bestofourselves podcast

This series explores tapping our full potential and living true to ourselves. This episode, the fourth in the series, explores the third portal or doorway to living a life true to oneself. Essential Connectedness explores levels of consciousness and the mystery of the heart.  Resources Deep Living Lab's EnneaCrossings™ Episode One of this EnneaCrossings ™ Series: Expanding Your Capacity to Live Fu...

This series explores how to tap our full potential and live a life true to ourselves? This episode, the third in the series, explores the second portal or doorway to living a life true to oneself. Essential Connectedness explores levels of consciousness and the mystery of the heart.  Resources Deep Living Lab's EnneaCrossings™ Episode One of this EnneaCrossings ™ Series: Expanding Your Capacity to...

This series explores how to tap our full potential. This episode, the second in the series, explores the first doorway to living a life true to oneself: Essential Holding, the internally sourced experience of belonging, love, security, and guidance. Through awareness and practice, we can pause, notice our reactions, and access deeper wisdom, allowing us to remain authentic and grounded even in cha...

What supports us in accessing our true nature? What practices help us deal with whatever shows up with a grounded presence? This is the first in a series that explores a framework that supports this way of being in the world. This episode explores what happens when we open up the infinite realm.   Resources EnneaCrossings TM Definition of Awe

It's a subtle form of the inner critic, so subtle, you might miss it.  Comparison to others does not support you become your own, unique best self.  Being inspired is great, thinking you don't measure up, not so much. Resources Disengaging the Inner Critic Identifying the Inner Critic

Sometimes, our certainty can cloud our perception of reality, making it difficult to see things as they truly are. When we're convinced that something is a certain way, we often overlook or dismiss evidence that contradicts our beliefs. This show explores the fascinating ways in which our minds can deceive us.   Resources The Divided Brain Living in Uncertainty Podcast

When we know someone's story, it is hard to make them an "other".  We can get past the labels and see the humanity in those who have different life experiences. Resources Friends with Those People A variety of podcasts on community

We all have an limiting identity, the story of who we think we have to be.  We usually do not see our own choices unless we have the courage to reflect.  Harriet's Load is a story I wrote years ago that was showing me I had choices I just couldn't see (yet). Resources You can order copies of What Have I Mythed? from Drury Lane Books Other Recorded Myths: Connected or Separate (NOT PUBLISHED) Looki...

We have lots of potential that we do not allow ourselves to access. It's courageous work to reflect on our limited sense of identity and to open up to what else is possible.  And we each have the capacity and resources to do it, given patience, curiosity and lots of compassion. Resources The Mindtrap of Ego Acceptances as a Step Towards Growth Change One Step at a Time

When we contemplate significant changes in our lives, our flight, fight, or freeze response may kick in. We tend to prioritize safety, and our autonomic nervous system can pose a significant barrier to transformation. Learning to move forward without waging an internal war is crucial.   Resources Acceptance as a Step Towards Growth Curiosity as a Growth Tool Intentions: Allies for Growth

This is what is here now.  An emotion, an irritating person or a disturbing situation.  Learning to accept what is present and respond from a deeper place leads to a powerful shift.   Resources Acceptance Podcast Learning to Accept What Is Podcast Tuning In V Changing the Channel Podcast

Learning how to change our relationship with the inner critic can greatly increase the quality of our days.  But not all inner critic episodes are the same.  Some times the inner critic is a light breeze, something, when noticed that can be worked through easily.  Other times, the inner critic is a level 5 hurricane and it's hard to navigate. Resources What is the Inner Critic? Identifying the Inn...

You are not your personality.  When you learn that and learn how to access a deeper capacity, you show up differently.  This is 4th in the series created from an interview with Roxanne Howe-Murphy talking about her new book, Underneath the Personality. Resources You Are Not Your Personality Underneath Your Personality Developing a Healthy Relationship to Ourselves

To show up as the best, we need to develop a healthy relationship to ourselves.  Roxanne Howe-Murphy, author of the new book, Underneath Your Personality, explains what is a healthy relationship and how to start. Resources You Are Not Your Personality Underneath Your Personality Deep Living Interview Deep Living Lab Enneagram

If we pay attention, we will notice there are patterns in our behavior.  It is easier to notice these patterns in others.  And we if learn how to pause a bit, we will see we have many more choices than we knew.  In this interview, Roxanne Howe-Murphy shares how to tell if you are operating from your repeating patterns and how to access a deeper wisdom. Resources You Are Not Your Personality Deep L...

We have so much more capacity than we know.  One key is to understand we are not our personality.  In this episode, Roxanne Howe-Murphy talks about what is our personality. Resources Underneath Your Personality (NEW) Exploring a Transformative Lens Living Deeply with Roxanne Howe-Murphy

They were our neighbors.  They helped us. We helped them.  We shared meals.  And we were opposite sides of the political divide.  How do we learn to respect the humanity of those who see the world differently than we do? Resources Encounter with Others One Small Step Loving Our Community

If we commit to listening, everything changes; our relationships deepen and our options open.  It is very hard to listen, especially if it is not something we want to hear. It requires a commitment and practice. Resources Listening Between the Words Who Do You Listen To? Conversations That Build Relationship Relationship Killers  

What do you pay attention to?  Where we focus makes a big difference in what we create in our days.  This myth, orginally published in What Have I Mythed? reminds us to focus on the light. Resources Mything - How to order the book and listen to other myths Intentionality podcast Becoming What We Might Have Been

Thanks to Kathy Magnuson for sharing her Awe Journal practice and it's impact on her life.   Resources Finding Awe Awe: The new Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life

  Thanks to Michele Simon for sharing her reflections on her gratitude practice and on how awe is different. Resources Remembering Gratitude Gratitude is a Choice Finding Awe

Although well-intentioned, and possibly even helpful, giving advice is more about us than the recipient.   Resources Parker Palmer on Advice Advice on Advice Humble Inquiry by Edgar Schein  

After going through many personality instruments, I did not think the enneagram would offer me anything new.  I was wrong.  Using this ancient and powerful lens began the process of freeing me from previously unseen patterns. Resources Upcoming Enneagram Offerings Roxanne Howe Murphy Interview Roxanne Howe Murphy website  

You may think you are doing well by repressing unwanted feelings.  And you might, for a while.  Eventually, what is repressed will find a way to express itself.  This episode features the myth, The Lake of the Uncried Tears. Resources What Are You Hiding? Freeing Ourselves from Our Stories Working With Our Own Compost    

Discovering the ability to perceive and embrace every aspect of ourselves is remarkably liberating. Are there certain facets of your being that you keep hidden from both yourself and others? Resources Grounded Presence What Is OK to Be? Awareness Changes Your Life