Authentic

Last week the full moon hit me hard! I woke up and felt like I'd been whacked across my head and was in a state of, "ughhhhh!" I shared about this on insta and plenty of people were in a similar boat. Most were like, "OMG, me too, thank God I'm not alone", whilst others offered advice to help shift the state I was experiencing. If you've watched Brene Brown'...

This is a tool I have used for years when I am unsure about what decision to make or when I'm wondering if I've made the 'right' one. To be real, there's no right or wrong decision, as both lead to experiences, however this practice really helps provide certainty and a feeling of support from the invisible forces that you're on the right path. Enjoy. ASK FOR A SIGN HE...

To all my fellow, “I need to fix myself in order to be loved, accepted, chosen, taken seriously”, or whatever wonderful limiting belief you’ve made up, this one’s for you. My ex full time job was to fix me to perfection and it drove me to feeling so low about myself. I didn’t want one shard of broken piece left in me, and I made it my business to clean it all up. Turns out, the real work was in ac...

The first step to allowing your authentic self to come out into the world and be part of your life again is to acknowledge when you’re not letting it out, and then ask yourself … • Why was it difficult for me just now? • What story was playing in my head that stopped me from being me? • What do you I fear most, even though it’s irrational? • How did I feel in my body after hiding my authentic expr...

I wondered why I've been feeling so bloody good lately. It got me thinking and I asked myself, "what's changed?" It became clear that I've been investing in myself and am in 'learning mode'. At present, I have a coach who I reached out to, to help me expand. Recently, I went on the Her Trails Hiking Retreat in the Northern Territory and I signed up to Tory Archbo...

Do you listen to the needs of your body? Do you listen if your body needs rest? Do you listen to the answers inside of you, or give your power away to others and only listen to them? After an amazing client session recently, it came about for her to listen to herself, and to make space for that to happen. The simplicity of this message had a profound effect on her, because for so long the opinions...

I've recently returned from Alice Springs after hiking the Larapinta Trail. It's safe to say that this time away cracked me open and fuelled my wild heart. The transition from civilised living to camping in swags under billions of stars, in the middle of nowhere and on the red dirt, was far easier than I thought. In fact, I loved it! Eating around the campfire, sharing stories with the w...

Steve and I were driving to my friends wedding and we had the dumbest disagreement. Our defences were at play and we were going nowhere, fast! Beneath the bullshit, the disagreement was really  about Steve feeling unsupported by me, and I felt I was being controlled by him. On the surface we had our swords, shields and armoured suits on, both spitting fire and thinking we're both right. But u...

We all do a pretty good job of hiding some amazing parts of ourselves. We can hide our self expression for fear of looking foolish. We can hide our values and what we stand for, for fear of being rejected. We can hide our dreams for fear they'll never come true. Whatever we hide has a story behind it. A story that has power over the next layer of authentic expression finding its way out of yo...

I'm a big fan of asking the deep self enquiry questions that open us up to receiving the answers we need to hear. Yes, those answers can be uncomfortable as they have the potential to rearrange our lives, but they often bring us closer to living a life that feels true and aligned. These three simple yet powerful questions are ones to use in all areas of your life. They'll help you mainta...

I've been watching Steve make a shift since February this year. As he's shifting, I've noticed he's more soft, present, patient and quiet. He has more time for his daughters, enjoys spending time with them. He's journalling, making more space in his life for those who matter, and less time for those who bring drama. As I watch him shift, I am falling more deeply in love wi...

Always one to trust her intuition, after 20 years Tory Archbold knew that it was time to start a new chapter. Her ah-ha moment came after she launched 3 of America’s most powerful brands into Australia. At a sold-out launch event for Drew Barrymore’s brand Flower Beauty organised by Tory, Drew shared with the crowd about how she survived tough times.   Watching, Tory thought, ‘lady, I see you and...

For many years I have used cleaning and having a clean (well, perfect looking) space as a way to feel in control, safe and that everything was okay (for a brief moment). Obsessive compulsive tendencies have been running through my veins since a teen, not knowing what the heck to do with large emotions and the impending feeling of needing to make sure that I was constantly in control and okay.  I s...

What is your ego preventing you from experiencing, expressing, sharing, doing or being? This is the question I posed at my recent Sunday Meds In Real Life event. Is it preventing you from speaking your truth for fear you won't be taken seriously? Is it preventing you from experiencing real and deep love for fear you'll get hurt? Is it preventing you from standing up for what you believe...

My step daughter asked her PE teacher if she'd consider me coming in to run a dance and meditation class, to which she said yes! So last week I ran two classes and watched these girls freely express themselves, dance, sing, jump around, do the worm, do flips and cartwheels, chase each other around and laugh and be silly. Even the PE teacher got on board! My message to the girls was this. Ther...

Something magical happened after Monday's episode. My step daughters wrote me a note saying that they want to officially adopt me as their step mum (insert tears). I came home Wednesday night and Steve and the girls were in a funny mood. Little did I know that the three of them had chatted over dinner about me. Steve said, "Kat is choosing not to have children of her own. She's also...

Triggers can be so automatic that when you realise you're triggered, you're already neck deep in your shit. That was me a week ago.  Control is something my ego loves to have. It's how I feel safe and sure about my environment. So when something changes that I wasn't ready for, I feel like my space is being invaded, that something bad is going to happen to me and as a result, I...

This is a recent breakthrough that I have uncovered and am seeing in all its light. I've been working with my coach and brought this to her after noticing how I dull myself down when it comes to feminine and pretty clothing, telling myself and others, "oh I'm just not a dress person". I did this also until recently when I told myself, "I'm not a shorts person", a...

I found my diary recently and read through some of the entries. Wow-wah-wee! The limiting thoughts I had back then are still the same limiting thoughts I have now, only in 2014 they were fully charged and triggered me to go down into a black hole of despair. Now, the thoughts are there, however due to ego work and knowing it more intimately, I no longer become the thoughts. This is a great episode...

Back in the days of chronic pain and taking pain medication on the daily after brain surgery, I got a lot of sympathy from people. My family and friends would often ask me how I'm doing, what can they do for me, and if I was okay. The frustrating part was that they couldn't do much, but it was nice to know they cared. After hitting rockbottom and wanting out, I met my Professor of Neurol...

I've learned this lesson the hard way many times. Over the past two weeks with the intensity of the world, I could feel the guilt of getting on with my life, business and responsibilities kicking in. All I wanted to do was more and more for the NSW/QLD floods, and my batteries were running low. After a huge few days of helping organising Melbourne's mass donation drop for the floods, I l...

I was a YES gal! My immediate response was, "yeah sure, no worries", or, "yes of course, I'd be happy to", when in actual truth, I was not happy to.  The immediate yes came from a people pleasing, validation seeking and "please see me as an awesome human" place that led me to go against my deep down values. This further led to burnout due to giving out my energy...

Sometimes it's easy to forget how far you've come and be constantly looking forward to be your best self! I do that too as I use it as a way to step into who I choose to be, but there's a time and place to remember where you are now and where you have been in relation to that. Recently, I was doing a meditation when I was feeling doubtful about trusting the future I was moving towar...

My youngest step daughter said to me, "Kitty, when will the world get a break?" My heart, oh my heart. She's at that age now where she's aware and also bombarded with information about the world and can't un-see or un-hear what she's taken in. I get that there's always things going on in the world that are less than ideal, even cruel. It pains me to see people tr...

I had one of those epic mornings recently, where I got to do all the things I love without time pressure and I friggen loved it! I call these kinds of mornings my "top shelf" self care moments. I have three levels of self care - top shelf level, first shelf level and bench top level.  Bench top level self care is where I do the non negotiables, no matter how full my schedule is. This inc...