Angry At The Right Things

Codependents, this episode is for you! Let's dislodge the guilt that keeps us from cultivating healthy empathy for ourselves and others, once and for all.

Hatred is not something to judge, but rather, a beneficial emotion that gives vital insight. Learn how to harness hatred for good -- and rid yourself of it's toxicity, once and for all.

Loving our children requires much more than a sentiment, but learning to help them feel both held and free, which is not easy. Learn how to allow our children to differentiate successfully, while finding wholeness for ourselves.

Denial causes us to deflect our shame unto others, but true power comes from sharing power. Let's live in reality together, sharing with and celebrating those around us.

If we're honest, children are incredibly disappointing. But when we accept the inevitable disappointment that they won't make us feel better about ourselves and we make them feel seen by us, our kids become powerful - and delightful. 

This is an incredible interview on the Think Unbroken Podcast, with Michael Anthony. Michael and I both have participated in our own liberation from childhood trauma, which makes for a profound and inspiring conversation. 

The scientific name for what we call "keeping it all inside" is alexithymia. Studies show alexithymia can cause physical and mental illness. Here are some easy ways to undo alexithymia in your life, protecting your mind, body and soul.

Anger from our parents is necessary for our differentiation. The good news is we can heal ourselves without their apology. Here's how.

Do we relate to ourselves in a black-or-white, shame-based way, or do we seek self-understanding with the goal of fostering maturity and growth? Changing the way we see ourselves changes us. 

Practical examples of what we can do to keep ourselves from being infected by people with Borderline Personality Disorder. Knowledge is power, and even dragons have a soft underbelly. 

Today's medicine has nothing to do with health, and actually is quite risky. Learn about iatrogenic disease, which is harm caused by the medical institution itself, and how to stay safe and sound.

What keeps us from being there for people who are struggling is ourselves. Here's how that plays out, and how we can be empowered to show up for others. It can save a life.

Wisdom is knowing when to give up. Let's take back our lives by embodying this principle, as well as learning how to do anger well.

Forgiving ourselves is easier said than done, yet dissociated anger at ourselves is more detrimental than that toward others. This exercise is a template we can all apply, to release ourselves and our bodies, for once and for all. 

Empathy can be a double-edged sword, as we unconsciously feel responsible for the feelings of others, while withholding empathy from ourselves. Learn where this stems from and how to unlearn it for good. 

Don't believe the false distinction we make between what is physical and spiritual. Feelings like hope and joy aren't abstractions that can not be measured. We embody them -- or not -- every single hour of every day. 

Black holes don't just exist in space, and they are more common and dangerous than you would think. The term scapegoat stems from an ancient Hebrew ritual animal that is technically free, but spiritually bound. Learn how human scapegoats are the same. 

Vincent is a podcast entrepreneur who interviewed me on his podcast, A Mental Health Break. He also helps other budding podcasters and entrepreneurs break through boundaries to share their message. His website is https://vincentalanci.com/. Hear how his life took a hard, unforeseen turn 12 years ago that was both devastating and life-giving.

Bronwyn leads us in an exercise to give ourselves the approval our inner child is seeking -- as well as how to practically integrate with ourselves on an ongoing basis, keeping the defense mechanisms of mental and physical illness at bay. 

As we choose to differentiate from our parents, we heal our relationship with ourselves, at long last. It's how we become whole, and begins with our first breath. 

Trust must be earned, even with a newborn baby. We earn it through listening. But not everyone deserves your ear. Learn wisdom to discern the difference. 

Learn the symptoms of shame, and how to recognize unsafe people. Also, be inspired that evil can catalyze us to become powerfully good.

This is a new way to look at an old proverb, which is likely it's truly intended, but lost, meaning. What it really means to be family. 

Shalom isn't just a state of peace, it's also when we become whole, complete, and consistent. Inconsistent people are unsafe people, and we won't achieve shalom with them in our lives. Also, learn how to be powerful -- by listening. 

There's a lot of confusion about how a curse is activated and how to break one. Learn the truth about what causes a generational curse, and how to break it forever.