Ask Dr. Betters

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Dr., I have a question. It hurts me when I see kids in pain and suffering – little babies/kids born with deadly diseases who suffer for 3 to 5 yrs before they die. Why? Kids that are tortured and shot…What about "psychopaths" that abuse and kill innocent kids? Why does God allow this to happen? These kids are angels…they haven&apos...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Thank you for your informative videos. I became a Christian at age 40. Now I'm 51. I have an autistic teenage son with violent tendencies. Every time he beats us up or hurts himself, I lose more love and respect for the faith I thought I had. Today I hate God like I've never hated anyone or anything. 15 years of beatings and suffer...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Can I drink alcohol as a Christian? Or, what about drinking only wine, but not getting drunk?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the bel...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I'm 42. I smoke pot cigs and take a pain pill one time a day. I fully believe and read the Bible daily. Am I going to hell? I was baptized at 14 but didn't know what it meant." Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My Dad was an alcoholic and I was told that it’s genetic; therefore, that’s why I struggle with substance abuse. Do you agree with that?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five de...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi, my name is John. I'm from Ireland and I follow Ask Dr Betters on YouTube. I'm almost two and a half years in recovery from alcohol addiction, thank God in Jesus’ name! What do you think of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)? My experience in AA has been with a mixed bag of people with mixed beliefs. I like the program, but I don't...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "My niece recently came out and told the family that she is transgender. I’m not even sure I fully understand what that means. Now, apparently, she has a girlfriend. I have been a Christian my whole life and this just goes against everything I believe. We are getting ready for a family gathering at my house and she wants to know if she can bri...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “All my life I’ve been attracted to the same sex, going back to early childhood (elementary school age). I’ve heard we’re born straight, gay, or bi. I’ve heard as a Christian that it’s a sin. I believe it is. I have never acted upon with it another man, only in thought and through fleshly pleasures. I am saved and baptized. I believe in God, in Ch...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do you avoid sexual sin when you are single and unmarried? You know what the Scripture says about it. But you know also that the other person is only interested in one thing. It will lead to the consummation of the relationship before marriage, and results from a low standard, one would assume or say." Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing fro...

In this episode, Dr. Betters, in response to "Will I Know My Abuser in Heaven?", answers the question, "I feel that abusers get away with their actions both on Earth and in Heaven. As a Christian, I know I need to forgive my abuser, but where is the justice for those of us left scarred by the abuse? I believe not all sins are equal. Christians should speak up and report abuse—spirit...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am getting married in a month, and I just found out my fiancée was sexually abused as a child. Knowing this, how should I prepare for my wedding night and our first year of marriage?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals f...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hello, I am a college-age female, and I feel that God has left me. I feel like I always tried to follow his path even when none of my family went to church. I felt all my life that God was telling me to go one direction in ministry and then, when it was time to apply for schools and I told people, they told me that was not my calling. I feel...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My only question is this, and no one has been able to answer it so far. If God knew there would be murderers and people tortured and blown up and raped, etc., why would he create this world even if it’s only temporary? I can’t believe that God would allow that kind of suffering to exist, knowing beforehand it would. You may say it’s free wil...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "What if the pain of life has become too hard to bear? What if there have been too many substantial losses to handle life? Will we simply die with broken hearts in the end? God hears us and tells us so in scripture, so why can't we seem to be comforted?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic l...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How are we to rejoice in sorrow?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He finds hope in the belief that God is sovereign and can be trusted. In a world fille...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My friend's dad just died. When I am around my friend, I don't know what to say to her. What do you say to a grieving person?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five dec...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do we say that the Lord restored Job's losses when he lost 7 sons and 3 daughters? I understand he had 10 more children, but how could that possibly be seen as a restoration?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals f...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Due to various health issues, I have not been able to attend church for the past several months, is that sinful?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar challenges over more than five decades of ministry. He fin...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I suffer from Chronic Fatigue and I am exhausted all of the time. I’m only in my 40’s but I feel like I am wasting my life. I spend most of my time resting and the few things I am able to do during the day I spend most of that time thinking about how soon I can go back to bed. It makes me so sad. How can I still make my life meaningful instea...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “Does it really matter to pray if we or a loved one is sick? In that God doesn't change his mind. Our lives are already set...does praying to be well actually do any good?” Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Mark—has assisted countless individuals facing similar chal...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "The Bible says that 'God works all things together for the good of those who love him (Rom 8:28)'. How is God using my physical pain for good? What good can come from terrible pain that probably will have no end?" Dr. Chuck Betters, drawing from his own faith struggles—especially the tragic loss of his sixteen-year-old son, Ma...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Within the first weeks of marriage, I knew my husband was abusive. I’ve lived with the abuse for years and I’ve hidden it because I don’t want people to think badly of him – especially his boss. He is very charming in his work and socially. I try not to trigger him, but I’m exhausted and afraid. I was taught God hates divorce. So I feel like...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I was homeschooled and involved in the local church, considered a good kid. During the pandemic, I was isolated and lonely and I discovered a whole other world of beliefs. I question everything about God. Our world is so messed up, so many terrible things happen, including friends who have died from drugs and one who even committed suicide....

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up as a church kid, my parents were leaders in the church. The church was like a second family. But as an adult I am seeing how mean church people are – how they use people – and think nothing of betraying people like my parents. I can’t stand going to church and I have such anger and bitterness. I don’t want to be like this but I can...

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am terrified. I am not a Christian. I asked Jesus into my heart when I was a child, and I went to church with my family whenever the doors were open. But now that I’m an adult, I see how sinful I am, and when I ask God to forgive me, I don’t feel anything. I can’t ask anyone for help because they think I’m a wonderful Christian woman. How...