Ancient Intelligence

“Beauty is the harmony of purpose and form.”  Scandinavian architect and designer Alvor Aalto, 1928 I love this quote because to me it represents the perfect harmony of yin and yang, yin being form and yang being function. Masculinity brings order, logic, and effectiveness while femininity fosters connection, intuition, and feeling. When one is missing we lose balance. In this episode I start...

I’ve talked about how a man can integrate his feminine energy to find his zone of genius (episode 65 on Spotify) but what about how a woman can integrate her masculine energy in heathy way leaving behind the boss babe energy? This episode is an introduction to understanding healthy female integration of masculine energy, when intact there is trust, logic, self-belief, and trust and appreciation fo...

Were hunter gatherers patriarchal or matriarchal? Neither. I had the privilege of hosting Elena Bridgers on the show to have a conversation about understanding our evolutionary past as hunter gatherers. Elena is a science writer, content creator and mom of two with a special fascination in hunter-gatherer societies and human evolution, specifically as it relates to motherhood. Elena has published...

With great power comes great responsibility. In this episode I dive into the link between duty, honor, and accountability and how these are all uniquely male attributes that require reverence. I talk about how the masculine drive towards these things shapes our relationships in positive ways and when appreciated how much that grows. I also get into one blind spot men have when focusing on accounta...

In this episode I share some of my findings on the mythology of matriarchies. I share some insights from late activist Russell Means (Lakota tribe) and some work from late Lithuanian Archeologist and anthropologist Marija Gimbutas. people throw around the words matriarchy and patriarchy these days without really defining what their intention is and how they ‘should’ function. I think it’s interest...

It’s not trad wife or boss babe, but it’s something else entirely. I had the privilege of hosting Courtney Ballard on the show to have a conversation about understanding masculine provision from a female perspective. She is a beautiful writer, creator, sourdough bread extraordinaire, homemaker, and friend. Author of the book Devoted, where she poetically describes how by becoming devoted to receiv...

There’s that moment in the film when the woman turns to the man during a crisis and says, “what are we going to do now?” Contrary to mainstream beliefs that say this makes women look helpless, this is actually the instinctual female desire to be guided at play here. I get into our survival instincts and how and why relationships play such a big role for women. I dive into detail about diffused awa...

I explore what I’m calling the art of masculine provision because it goes so far beyond finances and shelter. Men have a huge capacity to provide intellectual, spiritual, and emotional guidance that’s often missed and misunderstood. I get into the core desires of men and women, why understanding provision matters so much, and how this provision can be understood in modern relationship dynamics. Fi...

With men ‘falling behind’ women in many aspects of life from university attendance to career success, the question being asked is ‘How do we help men find success and meet women where they are?” While valid, I believe it’s fundamentally the wrong question because it ignores a foundational principle about men and women: men don’t want to compete with women, they want to care for women. I explore so...

In this episode I share a high level overview of the different ways that men and women experience attraction and pair bonding based on their respective hormones. I discuss the foundational pull between the masculine and feminine poles and how the instinctual desires men and women have are related to the hormones they release at different times within dating and mating. I highlight the core four ho...

In this episode I dissect the meaning behind some hot-button words like hierarchy, authority, and patriarchy to showcase that many of our misunderstandings are a product of nomenclature discrepancies and misinterpretations, not malicious intent. Danish Author Tor Nørretranders has an important insight in his work, The User Illusion, about how as humans we feel more than we know and we know more th...

In a recent study out of the Czech Republic, it’s reported that women are envious of men for their ‘lack of concern’(among other things). I recently had a few women mention to me that they feel so anxious all the time , meanwhile their partners seem to not be carrying as much ‘mental load.’ What’s actually going on here? It’s definitely not lack of concern. It all comes back to our differences as...

Hello - I am back with a solo episode and alas we have timestamps. Very excited to officially have those moving forward for all episodes, I know a few of the listeners have been asking. This episode is an introduction to the masculine spiritual awakening and how a man can find his greatest sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. I utilize the yin/yang to showcase the four step process and how it wo...

The answer is yes - if men have two extremely important factors intact in their lives before being vulnerable. This is really important. Lots of men that talk to me say that vulnerability is hard for them to understand without the fear of being judged. They genuinely cannot foresee expressing vulnerability because in the past they have had it weaponized against them or the woman in question has lo...

This is my first subscriber Q&A. I have a wonderful community of gentlemen that asked fantastic questions. For those that don’t know I do transformational coaching for men so most of my engaged community are gentlemen (with plenty of ladies listening to the podcast too). I go for about twenty minutes for this one, but will make them slightly longer moving forward to have time to answer more qu...

I challenge the mainstream narrative surrounding ‘The Patriarchy’ and argue that its true essence is largely misunderstood. I explore what the Patriarchy actually is? How I see it from a female perspective? and What the true cause of dissatisfaction for both women and men is? I explore how by embracing the benevolent patriarch, we can all better connect to our purpose, our harmony, and divine desi...

We know men are one task at a time people and though this is true on a micro scale, it’s just as true in the macro. What’s important to a man changes five times in his life and in this short episode I break down the five stages and what’s most important about them. I get into what men are prioritizing, what they want, and what they can provide in each of the life stages. I also share anecdotes we...

This is part 2 of ‘The biggest difference between men and women.’ While in the preceding episode I dive into the root cause of misunderstandings and multiple examples of this, in this episode I double click on one specific difference that fascinates me greatly: The difference behind why men and women tell stories. Expect to learn why men tell stories for entertainment while women tell them to gath...

In this solo episode I break down exactly why and how we misunderstand each other as men and women so much by getting into the root cause: our difference in focus which affects how we process and behave in the world. Expect to learn why it’s important to understand the differences between hunters and gatherers so that we can understand our differences in modern times. In addition learn about why m...

Marriage has been losing popularity in the west for many decades now and what occurs to me is there is a big misunderstanding about the purpose of marriage and what it entails. I had the honor of having Rebbetzin Mushka Plotkin on the show to discuss this within the context of a Jewish home. Her and her husband Rabbi Mendy run the Dallas Community Chabad and bring so much light and warmth everywhe...

They say don’t date someone’s potential, but I actually think there is way more to it than that. What I believe they mean is don’t date someone based on who you believe they can be without them putting in much effort to be that person. That is completely different from meeting someone at the start or middle of their come up journey and seeing and believing who they are working towards becoming. A...

Is progress always a good thing no matter what? Mass culture seems to tell us that is is, but I’m not so sure. Especially how progress and our bodies intersect. One of the most important questions to ask is what is the right relationship between the human body and technology? Inspired by Mary Harrington, author of Feminist Against Progress, I lay out some of her ideas and expand on them. I focus o...

The boss babe, the independent woman, the one that has her own back. We all know her, many of us were her once before, and many are still her today. What’s going on beneath the tough girl exterior? The truth is that our natural tendency is towards interdependence, but when we experience an injustice as children, in order to survive we have to build a shield to protect ourselves. As we grow older,...

We’ve all heard the classic line, “you’re a really nice guy but…” And then he doesn’t get the girl. So what’s really going on with the nice guy? Why is he like this and what does the cool girl have to do with it? As a recovery cool girl myself, during this solo episode I break down what’s happening under the surface for people that exhibit nice guy and cool girl behaviors. Expect to learn what was...

Last week I watched Skywalkers: A Love Story, the new documentary about Russian daredevil couple, Angela and Vanya and how they got to where they are today: living their dream and in what looks like deep, passionate love. Upon watching I realized this film presents us with the perfect template of themes and situations that can help us understand what is required to build a true bond between the ma...