Be a Better Goal Getter

If you are a mom, you've likely used the phrase, "You get what you get, so don't throw a fit!" Well, as teachers Mel & Kel used that handy saying anytime they wanted their students to graciously take the color or flavor they were given and stop whining! Does that same phrase apply to us as adults? Should we accept life as it is and settle in even if it isn't what we re...

We can agree life is 50/50. Half the time we're up; half the time we're down. For Mel, this past weekend was a BIG mix of both. One of Mel's most anticipated life events - the marriage of their oldest son - took place over the weekend - without any family being present. Thanks a lot, COVID! As thankful as she was that the bride and groom made it to Big Sur safely and exchanged weddi...

It's not just a new week! It's a new month. That means it is time for Mel & Kel to introduce a new emotion worth discussing. This month these girlfriends will be discussing THANKFULNESS! And, Mel is pretty thankful that Kel is willing to play along as Kel creates a result she plans to attain in the next 3 - 6 months. Did Kel do her homework?  If you didn't listen to episode 38,...

This week you'll catch Mel & Kel giggling within the first 15 seconds of the show.  No one is looking to be perfect on this podcast. The goal is to keep it real which is exactly what they do. These girls are also interested in REAL results. How can we set goals and actually achieve them? There is a way. There is a method that works. And this week the girls will tell you how.  I n fact, Me...

Positive thinking is great practice. Mel & Kel talk about it every week! But, sometimes a good thought isn't enough. Have you ever repeated a positive thought over and over and over again? “I’ve got this!” “With God all things are possible.” “This too shall pass.” “It could be worse.” Yet, at the end of the day, you still feel overwhelmed? We can think those good thoughts all day long, bu...

It can be tempting to blame others when we feel overwhelmed. "If she would just stop calling and texting. I'm already so busy! Can't she see how much I have on my plate?" But here's the thing. People are not the cause of our overwhelm. Our thoughts create that emotion.  This week, Mel & Kel talk about the many ways we let overwhelm get the best of us. These girls serve...

This week, Mel and Kel dive a little deeper into their discussion on OVERWHELM. With some feedback from listeners, the girls discuss the good, bad, and ugly all pertaining to this sometimes negative emotion. Don't lose hope! By the end of this week's episode, you'll have three tangible steps you can follow to turn your over whelm into under whelm.  Doesn't that sound great?! Do...

Overwhelm is an emotion most adults know well. Whether it's a demanding job, money problems, relational issues, emotional overload, a long to-do list, or *now* DISTANCE LEARNING - we all experience overwhelm. Join your girlfriends this week as they discuss what it is and how it feeeeels in our bodies. It can be different for everyone. Is it bad? Or, can good be found in feeling overwhelmed ?!...

How can anyone be “confident” about an unknown future? Anything can go wrong! Mel & Kel know - first hand - things don't go as planned. Days, weeks, months, and years are filled with good days AND bad days. That could leave a person feeling doubtful and discouraged, but it doesn't have to feel that way. This week the girlfriends discuss how they remain confident when something potent...

This week you're invited to join these girlfriends as they talk about confidence.  Don't we all want a big dose of that!? But is there a difference between confidence and SELF -confidence? And can we create our own self-confidence? Can we help our children gain self-confidence? Maybe we are keeping our children from becoming more self-confident. We may be doing them a disservice IF we ar...

"I've never been confident. I'm an introvert." Excuses come in all forms.  I can't do this because... I've never been someone who... It's just not who I am. Have you let one of your personality traits define who you are? Be careful! At least be aware. True, our traits are a part of us, but we can work with them to live a life that fulfills our greatest potential....

How confident do you feel? Does self-confidence come easy for you? Or, are you quite the opposite? Do you doubt yourself and your abilities day in and day out? Mel & Kel want to offer up a confidence BOOST this week.   Join these girls as they talk about the 5 signs of a confident person. Let's see how many you can check off the list. Here's the good news, you don't need to mast...

Girlfriend, what scares you?  Probably the same things that all of our other girlfriends fear.  There are physical fears and emotional fears and all are created by our thoughts.  These fears are quite normal. Some of our fears keep us safe and protected. However, other fears hold us back and even ruin friendships. Join Mel & Kel this week as they discuss the fears they have and how they deal w...

How about some summer fun?! Doesn't this week's episode title scream GOODTIMES to you? Well, it's QUIZ TIME. Mel and her games. It drives Kel a bit crazy, but she's always a good sport. Well Kel would disagree that taking a "quiz" is fun! She'd rather have a Pina Colada on a tropical island for summer fun! After Mel found this Fear vs. Phobia quiz on webmd.com ,...

Fear is a part of the human experience. We all must live with fear from time to time. Lucky for us, fear is a good thing as long as we choose to see it that way. Join Mel & Kel this week as they discuss the ways they deal with fear. Big or small, fear is real; however, no one has to experience it all alone. Life is better together. Sharing our fears and the ways we deal with them encourages ot...

This week Mel & Kel dive a little deeper into the emotion of fear.  We can all agree that fear is a real thing, but is it ever good for us? Can we choose fears that serve us? Is there such a thing as "healthy" fear? That's worth talking about! You are invited to listen in and agree or disagree with Mel or Kel.  These girlfriends hope this week's conversation gets you thinki...

"Be afraid. Be very afraid!"  This old quote from the horror movie The Fly sums it up well. There are times we should experience fearfulness. It is a normal, healthy thought at times. Starting this month, Mel and Kel discuss FEAR and just how a-ok this emotion really is.  Fear is part of our human experience. We have all encountered real and imagined fears throughout our lifetimes. We kn...

Join Mel & Kel this week as they wrap up their thoughts on happiness and joy. Specifically, they take a deep dive into joyfulness - from bible verses to fluffy puppies. The key is intentionality. Joy is something we can choose. We can also choose to own our lives - the positive AND the negative. Do you blame, complain, or over-explain? Welll...ummmm.. this means you are justifying instead of o...

Twenty-three episodes in and this, by far, may be too intense for some listeners. Following last week's episode on "fake happy," Mel & Kel had every intention to discuss "authentic happiness" this week.   Then life took over.  On this episode, Kel opens her heart and her life in a way that will impact any parent listening who has a child battling substance abuse.  FACT...

This week Mel & Kel had a heart-to-heart about fake happiness . Does everyone fake happiness? Do we teach our own children to do it? Is it permissible to fake happiness? When is it okay? When does it cross the line? These girlfriends untangle all kinds of thoughts this week! Not only on fake happiness. A whole other conversation was prompted when Mel asked Kel if she believed there were "...

BONUS EPISODE In this special and outstanding episode, you'll get to hear from a real-life superhero. Mel and Kel interview Jenny Hatcher and have a real heart-to-heart discussion with someone who knows what it is to struggle and what it's like to live with chronic pain.  Jenny is someone who has taken some hard hits in life. Life has not been fair. She has had to accept unfulfilled drea...

Hello Beautifuls! This week starts a new month of CHICK CHAT!  Join Mel & Kel as they move from disappointment over to HAPPINESS & JOY! Doesn't that sound awesome already? In this week's episode, the girlfriends discuss the difference between happiness and joy from each of their own perspectives. Which of course is a little different. They would certainly love to know your though...

Is there anything good or useful about feeling disappointed? Mel and Kel think so.  This week these girlfriends talk about the good that comes from negative emotions and feelings.  Why not embrace disappointment for what it is? It's a feeling caused by a thought. That's it. It's not complicated. It's quite simple. Make it a useful emotion and find the good.  💚The good can come...

How are you thinking these days? What are you doing - or not doing - for your mental well being? The answer may be reflected in the actions you are taking.  This week Mel quizzes Kel on her mental wellness. How'd Kel score? Well, listen in to find out and share some laughs too. Better yet, take the quiz yourself! It's all fun and games, of course, but the honest truth is that we must be...

Everyone feels disappointed at some point. That's normal. Life, events, jobs, people, and our own selves are full of disappointing details. This week Mel & Kel talk about all kinds of disappointment! It's a real thing.  These girls get it. They also know "it's better together!"  It's Mental Health Awareness Month. If you need or want more information, please check...