Beauty in Battle Podcast

Send us Fan Mail What do you want to accomplish in your life and marriage? Whatever it is, it will be impossible apart from systems. A system is a series of steps to help you achieve a desired result. If it works in business, it can work in your relationship!  That's what today's episode is all about - helping you create systems in your marriage that will help you achieve what you desire...

Send us Fan Mail When you were dating you probably heard someone say, "You guys bring out the best in each other." But what does that really mean? And how do you know if you're actually doing it?  That's what this episode is all about. Building off a marriage blog we recently read, we're going to share 8 ways that reveal you are bringing the best out of each other.  Enjoy!...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode we're going to dive into the five core human needs and how they all pivot on our #1 core human need - Security. Security answers the question, "Who can I trust?" All relationships move at the speed of trust. But what does it mean to be a trustworthy person? And how do you practically work on the trust factor in your marriage? That's what...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know the divorce rate in America has steadily declined in the last 20 years? We didn't either! But that prompted Success Magazine to write an article on marriage and the eight traits that make relationships strong.  Check out today's episode as we dive into each of them!

Send us Fan Mail We can honestly say, of all the podcasts we've ever done, this one BY FAR takes the cake (or pretzel, if you prefer!). If you've ever eaten an Auntie Anne's pretzel you know how incredibly delicious they are. But what you might not know is the incredible love story that lead to its inception. The story you're about to hear is a story of passion, loss, betrayal,...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know that it's your responsibility to take care of your spouse emotionally?  The marriages that succeed feel compelled to take care of each other's feelings. This means you have to be in tune with your spouse to know how they’re feeling.  In this episode, we're going to dive into what it means to be sensitive to your spouse and the two key questions you have...

Send us Fan Mail When we first fall in love the "feeling" of love precedes "giving" love. But in marriage, it is reversed. We give love before we feel love.  You will love whatever you GIVE to! Why? Because giving is the foundation of love.  In today's episode, we're going to dive into three key areas in which giving to your can take your relationship to the next leve...

Send us Fan Mail Remember when you were dating how attracted you were to each other and how you could talk for hours on end only to feel like the time flew by?  But then you got married and the things you once loved about didn't seem so loveable anymore. One of the biggest problems in marriage is that we stop being captivated by our spouse. But there's a secret to staying captivated, and...

Send us Fan Mail To really connect with your spouse, your lives have to INTERSECT! This allows you to move from ME to WE. We've heard it said, "Compatibility does not lead to a successful marriage - connectedness does!" While independence is worthy to be celebrated, we have to understand that when it comes to marriage interdependence is much more important. Why? Because interdepende...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know that you can grow the romantic aspect of your relationship?  In this episode we're going to dive into the three aspects of romantic love and how you can grow in each.  We'll also explore how to unlock your five senses to get the most out of your relationship. Spoiler alert - it may mean you need to stop wearing cologne/perfume!!! Enjoy!

Send us Fan Mail The Greeks are smarter than we are. At least, that's what it feels like! Today we're talking about the six types of love the ancient Greek philosophers talked about and how you can grow stronger in each one.   Applied to our marriages, these six types of love cover the full array of relational bonding and will draw you close to your spouse.  Enjoy!

Send us Fan Mail Did you know one of the best ways to grow your attraction for your spouse is through an attitude of endearment? And when you do, the things you could easily criticize will become cute? In today's episode, we're going to share five steps (our "terms of endearment") for growing an attitude of endearment toward your spouse where attraction and affection are the no...

Send us Fan Mail Today we're talking about the recent findings of an 85-year-old study called "The Harvard Study of Adult Development" which shows the #1 characteristics of adults who experience the happiest, most fulfilling lives. As the oldest ongoing study in history, it's discovery on what makes the healthiest and happiest people is mind-blowing. Spoiler alert - it has some...

Send us Fan Mail Does your spouse spend a lot of time scrolling on their smartphone? Mindless scrolling is a problem for millions. It’s become a leading obstacle to intimacy.  Why? Because it violates the law of Priority.  Our #1 asset/gift is our TIME.  A scroll session takes away that time and is subconsciously received as a lack of priority.  In today's episode, we're going to share t...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know that most conflict in marriage cannot be resolved? You and your spouse are two different people, so resolving perpetual issues isn't the right way to think about it. In marriage, we need to be thinking about managing conflict more than resolving it. When you learn how to properly manage conflict, the very fight that once tore you apart now draws you together.  To...

Send us Fan Mail Today is our final installment in our series "The Neuroscience of Connection." In this episode we'll dive into the various aspects of forgiveness and show you the power it has in your relationship.  We'll also give you a different angle in which to view forgiveness, one in which you might not have thought of before.  A marriage built on forgiveness is a powerfu...

Send us Fan Mail Today is our 8th installment in our series on the Neuroscience of Connection where we answer the question "Am I reinforcing the behaviors that I like or dislike in my spouse?"  Based on Dr. Amen's book "You Happier," this episode is a deep dive into the value of positive thinking toward our spouse and how to combat those negative thoughts that rip us apart...

Send us Fan Mail How you think determines what you say and how you act. Ultimately, how you think determines how you love. Nothing could be more important in your marriage than cleaning up your thoughts. In today's episode, we're going to dive into nine different negative thinking patterns that sabotage relationships, along with five keys that will set you free in your mind and bond you...

Send us Fan Mail Time is not just a way to discover the hour of the day, it's also a way to bond you closely in marriage.  We often thing quality time is the most important. While it's true, it also holds that quantity time is just as vital if you want a thriving relationship. In today's episode, we're diving into the 5th installment of our series on the Neuroscience of Connect...

Send us Fan Mail Let's talk about the value of being assertive in marriage. Before we do, here are a few definitions of assertive:   “The quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive to defend a right point of view or a relevant statement.” "A life skill that involves being able to express your thoughts and feelings in a confident, polite, and reasonable way.” Ass...

Send us Fan Mail We're in week three of our deep dive into the Neuroscience of Connection, and today we'll be talking about the power of communication.  We've heard it said that "in the absence of communication, negativity fills the void." In marriage, the lack of communication is the death-bell for your relationship.  So today, we'll be talking about the number one c...

Send us Fan Mail We're in Week 2 of our discussion on the neuroscience of connection (based on the book, "You Happier" book by Dr. Amen). We're talking about the eight keys to staying deeply connected to your spouse, and answering the question, "Am I reinforcing the behaviors I like or dislike in my spouse?"  Last week we talked about the importance of taking responsi...

Send us Fan Mail We get jazzed about all the new research that's coming out on the brain and how our thoughts affect every aspect of our life, especially our relationships. In this episode, we're going to dive into the latest studies that show how marriages can be enhanced by understanding how our brains work.  We'll be looking at Dr. Amen's recent book "YOU HAPPIER"...

Send us Fan Mail As a married couple, you were made to energize each other. In today's episode, we'll discuss exactly how you can do it. We'll share the two key components that lay the foundation and the three characteristics that follow - all of which are qualities that God exhibits in His own nature. When we apply them to our marriage, great things happen!  Enjoy.

Send us Fan Mail We've got good news - you don't have to top fighting in marriage! Actually, fighting together will draw you together when you learn to do it the right way.  In today's podcast, we're going to take a look at the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (coined by Dr. John Gottman) - four things that will destroy your relationship. But we're also going to share four...