaries." We explore today how we can pursue our happines...

We often think of intelligence as being all about IQ, knowledge, and wit. But what would you say if I told you that intelligence actually has a lot to do with curiosity?! Today, we explore all of the wise ways our inner child found to survive trauma, but also the importance of freeing our inner child to express their natural genius through exploration and curiosity. #beyondsurviving #yearoftheinne...

We are often left feeling small and powerless as a result of abuse, and that inner child can remain feeling this way even as we biologically become adults. This can cause so much chaos in our lives and can lead us to accept and put up with bullying and abusive behavior. Today, we learn how to tap into our power and courage to be able to say no to abusive or bullying behavior (especially when WE ar...

I connect with Dr. Amy Hoyt, who shares about her own experience as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Now married for 23 years and a mom of 5, Amy shares how she learned to create safety and intimacy in her relationship using "benevolent curiosity" to examine her triggers, patterns and relationship dynamics in order to understand herself without shame. Amy wants you to know, “There is so much...

As a result of trauma, our relationship to our body and, in particular, expression through movement of the body, can be riddled with detachment and triggers and shame. This week, we explore healing the inner child through movement as an act of self-love rather than the pressure to achieve particular outcomes like weight loss or strength. Here's to tapping into your physical essence! #beyondsurvivi...

Do you forget to eat? Do you ignore signals to go to the bathroom and just keep pressing through whatever you're doing? Do you sometime catch yourself not breathing? Lack of attunement to the signals your body is sending is a common outcome of abuse. We are taught to ignore our needs and may also be stuck in patterns of numbing and dissociation that were used to help us survive the abuse. This wee...

It's very common for households where abuse is occurring for there to also be rigid rules about how things "should" be done, standards that one is expected to live up to (or else face painful consequences), along with shaming and punishment when failures or mistakes occur. We integrate a message of "I am not good enough" as a result and in our adult lives can become the source of demanding perfect...

One of the things I'm constantly reassuring my clients about is the truth that however ugly or dark their past might be, there is always the choice and opportunity to create a future for themselves that is not mired in the pain of abuse. This means actively seeking the light in order to "create beauty out of the ugliness". It also means re-parenting your inner child to bring them out of the darkne...

Being able to step out into the world, take risks, and set about the task of creating a social life is no small thing for those of use who have been so gravely harmed by the choices and actions of others. We may have grown up very isolated and without the opportunities to develop social skills, which can make socializing all the more anxiety provoking. Yet, part of claiming our live and developing...

In this episode of Beyond Surviving, I connect with Neal Brownell, The Crazy Inventor. Born virtually blind and being misdiagnosed as being mentally slow until the age of 7, Neal came to believe that he was worthless and would never amount to anything. Even after his disability was discovered, it wasn’t until he was 11 years old that he was nurtured by a loving teacher and could begin to see himse...

When trauma teaches you that you are worthless, the natural outcome is to go out into the world and to seek validation and reassurance that you are lovable. Unfortunately, many of us go about doing this in ways that are ultimately destructive - to ourselves and our relationships. This week's invitation is to seek validation from within! #beyondsurviving #yearoftheinnerchild #validation #relationsh...

A little while ago, I came across this little tip. Instead of saying, “I don’t have time for…”, say, “I’m not prioritizing…”! Man – did that ever kick me in the butt. I began thinking about time ass an invitation to consider what matters, what do I want to invest in. How do I use the time I have. And I love that. I also love to think about the abundance of time – that there is no such thing as “to...