Because We Said So

This week on Because We Said So, we’re bringing you an episode that the bwssties have been asking for, it’s finally time for the Dilemmas Episode ! We read through your dilemmas and do what we do best: unpack and offer our honest perspectives, and help you navigate real-life situations with a little clarity (and a lot of heart). But before we get into that, we kick things off with pop culture, unp...

This week on Because We Said So, we talk about choosing rest over festive pressure and navigating December without FOMO. Plus, we recap the Cat Matlala drama, the latest on Inembe, and Real Housewives Ultimate Girls Trip: Africa—a mix of reflection and pop-culture tea.

This week, we unpack the rise of red-pill content and how ‘female red pill’ ideals are reshaping women’s views on dating and relationships. We also get into the South African Social Media Awards highlights, Normani’s unexpected SHEIN collab, and Kandi and Todd’s split after 11 years.

This week we unpack the mindset of “if everybody has it, I don’t want it” — where it comes from, why it’s harmful, and how we can unlearn it. We also get into the Burna Boy concert drama, Gunna bringing his girlfriend on stage, Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande’s odd press tour behaviour, and the viral TikTok story “The Danish Deception.”

This week we talk about what it means to want more for your life as a woman, especially as a Black woman, and why ambition and abundance shouldn’t come with guilt. We also touch on Kris Jenner’s birthday, All’s Fair , and the 2025 Grammy nominations. Plus, we highlight the Women For Change G20 Women's Shutdown happening this Friday and the petition to end gender-based violence. Petition link:...

This week, we unpack Chante's viral Vogue article and the discourse around posting your partner online — when is it cute, and when is it actually embarrassing? We also get into some pop culture moments: our favourite Halloween looks, Landiwe’s catfishing incident and online safety, plus the Grace Mondlana giveaway drama and how creators can show empathy without humiliating their followers.

This week we’re talking about the “fixing men” era — why women feel pressured to fix men, and why it’s time to stop trying to save those who don’t want to be saved. We also chat about the Miss South Africa pageant, the upcoming Love Island South Africa, the friendship–cheating debate, and all the Inimba drama.

This week, we’re unpacking Mean Girl Energy — from how it shows up in friendships to why it seems to follow women everywhere. We also touch on the return of the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show, the Young Miami and Tyla song drama, the NoDNA and JustRSA conversations on Twitter, and the current state of Miss South Africa. Real talk, honest opinions, and a little bit of chaos — because we said so.

This week, we unpack Pretty Privilege vs Pretty Punishment — is the privilege really worth the pain? We also catch up on pop culture, from Zama’s Dubai trip to Black Coffee and Enhle Mbali’s divorce, LV Sneakergate, the Matric Dress Saga, and all the concert discourse happening in South Africa. Tune in for another episode of honest, funny, and unfiltered girl chat! 

We’re talking beauty maintenance — the pressure to always look good, social media influence, and choosing what feels right for you . Plus, our takes on Inimba’s Thumeka going back to her ex, the bush getaway Twitter debate, and Young Thug’s comments on women and therapy.

This week we’re celebrating Zama’s birthday! So we’re talking all things birthday. We talk about the dynamics and discourse around birthdays. Plus our takes on the ongoing beef between Nicki Minaj & Cardi B, Lerato Nxumalo getting married! The corruption happening in our country and the latest on Married At First Sight SA.

We’re celebrating 50K with a special guest — our friend and creator Vanessa Padi! We unpack ageism , the pressures women face as they grow older, and how society treats men vs. women differently. Plus, our takes on Married at First Sight , Cardi B’s album + pregnancy announcement , and the rapture that never ended up happening. 

We’re unpacking groove culture in South Africa and how it’s shifted from our early 20s to now—from carefree nights to section and bottle culture, plus the male and female dynamics in the club space. We also dive into this week’s pop culture moments, including the Nandipha Magudumana & Tabo Bester documentary, the High Court surname ruling, Enhle Mbali’s Black hair comments, and the Charlie Kir...

This week on Because We Said So , we dive into the duality of life — how the best and worst of times can collide all at once. We get real and vulnerable about some of the highs and lows we’ve faced navigating our 20s, and how those experiences have shaped us. On the pop culture side, we unpack standout moments from the VMAs, the ongoing Young Thug controversy, Miguel and Margaret Zhang’s surprisin...

In this episode of Because We Said So, we explore hyper independence: where it comes from, how it shows up in daily life, and tips for women working through it. We also chat about Inimba, Love Is Blind UK, and the latest Alabuga scandal responses.

This week on Because We Said So , we mix our topics with pop culture rewind — from the Russia-Alabuga scandal and protecting your brand, to the Love Island reunion drama and racism discourse, plus the success of the Scorpion Kings concert and why South Africans should support local talent. It’s unfiltered conversations and girl chat, because we said so.

On this week on Because We Said So we kick things off with the rising wave of Ozempic customers and the heated discourse it’s been sparking on Twitter. Then, we get into Adrienne and Israel Houghton’s recent podcast revelations about their marriage that left the internet raising a collective eyebrow. Plus, by popular demand, we’re finally diving into Married at First Sight —from the dynamics betwe...

This week we kick things off with the trending discourse around content online — why middle-class content doesn’t perform as well, and why people often glamorize either extreme luxury or poverty-stricken content. From there, we touch on Ronaldo finally proposing to Georgina and the stunning Chioma & Davido wedding, before diving into our main topic: Girl Code. We chat about how Girl Code has e...

This week on Because We Said So, we’re asking the question on everyone’s lips — is DELULU the SOLULU? 👀 We break down what it really means, why everyone’s talking about it, and whether a little delusion might just be the secret to success. We also dive into some of the biggest South African pop culture moments of the week — from the Mommy Club drama with Koko and her mom Nozipo, to the controvers...

In today’s episode, we dive into the growing conversation around the deterioration of community, using the latest Twitter discourse as a jumping-off point. Why have we become so disconnected? What’s fueling the breakdown of our communal ties and more importantly, how can we start to rebuild them? We also catch up on the biggest pop culture moments this week, including the explosive Kenny and Jana...

In this episode of Because We Said So, we dive into the real and sometimes rocky world of managing finances in your 20s. From budgeting mishaps and money anxiety to learning how to prioritize financial wellness without losing your social life. Please note this does NOT constitute as financial advise, please seek a professional financial advisor to assist you with your finances.  We kick things off...

This week, we kick things off with a juicy pop culture rewind — from the Real Housewives of Durban reunion (yes, we’re still recovering) to our thoughts on the final Love Island dates and the post-villa podcast interviews. Spoiler: the drama definitely didn’t end in the villa. Then we shift gears and get personal. In our main topic of the week, we unpack the beliefs, habits, and narratives we’ve h...

In this week’s episode of Because We Said So , we kick things off with all the looks, slays and serves from Durban July 2025 — the girls (and the gents) did not come to play! We also catch up on the latest Love Island drama (because duh, what’s a week without it?) and then dive into the story that’s taken over South African social media, the Grace Mandlana discourse. From there, we unpack a deeper...

This week on Because We Said So , we’re getting real about friendship in your 20s — what it means to be a good friend, how to show up for the people you love, and how friendships change as we grow. Inspired by the viral Be Simone podcast moment where her best friend called her out, we unpack the emotional weight of feeling unseen, how to set boundaries, and what accountability in friendship actual...

This week on Because We Said So , we’re diving headfirst into the complexities of hookup culture and what it means to explore your sexuality as a woman in your 20s . Inspired by a creators viral video questioning a woman’s worth in relation to hookup culture, we unpack the double standards, the freedom, the shame, and everything in between. Of course, it wouldn’t be a full episode without our usua...