Being Sons

In this conversation I got to speak with one of my parenting heroes and an expert on girl's development needs, Sissy Goff. Out of the 29 years experience she has invested in working with girls, she shares some incredible wisdom and encouragement. How important a role do fathers play in the lives of their daughters? What do daughters need most from us? What questions do daughters carry with them wh...

Every boy needs things only a father can give. In part 2 of this 2 part conversation, we continue our interview with David Thomas, a sought after counselor with 26 years experience helping boys and families. We begin to dive into understanding the developmental stages of boys into men. • Explorer (roughly age 1-4) • Lover (5-8) • Individual (9-12) • Wanderer (13-18) • Warrior (17-25) I also asked...

Every boy needs things only a father can give.  So what are those things? In part 1 of this 2 part conversation, Jay talks with David Thomas, Director of Family Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries, to help us understand the developmental stages of boys into men and what they need uniquely from their fathers.  ABOUT: DAVID THOMAS, L.M.S.W., (Licensed Master Social Worker) is the Director of...

Maintaining our physical bodies becomes more challenging as we mature. How can it be done well? And is it worth the investment? In this episode I talk with Dr. Anthony Balduzzi about how our bodies are actually where God Himself resides. God's sons are temples and this reality should effect how we maintain them. Dr. Balduzzi coaches us, as he has thousands of men, including Jay, to discover that t...

Cayce Harris, Director at ONE, joins us to discuss the question God is always asking us, "Who do you say that I am?" The answer to this question leads us not only to see Him as He really is, but it helps us see ourselves as we truly are. Cayce leads us through how to invite God to reveal His names to us. ABOUT CAYCE: Cayce Harris is the Director of ONE (https://www.one-sa.com/), a ministry based o...

As a father, how do you meet all your daughter needs throughout her feminine journey? Understanding what she needs at each stage will bear immense fruit. This insightful interview with famous author and speaker Stasi Eldredge will encourage and equip you to know how God has positioned you strategically to guide and comfort your favorite girl through each of the stages of her feminine journey into...

Lynette Zang is an expert on the history of world currencies, serves as senior market analyst at ITM Trading and distributes red pills to her hundreds of thousands of students on YouTube. That's how I found her. Years ago I felt God prompt me to "prepare" for coming hard times. That set me on a journey that has had me spend time at Lynette's feet learning some uncomfortable truths about the way th...

What do you do as a father when young men begin pursuing your daughter? While guarding your daughter's heart is your foremost mission, it also presents a rare opportunity to offer young men a clear vision of manhood that he will hopefully carry with him, not only on that date with your girl, but for the rest of his life. This conversation will leave you with an elevated vision of how God can use y...

Given the hour and the spiritual landscape we live in, we are more in need of God's intimate counsel than ever. Do you feel this to be true, like so many allies I talk to? In light of this great need, why would we not ask God for His counsel? That's the question Jesus has been highlighting recently. An honest answer to this question can serve as a prison cell door, out of slavery and into a truer...

What does the voice of God sound like? Would you know it if you heard it? You'll likely be surprised by what you hear in this conversation with Cayce Harris, a friend of Being Sons whose mission is helping sons live in two-way communication with God. In this episode we address some destructive misconceptions about the way God speaks and offer the hopeful truth that you are already more practiced a...

Asking Jesus 3 questions can help us cut through the noise and live in reality. This past week, hosting our first Trailhead father + son river trip, I personally took a big step in trusting Jesus to be the guide. In this episode I process my story aloud. "Jesus, what do I feel? Jesus, what do I need? And Jesus, what do I want?" What could the answers to these 3 simple questions do to help you live...

" The joy of the Lord is your strength " says scripture (Neh 8:10). And Jesus said " I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. " Joy is a fruit cultivated personally by God in His sons. In this last of a 3-part conversation Rich and Jay discuss the fruit of Joy as inheritance, ultimate reality, obligation, and our treasure to be defended.

"Joy is the serious business of Heaven." - C.S. Lewis Scripture boldly announces that  "The joy of the Lord is your strength". In other words, without His joy we are weak. For this reason Jesus has much to say about it. In this second episode in the series we invite you to walk with us through a life-giving exercise of listening prayer, asking Jesus what He wants to teach you about joy. 

"Joy is the serious business of heaven" wrote C.S. Lewis. How seriously do you take it? In this important series we will explore the invitation to live joyfully and hear what Jesus has to say about it. In episode 1 we talk about our breakup story.

Out of his own story "Papa" John Eldredge offers us some valuable counsel on how to live in such a "gnarly" time as this. In this hopeful interview with best-selling author and friend, I simply asked the questions I'd ask if we were alone and sharing a cigar. We talk about building fires, 2-way dialogue with Jesus, our changing assignments and how to defend your kingdom without it killing you. I p...

Rich and Jay discuss with Morgan Snyder , author of Becoming a King ,  the practices of sonship that are keeping them safe and well fed in a climate of confusion and scarcity. Psalm 23 promises " He sets a table before me in the presence of my enemies " but the table can be missed if you're not sticking close to Jesus. Crisis, pain and uncertainty are doorways for sons to discover the upside down...

In this last episode in our series Rich and I continue our conversation with Geoff Smith and Ward Dow, men who've moved from just attending a local fight club in San Antonio, TX to starting one of their own. We address common questions every man will ask if he wants God to use him to create this unique environment where men can explore the frontier of sonship.

In this 3rd of a 4-part series on Fight Club you're going to hear from Rich Pantusa, Geoff Smith and Ward Dow as they share the surprising impact a simple campfire fellowship has had on them over time.  We reveal how the secret sauce to true transformation is rooted in two things: Your identity as son + belonging to an authentic community. Set your compass to find those two things and you will beg...

Every man needs a place to step off the front lines and a group of men to share their stories with, but those can be hard to find. In this part 2 of a 4 part conversation we share more about the model of Fight Club for meeting men's need for authentic masculine community. We explore the rules of fight club, the flow of fight club and the desperate need for it in this hour. 

For over 5 years now, once a month Jay has lit a fire in his side yard, filled a cooler with drinks and invited men to join him to explore and seize, together, the life Jesus promised. It's become one of the more significant catalysts of personal growth for the men who make the mid-week trek. Small communities like this are desperately needed in this hour. Join Jay and Rich as they kick off a 4-pa...

In this episode we continue our education on hearing God's voice with mentor Cayce Harris who leads us through some very practical connection exercises we can do anytime. In addition we explore these realities: 1. You already hear God's voice, 2. When you get stuck Jesus will always show up, 3. Breathing is prayer, and 4. God is Father. And Mother. We need both. Buckle up. This is good.    

Does God speak? And will He speak to me? There may be nothing more helpful or more opposed than a conversational intimacy with God. It's no surprise why people are divided on whether this is actually available, and to whom.  In this interview Jay asks Cayce Harris, the Executive Director of a ministry that specializes in equipping people to hear the still, small voice of God, how to do it. She sha...

What's in a name? And what does it do for a man to hear God speak his name? In this conversation Jay and Rich share stories about the bestowing of our true identities through our names. Sometimes God gives us a new name and sometimes we hear our familiar name in a new way. In any case, a man doesn't walk away unchanged. Near the end of this episode we ask God the question every man longs to have a...

In part 2 of this 2 part conversation Jay Heck and Morgan Snyder continue to discuss the brilliant way God shapes a man to be trustworthy with His Kingdom. A powerful life is grown through our willingness to increasingly risk more on God to come through. That's why the journey to kingship must start by believing God is our loving, deeply devoted Father who can be trusted with everything. God is no...

Jay Heck and Morgan Snyder, kingdom shaper and author of the new book "Becoming a King", discuss what all men want but few can handle: POWER . It's God's desire for man to have power, but for the good of the world that power must be rooted in character, and that character rooted in Sonship. This is part 1 of 2.