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Human beings are on a constant search for synchronicity, connection, and aliveness, but those things are easier to access than we think.   Those "oh my gosh, this is so wild" moments are all around us, but we can't experience them when our own channels are clogged up with emotional debris.   For most people, getting tapped into this channel of wonder comes on the back of a radical shift in conscio...

One of the uncomfortable truths about human beings is that telling the truth and saying what's real is very difficult. In fact, some of us believe that lying about our experience preserves trust and makes our relationships stronger.   In reality, this discomfort with truth is a discomfort with feeling our feelings and expressing our real emotions.   That in turn dampens our spontaneity, disconnect...

So much of our existence is being in relationship with others. Partners, parents, children, siblings, friends, colleagues and even competitors on the pickleball court! We're always dealing with people, and that's why so many patterns emerge out in the wild when we're with other humans.   Relationships with others can be a source of stress and conflict or an opportunity for connection and shared es...

There's a reason why it's so hard to silence or ignore our inner critic. It's the same reason why we doubt our own experiences and body wisdom. It's also why we often feel like in order to be lovable we need to do more instead of just being ourselves.   Childhood is our most sensitive phase. We're like sponges soaking up everything around us with no filter. Unfortunately, some of the things the ad...

Our culture has taught us to put an emphasis on and trust only in the information we get from our brains. At best, we completely ignore what our bodies have to tell us, and at worst we treat our body and its sensations like the enemy. When we don't tap into our body's wisdom, we're operating without the richest source of information available to us.   Our bodies are our friends - they provide a le...

Most people experience an injury or other setbacks as an enterprise of the universe working against us. But what if the setback is an important transition, a demarcation point between who we were and who we're going to be going forward? Maybe it's buried traumas we need to address, or physical healing that will make us stronger.   We're being given the opportunity for a completion so we can move i...

For most people, when our brains feel sluggish or clogged up, the first thing we do is reach for the coffee. But there could be an entirely different reason why your creativity and energy are getting all tangled up.   From to-do lists that never end, to decisions we're not making and actions we're procrastinating on - incompletions are a drain on our energy.   In order to open the pathway towards...

We live in an instant gratification culture, so it's not surprising that a lot of people want to just skip to the good part. We're looking for that button that will magically fix everything wrong with our lives.   Well, the truth is, the journey is just as beautiful  as the destination we wish to arrive at. We expect great things to just magically appear, but we don't expect the same for athletes...

Whether it's an aggressive interaction at pickleball or a misunderstanding at work, our biggest lessons often come from not-so-pretty moments…if we choose to shift and learn.   When we feel attacked by other people, it might feel justified to have a knee-jerk reaction and kick back, but we can accomplish a lot more by making another choice.   It might be easier said than done, but we have to work...

If you've ever felt uncomfortable and squirmy about celebrating your accomplishments, you have tall poppy syndrome AKA an upper limit problem. Unfortunately, because of how we've been conditioned to focus on others, women are more likely to struggle with this.   You'll often find us downplaying our greatness, making ourselves smaller, and having a lot of difficulty sitting in something we should b...

Recent stats show only 20% of women say they are truly happy, so it's clear that we're in the middle of a huge unhappiness epidemic. For centuries, we have been conditioned to abandon ourselves, not pay attention to what we need and externalize our experiences. No wonder so many of us live in a constant state of angst.   In order to make happiness happen, we need to shift to taking action on our o...

Intuition is something every single human being has access to. That wise and timely inner voice that seems to drop information from nowhere and *just knows* something we don't. Though it may feel like information coming from another realm, it's actually coming from within. It's just another sense we've been given, and it takes many forms.   You feel an explicable pull to reach out to someone, only...

In our society, we treat our body like machines. We push them hard and only pay attention to them when they break down instead of preventing the breakdown in the first place.   For many people, the solution is investing in all the trackers, watches and monitors to know what's going on, but we completely abdicate our health to external influences in the process.   As a society, we've become so obse...

Words have so much power, not just in the definition but also in the force behind them. Some of the worst things we say are to ourselves, and we often don't even know it's happening.   There's a reason why we're so good at addressing ourselves negatively. Our culture teaches us to stay in check, not to get too full of ourselves and it also teaches us to elevate others.   We've been taught that we...

Whenever we make a commitment, set an intention or create an affirmation, we often need a little reminding, and words do that so effectively.   Some people write words that remind them of the commitment on Post-it Notes or in journals. That's because words can be a powerful anchor that brings us back to what matters. They can be metaphors we can apply to all sorts of contexts or statements that mo...

Being kind to ourselves is an ongoing conversation, and one of the ways it expresses itself is through the things we do to nourish ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally.    Ultimately, our ability to fully experience and express our essence is hinged on our daily habits and practices of self-care and self-love.   We can think of each of these daily habits, from the state of our minds to...

Our bodies are the vessels we occupy from the start of our lives, but so many of us feel disconnected in this home we have within ourselves. If we live in our bodies, how can they feel so foreign to us? For a whole lot of reasons, we're taught to ignore body wisdom even though it holds the most potent information about ourselves and how we move through the world.   How do we get acquainted with ou...

You've likely heard about the "whole body yes" and "whole body no", and maybe even practiced using these to make your decision-making process a little easier. But choosing is really hard when we don't feel that nudge from our body wisdom, and we just feel "meh" about the whole thing.   When it's not a definite yes or no, we're stuck in limbo, and that's a dangerous place to be.   Learning to locat...

The old way of showing up to work meant shoving our emotions away, not being vulnerable and putting on a facade of confidence, no matter what. Admitting you were afraid, unsure or overwhelmed? That was an absolute no-no.   The problem is, this also meant we were showing up without a lot of the intelligence we actually need to have emotionally healthy workplaces and great results.   Today, we give...

Moving house, they say, is one of life's most stressful events, but it doesn't have to be. Sure, it stirs up a ton of emotions and learned patterns, but with the right awareness and intention, it can be a magical time and a beautiful voyage to a new world.   We can discover new parts of ourselves, deconstruct feelings as they come up, and treat the move as a trampoline to jump into the future with...

This just in: science has confirmed what we've known (and have been practicing for years) about the power of paying attention to our body sensations.   In a world of doom scrolling, depression, anxiety and fear, the solution lies within - in the amazing treasure chest we have in our bodies. We have an inner garden of sensory data, feelings, embedded experiences, and subconscious communication but...

Don't mix prints, you'll stand out too much. Don't wear horizontal stripes, it makes you look wider. Wear what looks good, even if it doesn't feel good. Behind every woman is a rigid set of fashion rules that stifles our expression, creativity and keeps us from accessing the play that comes with fashion.   What if we took the inside out approach to fashion - starting with our essence and letting o...

In the world of sports, many people think that the energy of competing is the most powerful thing we can tap into. But there's actually a higher level to play the game at, and that's coherence. Instead of being reactive, and playing like we're in a pinball machine, we can tap into presence, flow and connection, and that's when everything just clicks.   We get to locate ourselves, play at our highe...

Seeking the approval of others, helping people without being asked, putting famous people on a pedestal. These behaviors might seem completely unrelated, but they are symptoms of the same thing - hero-ing. Anytime we're not acting from our own inner value, we're relinquishing our power to an external source, which is dangerous.   Hero-ing ourselves, or being heroed by others, could be a way to run...

The shift from side hustle to entrepreneur, ghostwriter to author is in many ways, a shift from self-imposed obscurity to visibility and standing in our own worth. Many of us are conditioned to promote others, be in the background, obligate and accommodate to a point where we end up not taking up the space we deserve.    When we become the face of something, we're vulnerable to everything, and tha...