Authentic

Lately, Steve and I have been making a real effort to focus on gratitude, and it’s been a game changer. It’s easy to fall into the trap of noticing what the other hasn’t done, isn’t doing, or the little habits that get under your skin. But with gratitude, it shifts where our attention goes. Instead of zeroing in on what’s missing, we’re paying attention to what’s right in front of us—what we *are*...

Perimenopause—who knew this was even a thing? Not me! I always thought menopause was something that just suddenly happened when you hit a certain age, but perimenopause? That’s a whole different beast, and I’m right in the thick of it. It’s like this sneaky, slow-motion transition where your body starts doing things you never expected, and you’re left wondering what the hell is going on. I’ve been...

Lately, I've been reflecting on what truly makes a relationship successful, and one thing stands out: in a strong, healthy relationship, you never try to bring the other person down when they're shining in their light. Instead, you lift them up, cheer them on, and celebrate their successes as if they were your own. As I'm gearing up for the launch of my book, I've been feeling...

Recently, I found myself journaling about the phrase "all in good time." As I was writing, I noticed how much my ego wanted to rush, push, and brute force my way through the process. There was this constant sense of urgency and impatience, a nagging feeling that if I didn't hurry, everything would fall apart. Beneath this impatience, I recognized a deeper, more profound fear of fail...

Lately, I've been immersing myself in the art of listening, and it's been a transformative journey. I started journaling about my experiences with listening, prompted by Julia Cameron's book The Listening Path . Her insights have guided me to pay closer attention not only to the words people say but also to the deeper meanings and emotions behind them. Through my journaling, I'...

I wrote this question down in my journal, played this song , closed my eyes, and let the answers find me. The reason this question came up was due to writing the date, June 30th, at the top of my page and I thought, "wow, halfway through this year. How would I love the rest of it to be?" Then the question opened itself to the 'it' being 'life itself'. Here's what...

Unhealed wounds from our past shape the personalities we present to the world, often causing us to make choices that align more with our trauma than with our true selves. These wounds can manifest as insecurities, fears, and defenses that influence how we interact with others and perceive our place in the world. When we don't address these wounds, we often wear masks that hide our authentic s...

When you take your next best step guided by your inner knowing, you begin a journey of natural evolution. Each step, rooted in your authentic self, paves the way for the next, creating a path that aligns with your true essence. Over time, these steps build upon each other, leading you to places you never imagined. This process is organic and fluid, allowing you to grow and evolve in harmony with y...

It's easy to give a lot of care to things that, in the grand scheme of things, don't really matter. Our egos often convince us to prioritize superficial concerns, social status, and external validation. However, our true essence knows better. It guides us to focus on what truly matters, to give the right kind of fucks. Living authentically means aligning with this deeper wisdom, caring d...

This morning, Steve held space for me in the midst of a raw emotional release. I've been doing EMDR therapy for the past five weeks now, allowing and processing the raw emotions from childhood sexual abuse that I haven't felt in its purity. No bloody wonder why - IT'S. A. LOT. As I journaled this morning, the emotion of anger was right there and I felt it in all its power and fucked...

In my book I write about living a life that feels intrinsically right, good and true for us. A life that we get to dance with and make up the dance moves and rhythm and pace as we go along. A life that is so ours, so very much considered and intuited, a life that also considers the lives of others, all beings. This is the life of someone who is in touch with their authentic nature and plugged into...

Living true to our own pace and rhythm is about honoring the unique cadence of our lives, rather than conforming to the timelines imposed by society. It's a reminder that our journey is deeply personal and cannot be rushed or dictated by external expectations. When we tune into our inner rhythm, we reconnect with our true essence—the part of us that knows what feels right and authentic. This...

I had a magical moment this morning whilst sitting on the canal, listening to beautiful music and chatting with the forces at be. For some time I have not been my most vital in energy and also in well-being. My guts are crook, pretty much always bloated, I've been experiencing brain fog, forgetfulness, losing the thread of thoughts and increasing fatigue. If I hadn't have known about per...

If you find it difficult to communicate what's on your mind and/or heart in your relationship or the person you're dating, do you know why? Do you know the story that keeps you from sharing, speaking, expressing? Do you know the wound that the story was built upon? Do you know the things you tell yourself that leads to 'ahhh, it doesn't matter, I won't bother saying anythi...

"I am tired of tolerating ......" "I am tired of accepting ...... in my relationship." "I am tired of speaking to myself poorly." "I am tired of these behaviours I keep playing out ......" "I am tired of the way I show up at work events and around colleagues." Once you have your answers, the next question is ... What am I willing to do about this?...

If I waited until I wasn't afraid to go after the things that mattered to my heart and my life, I'd be waiting a long (long) time. A part of me was afraid to leave nursing, make my own money and create my own life. A part of me was afraid to start my business, speak on stage, create programs, run events, write a book and put myself out there. A part of me  was afraid to fall in love, com...

You know those uplevels where it’s happening from the inside out? A grumble, a pulse, a rise of ‘something’ that is so darn powerful that you know it’s going to rearrange the way you see yourself, others and life? It’s that space between letting go of the self that got you here and welcoming in the self you’ve been rooting for. There’s excitement, fear, unsureness (is that even a word?), curiosity...

Steve and I are being tested at the moment. We're in sleep debt. We're sleeping in separate beds. Why? Lately, Steve's snoring has reached new heights and we've gotten into an anxious sleep cycle where Steve is worried he'll snore, so isn't getting deep sleep. I'm worried I'll hear him snore so I'm stressing about getting to sleep first. This resulted i...

Animals have my heart. Period. When their true nature and innocence are taken advantage of, disregarded and used for pleasure, entertainment, food convenience and money, my soul breaks. Something breaks inside me. A pig at MIDLAND BACON PIGGERY in Victoria Australia has been sexually assaulted by a male, the farm owners son in fact. @dominionmovement are doing their best to free Olivia the pig, @c...

Previously I always looked for the metaphorical invisible door for me to escape. Where’s the exit when it gets tough, hard, too much, too close, too vulnerable? That door was something I kept very close to me. But in the lead up to our wedding, writing vows to Steve and the girls, that door was disappearing. And on the day, our magnificent wedding day, it went. I was in. All the way in. I know tha...

There’s cleaning and then there’s CLEANING! Everyone knows that I love a clean, tidy, aesthetically pleasing home. And the ones closest to me know when I’m cleaning because the house needs it, or when I clean because I need it. Cleaning for me became a coping strategy when I was younger. There was a hidden memory jammed up inside me that was causing disturbance. I didn’t have conscious access yet...

I have to give thanks to Brene Brown for giving me the terminology for FFTs - first fucking time. Those experiences or situations you're in where it's new territory, new landscape and you're in pits of "what the fuck do I do here?" It could be your FFT on a date after getting divorced, starting a podcast, having sex with a woman after being in a heterosexual relationship,...

When I was at my lowest, even doing something for three minutes felt almost impossible. Almost. But even at my worst, I could do something good for three minutes. Three minutes of anything that could get me out of my most negative thoughts, that could break my stuckness. To this day, whenever I’m feeling out of sorts and disconnected with my true self, I take a moment. I consciously redirect my at...

Our wedding was 100% us. There was nothing about it that catered to who we thought we had to be, what vows we thought we had to write, who we thought we had to invite, what food and drinks we thought we should get, what we thought we had to wear, what photos we thought we should get and all the rest. Everything about it was us, which is why it was so damn magical. The brief was - we want this to b...

I’ve done my best to keep this under wraps since April 2022 and now I can let the Penguin out of the bag! It’s with a big beating heart that I can now share openly that I’m writing my first book with @penguinbooksaus 🐧. When I received an email from them wanting to chat about the possibility of writing a book, I thought I was being scammed (lol), like for real. But it was indeed legit and I’m so...