Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast

BYOLC S2 E10What do you do when you’re having a really bad day—the kind where everything goes wrong, your nervous system is overloaded, and all you want is for the pain to stop? In this unfiltered, vulnerable episode of the Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast, host Bretagne Stowe speaks directly to the moments we don’t talk about enough: emotional overwhelm, intrusive thoughts, relationship stress, bur...

BYOLC S2 E9 “My mom used to say the hours before midnight count for double. I thought she was just being dramatic… or trying to get me home before curfew. She also used to say, nothing good ever happens after midnight. And honestly? As an adult, I’m realizing she may have been right.” In this episode of the Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast, we explore why sleep isn’t a luxury or a reward for being p...

BYOLC S2 E8 What if today isn’t a problem… but a clue? In this solo episode of Be Your Own Life Coach , host Bretagne Stowe steps into the unknown—recording on her own for the first time after her sister and co-host Anike Wilder unexpectedly couldn’t join her. Instead of resisting the moment, Bretagne leans into it with one powerful question: Why not? This episode is an invitation to reconnect wit...

As 2025 comes to an end, many of us are feeling the quiet pull to release, reset, and realign . In this episode, we explore how letting go—physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually—isn’t a loss, but an invitation for abundance . In Chinese astrology, 2025 is the Year of the Snake , a time associated with shedding old skins and releasing what no longer serves us. As we prepare to move into...

BYOLC S2 E6 What if abundance isn’t something you chase—but something you tune into? As we close out 2025 and step into a new year filled with goals, desires, and intentions, this episode dives deep into what abundance really is . Yes, money matters—but abundance is far bigger than finances. It’s a frequency, a mindset, and a way of relating to life that opens the door to emotional fulfillment, lo...

BYOLC S2 E5 Self Awareness, Are you Born with it? Can you lose it? and if so can you get it back? In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach, Bretagne and Anike take you deep into the heart of self-awareness — what it is, why it fades, and how to rebuild it with intention. If you’ve ever found yourself snapping without knowing why, repeating the same patterns, shutting down in conflict, or feeling...

Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast with Bretagne Stowe & Anike Wilder Breaking the Cycle — Finding the Motivation to Quit a Bad Habit Struggling to quit a bad habit you keep falling back into? In this episode, Bretagne Stowe and Anike Wilder break down why we repeat behaviors that drain our energy, clarity, and confidence — and how to finally change them. With the New Year approaching, resolutions...

BYOLC S2 E3 In this episode, we explore the true power of gratitude—not just as a daily habit, but as a spiritual, emotional, and neurological force that shapes your mindset, your relationships, and the reality you create. We break down how gratitude literally shifts the brain: boosting dopamine and serotonin, increasing neuroplasticity, and helping you form new empowering patterns. You'll lea...

BYOLC S2 E2 What if your deepest fear of being "too much" or "not enough" is actually your greatest strength? In this powerful episode, we explore how vulnerability—far from being a flaw—is a gateway to transformation, authentic connection, and true courage. Inspired by Brene Brown’s insights and grounded in personal storytelling, this episode invites you to rethink what it mea...

BYOLC S2 E1 🌿 Season 2 Premiere: Trusting the Seasons of Change 🌿Welcome back to the Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast with Host Bretagne Stowe and Cohost Anike Wilder! In this soulful Season 2 opener, we explore how life—like nature—moves through cycles of growth, letting go, rest, and renewal, and how aligning with these rhythms can bring more grace, clarity, and self-trust. Bretagne shares her o...

BYOLC S1 E17 In a world filled with highlight reels and performance, authenticity becomes your ultimate power source. When you stop performing and start living truthfully, you become unstoppable. What authenticity really means – showing up honestly for yourself and others How to recognize inauthentic living – asking yourself, “Am I living my own truth or someone else’s?” The link between authentic...

BYOLC S1 E16 Join us in Episode 16, Physical Self-Esteem: The Mirror Isn’t the Enemy as we dive into redefining how you feel about your body—beyond aesthetics and society’s shifting beauty standards. What is physical self-esteem ? It’s how you feel about your appearance, physical competence, and health—about nurturing a loving relationship with your body, not avoiding change but embracing intentio...

BYOLC S1 E15 Now that we’ve grounded ourselves in the truth that self-worth is innate , it's time to explore its shakier sibling— self-esteem . Where does your self-esteem come from... and can you actually take control of it? In this powerful continuation, Anike and Bretagne dive into the four core elements of self-esteem and share how to shift from external validation to internal power. Commo...

BYOLC S1 E14 Do you tie your value to your achievements—or know your worth even when you fall short? In this illuminating episode of the Be Your Own Lifecoach Podcast , Anike and Bretagne unpack the critical but often misunderstood difference between self-worth (innate, unconditional) and self-esteem (fluctuating, performance-based). This isn't just a feel-good topic— understanding this difference...

BYOLC S1 E13 In this raw and revealing episode, we're getting real about health—the hidden force that can quietly sabotage your motivation. This isn’t about aesthetics or six-packs. It’s about energy, vitality, and being well enough to chase your dreams. Health Disclaimer: We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. This episode shares personal experiences only . Please consult a qua...

BYOLC S1 E12 “Have you ever worked yourself to the bone—not because you wanted to succeed, but because you were terrified to fail ?” In this soul-stirring episode of Be Your own Life Coach Podcast , we dive deep into the two major forces that drive human behavior: fear-based motivation (the stick) and love-based motivation (the carrot). If you've ever found yourself hustling from pressure, com...

BYOLC S1 E11 Life sometimes throws curveballs. In this empowering Be Your Own Life Coach episode, we explore real-world stories of profound rebirth —people who turned adversity into motivation and renewed purpose. Whether you’ve lost a job, faced a health crisis, or experienced business failure, this episode is your guide to transformation. Bethany Hamilton – At age 12, lost her arm in a shark att...

BYOLC S1 E10 Welcome to the kickoff of our July Motivation Series —and we’re starting with the heart of it all: your “why.” In this episode of the Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast, Anike and Bretagne dive into the Japanese concept of Ikigai , your “reason for being,” and how understanding it can fuel you when motivation fades and no one is watching. Discover how aligning your passions, talents, valu...

BYOLC S1E9 Whether you're launching your first side hustle or scaling your sixth business, one thing is certain: fear is always part of the process . In this honest and insightful episode of Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast, co-hosts Anike and Bretagne dive deep into the psychology of fear in entrepreneurship—from the fear of failure to the fear of success—and how these hidden dynamics can shape...

BYOLC S1E8 Ever had a fear that made zero sense —like fearing voicemail playback or being scared of mirrors? In this deeply human (and surprisingly hilarious) episode, hosts Bretagne and Anike dive into irrational fears —what they are, why they matter, and powerful tools to release them without judgment. What we cover: Why irrational fears feel SO real—even when they don’t make logical sense How t...

BYOLC S1E7 Emotional Fears Ever feel like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop—even when life is good? Or like you crave connection but secretly fear being fully seen? In Episode 7, we’re pulling emotional fears into the light. Hosts Bretagne and Anike dive deep into the quiet, powerful fears that don’t come from danger—but from vulnerability, joy, and intimacy . These emotional fears are sne...

BYOLC S1E6 Limiting Fear vs Helping Far In this empowering episode, we delve into the dual nature of fear—how it can either hinder or propel us forward. Hosts Bretagne and Anike explore the concepts of healthy (healing) fear versus limiting fear, sharing personal stories and practical strategies to harness fear as a tool for personal growth. Key Topics Covered: Identifying the difference between h...

BYOLC Podcast S1E5 Have you ever felt deeply let down by someone you trusted—parents, a partner, a sibling, a boss? In this powerful episode, Bretagne and Anike dive into the raw emotions and hard truths behind personal failure, betrayal, and the path to forgiveness. From uprooting moves to broken trust, we unpack the victim mindset, the role of personal responsibility, and why forgiveness is not...

Be Your Own Life Coach | Episode 4: How Childhood Failure Shapes Adult Identity "Remember your first big failure as a kid? Maybe you flunked a test, forgot your lines in the school play, or got picked last for kickball. Today, we explore how those small childhood fails carry big messages that still whisper in our adult lives." – Bretagne In this playful yet powerful episode, we're di...

Be Your Own Life Coach | Episode: The Failure of Education "Ever feel like school failed to prepare you for actual life? You're not alone—and you're not stuck." – Bretagne In this eye-opening episode, we dig into the cracks of the U.S. education system and how its industrial-era roots prioritized obedience over curiosity. From the overemphasis on memorization and standardized tes...