Bare Minimum Babe

Is there anywhere you feel resentful that you’re giving more than you’re getting back? You might be too focused on proving your value instead of providing value. This was me. When I first started offering free consultation marketing calls to women business owners, I was subconsciously hellbent on  proving  I could help them. I would overdeliver like crazy and make them feel so nourished and that t...

The remedy to any problem we have these days seems to be “you just need to change your mindset”—Bonus points if that person is selling you something. This mindset mantra, in a lot of ways, tells us that our feelings and experiences are either not relevant or invalid. What if what I’m saying is legit? What if I’m in an awful situation surrounded by awful people and I need to make an actual change,...

Who wants to admit: “I’m really emotional and I make all of my decisions and life choices on my emotional whims?” Nobody. But we do. All of our decisions are driven by emotion. This is okay! We don’t need to try to kill this fact, we just need to recognize we’re not as rational as we think and use that to better understand our decisions and why we make them. In this episode we discuss: the science...

“Manifest the life of your dreams” is often a slogan for a program or product someone is attempting to sell you—“Buy my thing. My thing will teach you how to positive think and visualize yourself to heaven on earth for you.” I’ve got some problems and questions with “manifesting” and I bet you do too... In this episode we discuss: The negative impacts of pushing manifestation on those with mental...

Procrastination is a symptom of fear and doubt. This delaying of action is normal and everyone does it, especially when something is new and uncomfortable. The only cure for procrastination is to start living in messy action to make the uncomfortable, comfortable. In this episode we discuss: How to identify the fear behind the procrastination How to flip that fear around and turn it into action Ho...

Do you laugh and roll your eyes when you hear someone say “New year, new me?” That’s fair and one of my reactions, but there are wonderful intentions behind that statement that shouldn’t be dismissed but should be helped. Today we’re going into the history of resolutions, why people set resolutions, why and where they often fail, and a much simpler and more effective method to achieve what you set...

We’re getting the definitions of “quitting,” “giving up,” and “changing your mind” all wrong. You’re making yourself feel guilty when you should instead feel energized and relieved when you “quit” something that wasn’t right for you anymore... In this episode we discuss: the differences between changing your mind, giving up, and quitting how to figure out if quitting is the right decision for you...

Real talk, I failed my 2022 goals. BUT I'm not upset or mad at myself like I've been every year before. Why? Because of the important takeaways. In this episode, I share exactly what my 2022 goals were, how I failed, how I succeeded, and the lessons I'm bringing into 2023. In this episode we discuss: looking at how we plan goals and if these ways actually helps us how you can set yours...

I share the things I’ve loved in 2022 and how going into 2023, I’m working on living my life in more “flow,” instead of forcing and pushing things to work out. We talk about how finding joy and comfort in “silly” or “unproductive” activities is not a waste of time. In this episode we discuss: how setting goals for the new year with the best intentions doesn’t mean you’ll succeed BUT it also doesn’...

Do you get hype for a yearly planner that comes with stickers saying things like “#goals”? Probably not. The market is infantilizing women in search of goal journals and yearly planners with overtly childish designs, prompts, and reflections that waste our time, money, and energy on goal-setting busywork. Are we so busy color-coding and reevaluating that we’re not moving the needle..? In this epis...

Thinking of your inner voice/critic as an overhyped archetype and putting a name and face to her helps you better understand what her purpose is, what her concerns are, and how to best calm her down. Question: in which ways is she overreacting to keep you safe— does she overuse control, aggressiveness, niceness, manipulation, etc.? You might not need her anymore and want her to step out of the way...

Do you beat yourself up for avoiding or having trouble doing new or vulnerable things? Do you yell at yourself that, “this isn’t that hard, why am I overcomplicating it?!” But, a lot of times it IS difficult and you’re NOT overcomplicating and you’re NOT overthinking it. It’s okay to feel that a difficult thing is difficult. Belittling and berating yourself doesn’t help, it actually makes it worse...

Gratitudes practices have been forced upon us and I’m over it. Sometimes things aren’t feeling great for you and being pressured to be grateful for all that you do have, can make you feel even worse with a new layer of guilt for now being a selfish, ungrateful B. That’s toxic bullsh*t right there. Don’t do that to yourself. In this episode we discuss: the impactful difference between an active vs....

Hustle culture wants you to believe that if you’re not grinding towards something then you should question your value. That’s bullsh*t. Just cleaning the dishes or having a positive interaction with a family member can have a major impact on you and the others around you. Discussed in this episode: how the Japanese concept of ikigai can help you feel more positive and purposeful you have value as...

I’ve decided to be overly honest about my negative feelings and how Bipolar ii plays the lead role in that frustrating movie AND how I try my best to embody my Bare Minimum Babe™ self during these depressive episodes by leaning into the roles that I value in my life. This episode is for you if you also struggle with any negative mental and emotional issues even if only sometimes because maybe you’...

Did you know that telling someone they’re pretty can make them smile??? That seems obvious, duhhh Babe. In today’s episode we talk about how “flirting” with women can build them up, what you think about yourself is probably a lie, and how sharing the positive thoughts we have about others can change yours and that persons outlook for the better, even if you look a little weird. Make someone smile,...

Admit that you care what others think. It’s not uncool. Once you admit it you can then prioritize and distinguish whose opinions actually matter to you. Positive outside validation often so makes or breaks when trying something new that it needs to be recognized as a craving lest you feel discouraged. In this episode we discuss: a key rule of being a good leader, coach, teacher, etc. is making som...

There’s a clear difference in mindset between striving to be THE guru in your field, vs. a contributor. When I read this in a book recently, I felt a weight lift. I didn’t realize how much pressure I had been putting on myself, and silently judging others who didn’t want to be THE person. In this episode we discuss: the difference in mindset between striving to be the guru vs. a contributor what i...

Could setting a 30 minute timer first thing in the morning make you 30x more productive? I don’t know…I didn’t create an actual formula for this lol BUT I know it makes me FEEL 30x more productive. This episode builds upon the previous episode “Is your morning routine killing your productivity? Mine was…EP 6” and offers a new challenge for your upcoming week if you’re up for it :) Also discussed:...

Do you have a morning routine? (Hint: you do) How long does it take? Do you feel better or worse after you’re done? Do your habits and personality align with the routine, or are you trying to make “fetch” happen? In this episode, we talk about creating an intentional morning routine that works FOR you instead of trying to force what works for others. Amanda uses herself as “Exhibit A” of a morning...

Do you ever want to escape a situation, person, place, or thing but feel like “I encouraged this…I guess I need to deal with it?” Knock it off. Quit guilt-tripping yourself. In this episode, we talk about our sense of obligation to others and how it holds us back. Also discussed: how you don’t need to do anything you don’t want to, how you’re allowed to change your mind after you gather more data,...

Feeling inferior is NOT a reason to put other women down. How do I know? I do it. I feel bad about it and I want to stop it. And I want to help you stop it too. Today we’re talking about the constant woman vs. woman comparisons, how stupid and unhealthy that is, how to quickly kill these thoughts and feelings, and to connect with other women in a more authentic way. Plus a bonus challenge :) Subsc...

Did you know you steal all the time? It’s usually a subconscious act and it’s why we think unlike anyone else on this planet and we couldn’t possibly be influenced by anything or anyone. But this is a lie. We steal from others all the time. We steal their ideas, their clothes, their thoughts, their feelings, their way of speaking, everything. We discuss how we can make this stealing a conscious ac...

Have you ever been torn between 2 ideas, people, things, places, cats, whatever? Of course, you have, you're a human being and want multiple things at once ALL. THE. TIME. In this episode of Bare Minimum Babe™, we talk about the hard job of being honest with yourself to figure out how important something ACTUALLY is to you vs. how important you think it SHOULD be important to you are very diff...

In this very FIRST episode of Bare Minimum Babe™, we talk about why we decided to add to the “noise” of self-help podcasts, how hustle culture is so toxic, why a routine is so helpful (especially for those living with mental illnesses), and how important having a friend is. Subscribe to the Bare Minimum Babe podcast to be notified of new episodes weekly! Discussed in this episode: “Essentialism” b...