bestofourselves podcast

We learn early in life what is OK to be and what is not Ok to be.  It frames our choices and limits us from accepting the whole of ourselves. Resources Old Patterns Podcast Cleaning Out Our Thinking

Stumped by the question, "What do you really, really, really want? No really!" Resources Myth - Monkey Movement Becoming What We Might Have Been Podcast What Are You For? Podcast

It is so easy to take other's reaction to us as being a reflection of us.  In reality, it is more a reflection of them.  Learning to not take things personally is quite freeing! Resources The Mindtrap of Simple Stories Lessons in Projection

It's inspiring to witness small groups of people using their energy to make a positive difference in the world. Resources Changing the World Three Feet at a Time Loving Our Community Finding Community

I am working on my intention to "trust the unfolding".  It was amusing to find a myth I had written years ago, reflecting the same question. Resources Between Trust and Effort Podcast Imprisoned by Our Story Podcast

Too often, we push to make things happen.  Sometimes, it will serve us to watch what is unfolding. The wisdom is in diserning what is called for. Resources Compose with the Unfolding Podcast Intentionality Podcast

Identifying the inner critic is present helps.  Learning how to change our relationship with it, is critical for our growth and well-being.  Thanks to Roxanne Howe Murphy for allowing me to replay portions of our 2017 interview. Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy and Deep Living Lab What is the Inner Critic? Podcast Identifying the Inner Critic Podcast

How do I know it's the inner critic and not my conscience?  In this episode, Roxanne Howe Murphy, talks about how to identify when the inner critic is present. Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy Enoughness Podcast

One thing we can do to improve the quality of our lives is to change our relationship with the inner critic.  In this episode, with the help of Roxanne Howe Murphy, we explore what is the inner critic? Resources Roxanne Howe Murphy Enoughness Podcast

How do we flatten the curve of hate (paraphrasing Rev. Rosemary Klass).  A foundational study of boys in the 1050s provides some ideas of how we can find our way back together. Resources Study of 11 year old boys in the 1950s Arlie Hochschild's study of the divide Adam Kahane's work on Power and Love

Shifting her focus from fighting hate to focus on leading a movement called Revolutionary Love, Valarie Kaur is an inspiration. Resources Valarie Kaur's movement Interview with Kaur on The Good Life Project

I was wrong, I didn't know any better.  My coaching on how to change the channel on our feelings was wrong. Resources Centering v Reacting Acceptance Dr Susan David TED Talk

"What I think you should do is..."  These words are often intended to be helpful but may miss the mark. Resources Moving from Judging to Encouraging Listening Between the Words

It is hard to stay open and curious when someone give us feedback. Especially when the feedback doesn't match our self-image.  It is an important skill to receive and learn from feedback. Resources Listening Between Words What Are You Referring To?

Working with the intention, compose with the unfolding , has supported me in being more present with what is emerging (even the not so fun stuff).  Getting Perspective Acceptance Deep Living Lab (my "Hell yes" endeavor)

Self compassion is a powerful form of self-care. It enhances our ability to be resilient and learn.  Kristin Neff has expanded the definition of self compassion to include both nurturing and fierce self compassion. Resources Kristin Neff's website with resources and information

It has been a tough time.  We have been dealing with illness, death and uncertainty.  With all of the heartache, there have been some valuable lessons. Resources Laughter Podcast Acceptance Podcast

It is so easy to spend time judging ourselves or others.  Often it is a waste of energy. How do we convert our tendency to judge to create a tendency to encourage? Resources Listening Between the Words Acceptance

We are not truly free when we are trapped by hatred and prejudice.  What supports us being more free of reactions, blaming and instead choose our responses. Resources Dr Edith Eger Interview with Brene Brown Be Impeccable With Your Words

How do we focus our attention to positively impact the three feet around us? Resources Loving Our Community Change is Always Possible

Choosing our response versus reacting.  What practices invite you to be fully present and grounded? Resources Wendy Palmer, Leadership Embodiment    

How do we strengthened our ability to love our neighbors?  A few inspiring stories and lesson. Resources Fearless Dialogues, Dr Ellis Antoinette Tuff

Conversations about politics, race, the environment or other heated topics are hard to have.  How do we create an agreement that allows us to fumble with our words and stay engaged?  In this episode, we look at Donna Mejia's framework called Fumble Forward (Mejia is pronounced Meh-hEE-yah, my apologies that I mispronounced her name through this episode). Resources Donna Mejia's Website Watch for M...

To become fully free, we need to learn how to own the whole of our story with compassion.  We need to integrate all of our experience, even the cringe-worthy stuff. Resources Acceptance Podcast Imprisoned by Our Story Podcast Change is Always Possible

We need to heal to create joy in our lives. We need to heal to make social justice possible.  But first, we need to stop hiding... Resources Change is Always Possible Podcast Sounds True Interview with Rachel Ricketts Turning Off Our Alarm Systems Podcast