And What Else?

Send us Fan Mail Way back in some of my earlier episodes I spoke about generalisations and how they allow us to focus on other things and keep ourselves distracted. While we're focusing on our distractions, it allows us to completely ignore what we really need to look at. This is the basis of all the coaching I do and I'm often saying the phrase "the presenting problem is never the...

Send us Fan Mail With almost perfect timing, I "recorded" this episode without actually pressing record - so this version is my second one! It ties in amazingly with the topic I'm discussing today which is about what is in your control. I've had a lot of conversations with people recently about things we feel are outside of our control, getting frustrated by things happening ba...

Send us Fan Mail Have you joined Threads yet? Did you read those pesky terms and conditions before you accepted your account there, or did you just dive in head first? I have a feeling I know what your answer is! I've joined, and (surprise!) I also didn't read the T&Cs. All the discussion around the new app, the way it's linked with Instagram and hasn't launched in the EU b...

Send us Fan Mail Today's post is inspired by a post I made a few weeks ago, where I talked about the silence of people that can't cheer for you and how you may only be cheering for yourself in secret. Consider the reasons that you aren't cheering for yourself publicly - do you feel like what you're doing isn't big enough, important enough or that people won't like it...

Send us Fan Mail Today I'm wanting to talk about the topic of self trust and how important it is - even though it's not a logical thing at all. Trust in itself is not logical, it's really just a feeling that we get through actions and we can't always put a finger on what the exact feeling is, but we just have a knowing around. People are always quite baffled as to why they don&...

Send us Fan Mail Even when you're in self-development and have done a lot of the internal work, explored your blocks, beliefs and limits, something we all have in common is the human experience - part of being alive! Sometimes life throws all sort of different things at us - something goes wrong while we're on holiday, a podcast episode doesn't save correctly, or you're having...

Send us Fan Mail Over the years, there's a response I've noticed people receive when they say they are in coaching or therapy and that's that they're mentally weak, have poor mental health, been through something awful or are suffering with grief or abuse. It's often seen as more of a negative thing that they need help, rather than a positive thing. I've experienced i...

Send us Fan Mail In the last episode, we touched on what we "make things mean" in our lives, which is a huge part of any coaching relationship. If we find that we're being reactive, self-sabotaging or unable to make changes that we want to make, the thing that gets in the way more often than not is "what we're making it mean" that we don't realise we're maki...

Send us Fan Mail There's so many times in our lives where we attach meaning to things that don't really need to mean anything - particularly numbers. We're this size so it means this, what it means about people who have X amount of friends, how much money we have in the bank means this about us, and it's so interesting that we can take a situation, attach a number to it and sud...

Send us Fan Mail "Feeling stuck" is something that comes up a lot for my one-to-one clients. We feel like things are beyond us, there's nothing we can do and that it's not our fault that these things keeps happening to us. We feel like we have no more choices or decisions left and we are just waiting for life to make its decisions for us. However, what I've found is actual...

Send us Fan Mail Firstly, I can't believe we're in double figures in the podcast now! In episode 10, I'm diving deeper into those ingrained thoughts that we have about ourselves - "I'm not someone who...", "I can't do...", "I don't wear..." and discussing how we've come to those conclusions and what happens if we consider the alterna...

Send us Fan Mail The main link between everyone I work with one-to-one is being an overachiever because it soothes their emotional avoidance. This is what has created their success and they are usually masking some level of high-functioning anxiety without even knowing they're doing it. They are dependable, good in a crisis and know their stuff. But eventually, they'll hit emotional burn...

Send us Fan Mail In today's world of over-consumption and instant gratification, it's so easy to dive into self-development and think you're going to get standardised outcomes in week 4, month 5 or year 2 or any other milestone you can think of. I'm here to tell you that that's not the case. It's a constant, ongoing process that you need to keep working at and being p...

Send us Fan Mail There's a common thread that links all the clients who work with me and that's that they are often overachievers who feel like underachievers - and they also don't realise they're hyper-independent. If you're drawn to listening to my podcast and have enjoyed the first six episodes, this is likely you, too! People who have these struggles (without realising...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is aimed at a person in a certain part of their life. I know I've been there, and I'm pretty sure you will have been too - the person who says they want to make a change, has studied and researched how to make that change, talks about the change... but hasn't yet actually made the change. I'm not talking to people who have social, economic, time or...

Send us Fan Mail In last week's episode, we covered the topic of authenticity and how our values, what we want to grow about ourselves and how we can be honest with ourselves to ensure we aren't hitting the point of burnout. For today's episode, we're going a little deeper and discussing the layer of authenticity surrounding emotional authenticity in particular. If you ever fee...

Send us Fan Mail Today we're diving deeper into a topic I touched on in episode 3 - authenticity. It's become a bit of a buzzword recently and often we're made to feel as though if we don't share all of ourselves, we're being inauthentic, untrustworthy and fake. Does this mean that as a personal brand, we should share every moment of our lives in order for people to trust...

Send us Fan Mail Building on our discussion from last episode, false benefits are protective behaviours that feel good in the moment, but won't help you in the long term. The effect of these can range from inconvenient and time wasting (scrolling) to downright destructive (addictions). That's why it's so important to address these and to ask the right questions that will help you to...

Send us Fan Mail The name "The Completion Coach" was inspired by my own frustrations of things that were never started, desires and dreams that people didn't get around to and things that were left unfinished. I've been coaching for over six years now, and in the beginning I found myself noticing that my clients' commitment to completion dropped off after the coaching ende...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to this first episode of the "And What Else?" podcast with me, Wendy O'Beirne, also known as the Completion Coach! In this episode, I'll be sharing why I've chosen the name "And What Else?" for this podcast, and as part of that I'll be exploring how the generalisation of deep topics in today's world affects our abilities to unde...