Art of Spousing

A determined husband and wife can make this their best year of marriage yet, proactively investing in themselves and each other to find the hope they need to overcome the 92% of New Year's goals that fail. You will learn how to unlock the secrets of a successful marriage and discover why intentionally investing in your relationship is key. This episode is all about Intentionally investing in your...

"The best instructions come from the creator of a product." We've been married for 30 years, and one of the things that has helped us stay strong is that we've been intentional about our intimacy. We've always put God first in our marriage, and we've been intentional about growing in our spiritual, emotional, and sexual intimacy. We wish we would have had more adventure in our first five years of...

This is Christopher and Jasmine Catoe's story... I'm a worship leader at Christ Fellowship Church and my wife, Jasmine, is a content producer. We met in middle school and have been married for almost three years. Recently, we took an enneagram test and discovered that I am actually a five, not a one like we thought. This was a bit of a shock to me, but it made sense when I thought about my perfect...

In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. The Support Challenge Matrix: a tool for empowering relationships 2. The four quadrants of the Support Challenge Matrix: Protector, Dominator, Abdicator, Liberator 3. The consequences of living in each quadrant of the Support Challenge Matrix Resources: Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage Reboot SUBSCRIBE: Monthly Newsletter Support Challenge...

Gabe and Casey Mahia are a young couple who have only been married for two years, but they have already learned a lot about themselves and each other. One of the things that Gabe has learned about Casey is that she is a self-proclaimed enneagram six. For those of you who are not familiar with the enneagram, it is a tool of empathy that reveals core motivations. Gabe is a video producer and he mana...

For a marriage to be secure and strong, you need to build a pro marriage collective, a community with like minded, growth minded couples. "The people you spend the most time with will change you in ways you cannot anticipate or ever fully understand." Over the last 30 years, we have surrounded ourselves with couples who are pro-marriage. They are always championing us and our relationship and they...

Brandon and Michelle Catoe are long-time friends of the hosts of the Art of Spousing podcast. They have been married for almost 27 years and have two adult children. Brandon is a three on the enneagram and Michelle is a six. They have both been involved in ministry for many years and currently serve on the senior leadership team at their church. This is Brandon and Michelle Catoe's story... Brando...

The Art of Spousing Podcast tackles the reasons for money causing tension in marriage and provides tools to combat the stressors. "An ounce of disciplines weighs far less than a ton of regret" - Jim Rohn Lisa and I have different money styles. I tend to be a saver, while she is more of a spender. This can cause tension in our relationship, especially when it comes to budgeting and making financial...

Grant and Stephanie Gardner are high school sweethearts who have been married for 38 years. They are the founders of Forever with Purpose, a ministry that empowers marriages to maximize their vision and purpose. They are also the hosts of the Pillow Talk with Grant and Stephanie podcast. "I always say that, we were knocked up, but not out. we got our cart before the horse and got married at a very...

By building on common ground, you can strengthen your marriage. "Couples who know how to play and have fun together develop a bonding that can carry them through the most difficult times." Lisa and I were talk about strengthening our marriage by building on common ground. We discussed how marriages built on common ground have the ability to stand up against challenges that happen in life. In this...

In this episode, James and Lisa talk with Dave and Bethany Kush, who share their lifelong journey of learning and growth as a couple, in light of the Enneagram. "Oh, my gosh, now everybody knows. They see me with all my flaws. I felt like I'm standing in front of a crowd wearing just my underpants." Dave and Bethany Kush are a couple who have been married for 33 years. They have known each other s...

When committed love, emotional intimacy, and passion collide, the result is a work of art called marriage. "Love is more than a feeling and deeper than a crafty slogan or a line of a song." Today we're talking about love. The word love is described in so many different ways. Some make sense. Some are just silly. Some talk about love. Some try to define love. Some of these you may have heard of wel...

"The Enneagram's effect on marriage." is not about: 1. The Enneagram is a perfect tool for predicting compatibility in marriage. 2. The Enneagram can help identify and correct relationship problems. 3. The Enneagram can help couples resolve conflicts and improve communication. Do you know your Enneagram type? It just might be the key to a happy marriage. "I felt understood for the first time and f...

Are you dealing with any of this? 1. You may feel like your partner isn't listening to you or understanding your feelings. 2. You may feel like you're always the one giving and never receiving. 3. Your partner may not be meeting your needs emotionally or physically. "So one of my favorite leadership teachers, Jim Rohn, taught small errors in judgment over a period of time will result in accumulate...

If you're looking for a marriage that will last, look no further than Justin and Andrea Lathrop. "The greatest gift Justin has been in my life was to kind of model for me and perfectly, of course, like unconditional love and that it wasn't based on my performance, which ties into my enneagram number, too." Justin and Andrea Lathrop are a married couple of 22 years. They met in college and have sin...

Lisa and James share insights around the five types of intimacy, and how a husband and wife can practice the art of intentional intimacy in spousing.  Topics include; relational intimacy, spiritual intimacy, physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, and sexual intimacy. ___________________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE ON: Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Amazon Music Art of Spousin...

Lisa and James sit down with good friends Greg and Julie Gorman, the founders of Married for a Purpose, to talk about their 23 year marriage dynamic of an ennea 7 and ennea 2. ___________________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE ON: Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Amazon Music Art of Spousing Resources: Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching opportunities. Send Questions and Comm...

James and Lisa teach on the importance of growing in self-awareness (ME) and awareness of each other (WE).  Topics discussed include; the difference between nature and nurture, Personality types, birth order, core motivations, love languages, and family of origin. ___________________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE ON: Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Amazon Music Art of Spousing R...

James and Lisa share learnings around the power of The Enneagram, as a tool for building connection in a marriage relationship.  They unveil their personal Enneagram types and the dynamics of how their two types compliment and at times cause conflict in their relationship. ___________________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE ON: Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Amazon Music Art of S...

James and Lisa unpack the Gap and the Gain made famous by Dan Sullivan.  How you measure progress in your marriage relationship will determine the potential for happiness and contentment in you relationship.   ___________________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE ON: Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Amazon Music Art of Spousing Resources: Schedule a Discovery Call about coaching oppo...

In this episode, James and Lisa unpack a simple concept that has the potential to shape the outcomes of situations where one or both spouses are triggered.  Inspired by a quote attributed to psychologist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl... “Between the stimulus (event) and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our free...

People FALL IN LOVE every day.  The problem is too many people FALL OUT OF LOVE too easily.  Having a lasting, healthy marriage requires a different mindset.  It requires a commitment to love even in seasons when it is difficult.  ⁠ ⁠ In this episode we unpack the principle of sowing and reaping and 3 truths that will help you and your spouse GROW IN LOVE for the rest of your lives together.   ___...

Every marriage will face crisis and challenging times.  Having guiding principles in place before these times hit is important to be able to navigate through to the other side.  James and Lisa share three principles that will help married couples navigate crisis and challenge in their relationship. Some of the things you will hear include: - Recap of the Big Three C's - The difference between Cris...

James and Lisa share tools that will help married couples navigate conflict in their relationship  Some of the things you will hear include: - The night that James and Lisa were test subjects for an important research study - Explanation of the "Know Yourself, Lead Yourself" tool - How to give an apology - How the words Impact and Intent can defuse conflict. - How Snickers Bars are more than just...

In this bonus episode, James and Lisa share a clip of a podcast they recorded remotely from Cancun, Mexico. They unpack how they have prioritized their relationship by doing "Just the 2 of Us Trips" on an annual basis. Some of the things you will hear in this episode include: How getting away with your spouse is like "fasting" The benefits that James and Lisa find from doing just the 2 of us trips...