Attitudes/Answers with Olen Baker

How long?  It's really up to you.  Getting fixated on saddness will stall the process of healing.  Turn to God for healing.

Grief is reality.  And God expects for us to get rid of all bitterness and anger so we can experience His peace.  

Getting stuck in grief is unhealthy.  God intends for grief to be the means for healing.  To start, open your heart to Him.

Habitual anger turns into hatred, and hatred can last a lifetime.  Have you ever known someone in your life who never did resolve an issue.  What a shame and what a waste of a life that was designed by God, to be peaceful.  Don't let that happen to you.

Unresolved anger turns into hatred, and like decay, can destroy the person.  Is that where you're at?

Understanding both sides of a conflict is necessary in order to resolve a conflict.  The same is true for you.  Do you understand the "root" of your anger?  Look first at you, then at the conflict.

It's tough, but in order to relieve anger, you must acknowledge your lack of control.  In other words, you can't fix another person, only God can do that.

Anger can be a heavy drain on so many aspects of our lives.  Prolonged anger has disasterous effects.  So, how can you allow anger to lead to a peaceful resolution?  Let's find out.

Anger is an emptotion that is hard to ignore and an essential emotion if we are to overcome anger with a peaceful result.  Stress is everywhere and is never going to cease to exist.  So, how do you handle anger?

Simply, it's a powerful emotion for creating a solution.  Without a solution, anger becomes a long term deadlock that stalls resolution.  

That's the question.  Here's the answer in just one word.  Communicate.  That takes grace and courage.  Ask God and he will tell you how to best communicate with the person on the other side of the conflict.

Ever hear of a person with a short fuse?  Maybe that's you.  So many things can trigger anger.  And that's okay.  Discovering a solution to quiet that anger and resolve a conflict always comes from God.

Simply, God gave us anger to teach us how to give and recieve forgivness.  That's a tough thing to do sometimes, but always necessary.

God never meant for anger to be a springboard for bitterness.  Anger can actually can help us find the strength to end a conflict.  That's how He designed us.

Difference of opinion doesn't have to be destructive when each person gives respect for their opinion.  Respect blocks conflict and is the way God intends for us to treat each other.  Not always easy, but always the best route.

Anger is a defensive measure designed to protect you.  But unresolved anger can build a wall that keeps you distanced from God and the person you have an issue with.  God can replace the wall with trust and most importantly, peace.  

When we get the wrong message, our response is based on something other than the truth.  Anger has lots of triggers.  God can help us discover the right way to resolve it.  Have a chat with Him.

Unresolved anger builds walls between people who care for each other.  Find the door in that wall and begin the process of repairing the damage before it becomes unrepairable.  

Anger has the ability to produce positive or negative results.  Irrational anger damages relationships.  Do you have issues like that?

A fit of rage rarely results in a good outcome.  So what if you could avoid that behavior?  Something to consider.

Anger is not always a bad emotion.  It's like letting steam off.  But the behaviors associated with anger are the issues that can get you into trouble.  

A lifetime of anger.  Not being able to let go of all the things that you perceived were done at your expense to damage you personally.  Imagine what that does to you internally and emotionally.  Not a great way to live your life, is it?

God's love for each of us loves us enough that even when mistakes are made, He is there to help initiate a fresh start.  That means you too.  

Anger can also be described as a motivator.  That's because it can be a pathway to pursue solutions to an issue.  Don't let anger be a dead end for you.

Anger so LOUD that you cannot hear reasoning?  Has that ever happened to you?