Beyond Success

Men who have a desire to improve at dating often fall into the trap of tactics. And they fundamentally believe that their lack of success is not because of them, but because of the modern dating world.  So they seek to "optimize" individual tactics involved in modern dating—fixing their profile on dating apps, becoming more successful in their career, hitting the gym and getting a six-pack—without...

Does your relationship feel like it's dying a slow death? The passion is gone. The original spark has been extinguished. And resentment for your partner may even be surfacing.  Here's the truth: This is a "stress test" almost all relationships go through. But if you're a people pleaser, then, well, this is usually where your relationship goes to die.  Why? Because people pleasers see the signs of...

When you want to become more successful in business, relationships, or life, most people focus on tactics, strategies, and skills. But there's a bigger obstacle to your success than your lack of tactics, strategies, and skills… In fact, without first addressing this obstacle, success will never come easy, no matter how hard you keep pushing.  Why? Because the obstacle you have to overcome is yours...

Question:  Have you ever reached a high point in life (a major win, a big breakthrough, or a massive milestone)... only to feel like the rug's been pulled from underneath you?  Well, I have good news and bad news: If you find yourself second guessing yourself, procrastinating, picking fights with loved ones, or just a sinking, uneasy feeling that shows up whenever an opportunity knocks on your doo...

When your team, family, and friends rely on you for everything, and you don't know how to say no, then you're on a path of self-destruction.  Why? Because an inability to set boundaries and assert yourself stems from toxic shame you picked up at some point in your life. If you don't address this toxic shame, burn out, resentment, and self-loathing follow.  That's the bad news.  The good news? Whil...

Most people never stop to question today's topic. But it silently poisons relationships, teams, and even your own peace of mind.  Worst part? It masquerades as an innocent and harmless way to blow off steam. But it actually erodes trust, creates drama, and keeps pressing problems unresolved.  Of course, we're talking about gossip today. Not only is it harmful to anyone you gossip to and about, but...

A messy breakup or divorce can cause devastating trickle down consequences when you don't learn how to rebuild your trust.  But many people wrongly believe that time can heal all wounds. But this passive approach leads you down a road of fear, resentment, and isolation.  Why?  The truth is that time does not heal emotional wounds. And expecting it to will only trick you into repeating the same pat...

Do you struggle making tough decisions because indecision is easier? While this is something everyone confronts at one point or another, it comes with a steep cost:  While indecision might feel like it provides relief in the short term, it eventually erodes your confidence, your relationships, and your ability to lead. It also creates a ripple effect that extends to every other aspect of your life...

Going through a breakup or recovering from a divorce is one of the most emotionally complex experiences you'll ever face.  It's always messy and layered. And if you don't approach it with the right mindset, you'll fall back into the old patterns and habits that destroyed your previous relationships.  That's the bad news.  The good news?  Not only are emotions temporary and fleeting, including the...

There is nothing more gut-wrenching than a divorce or the end of a long-term relationship. It makes you question everything. And nobody gives you a manual for how to rebuild your personal life after a messy breakup.  The modern dating landscape makes this even more difficult. Dating apps can feel like a second job that doesn't pay or even lead to dates. And the professional skills you've developed...

Does success feel hollow? Or worse, like a weight around your neck?  This is a common feeling for high achievers who were led to believe that success brings fulfillment. When you realize this isn't true, burnout, a lack of connection, and deep sense of dissatisfaction can rear their ugly heads.  But what if you could transform your life from the inside out?  That's exactly what I show you how to d...

Do you find yourself in a never-ending chase for the next achievement, the next form of external validation? Well, despite how rampant this chase runs through high achievers, it leads you down a road that only ends in exhaustion, disappointment, and even depression.  Worst part?  No matter how much "success" you accumulate, it will never provide the deep sense of fulfillment your soul is yearning...

We're taught from a young age that success is the best path to a fulfilling and satisfying life. So achievers dedicate themselves to achieving, thinking it will bring success.  The problem is, success is not the same thing as fulfillment. And often, the more successful you become, the emptier you feel inside. As your relationships crumble, your self-doubt, loneliness, and existential fear consume...

Most achievers who want more from life—whether in their relationships, career, or fulfillment—turn to best-selling self-help books. But most of the "wisdom" in these bestsellers doesn't stand the test of time—at least not when compared to ancient texts that have helped people for thousands of years.  One such ancient book that offers a treasure trove of wisdom is called the Zhuangzi, an early Daoi...

Your earliest relationships when you were a child can significantly impact your relationships as an adult.  How?  Well, when you're young, you develop one of four attachment styles that can make or break your relationships today. The problem is, only one of these attachment styles set you up for a long, thriving relationship. While the other three are the culprits behind why you've sabotaged past...

Do you find yourself hopping from one toxic relationship to the next? If so, here's a tough pill to swallow: You're the common denominator—especially if you think you've just gotten unlucky in relationships.  But here's the truth…  Until you take full responsibility for your own actions and behaviors, no matter how big or small, you'll keep repeating the same toxic patterns.  But there is a soluti...

Nothing is more destructive than a toxic relationship. It's more dangerous than a bad diet, a lack of exercise, and even smoking. Energy-sapping relationships don't just mess with your mental health, they also shorten your life.  But how do you build a thriving, long-term relationship that grows stronger each year, instead of one that devolves into resentment, or worse, passionless?  Well, that's...

The longest running study in history has proven, with 80+ years of data to back it up, that your relationships are the single most important factor for your longevity, happiness, and even your career.  Here's the problem:  The reverse is also true. In fact, being in a bad marriage can shave off 12 literal years of your life. To make matters worse, most people never think that their relationships a...

Therapy is one of the best ways to better understand yourself, your emotions, and your past. Especially with how they impact your present.  Until it's not.  Staying in therapy for too long can turn into an endless loop of processing feelings without ever moving forward. It makes you feel stuck in a victim mindset, haunted by your past, instead of actively working to change your present and future....

Your decision-making process is the single most critical skill you'll ever need. Figure out how to make good decisions that align with your values, and your life will become immeasurably better. Neglect this skill and your life can turn into a nightmare faster than a speeding bullet. So, how can you improve your decisions and, as a result, your life? Despite what most people think, you can't make...

There is a massive, misery-inducing downside of success: While achievements are great, they aren't enough to make life meaningful. But most achievers have been tricked into believing the exact opposite. And the more they achieve their wildest goals, the more empty they feel inside.  If you keep grinding without reflecting on why you're so miserable, you may find yourself ready to call it quits wit...

If you're an achiever, whether you notice it or not, you're on a dangerous path.  Why?  Well, most achievers fall into something I call the "Achiever's Trap." It's an endless vicious cycle of achieving. Now, that might not sound dangerous at first, but a constant desire for success can only lead to burnout, isolation, depression, and even an early death.  There are other things which, believe it o...

After helping hundreds of thousands of people, from 87 different countries, find fulfillment, happiness and meaning in their personal and professional lives, I've decided to start a new journey to help you do the same.  Beyond Success is a brand-new show that explores the ideas that lead to lasting happiness and fulfillment—not just short-lived "success."  If you've succeeded on the outside but fe...

Socially awkward guys don't get girls, that's the cold, hard truth. But hiding your social awkwardness and anxiety isn't the answer either. When you repress, exile, and cut out your social anxiety in order to feel good about yourself, you force it further into your subconscious. And when you cram it into the depths of your brain? It's still active, and it's still there sabotaging your success, but...

Do you buy into the myth that success alone brings happiness and fulfillment? The techniques 95% of Americans use to strive for success, growth, and personal development guarantees they won't be fulfilled in the long run. There is a completely different and unique way to approach success. And it's imperative you discover this way to gain personal happiness, success, and insane amounts of growth in...