Ancient Intelligence

In this episode I break down a common pattern that I see in relationships - men falling into the wrong relationships out of a scarcity mindset. This causes disempowerment, resentment, and frustration for everyone. Listen in to learn about the mismatch between men and women in the early stages of dating, the key biological and hormonal differences (back by Huberman Research), how certain behavior f...

About This Episode 13:17 ** C orrection - I meant 800% (not 1800%) This is PT 2 of Flirting and Courtship where I pick up from where I left off in PT 1 (Medieval Europe). In this episode I take us from Renaissance through the Colonial Era through the Victorian era into the Industrial Revolution and the turn of the twentieth century. PT 1 -    • Flirting and Courtship&...

In this episode I explore the myth and history behind the courtship practices of a few select ancient societies. Listen in to learn why courtship was known as the most dangerous pastime for the young Icelandic man, where the origins of the madonna/whore complex may have come from, the difference in courtship between Rome the Republic and Rome the Empire, how did Romans think about matrimony, what...

In this episode I am joined by the lovely Rivkah Krinsky - wife, mother of 8, matchmaker and founder of One Soul matchmaking, podcast host, and health coach. We explored what it means to have faith as a Co-creator with God as we touched on dating, marriage, motherhood, and more. Listen in to learn about the Kabbalistic wisdom behind soulmates, why women are the foundation of faith, the difference...

While there are many topics that must be addressed to resolve the partnership between men and women including work, dating practices, and rights there is one fundamental breakdown that sits at the root of it all - the broken agreement between men and women about our respective evolutionary purpose. Listen in as I explore how fringe opinions get turned into perceived consensus, the evolutionary mis...

In this episode I explore what happens to society when we lose the sacred, when meaning, ritual, and honor gets replaced by spectacle and consumption backed by a larger distrust. Drawing on my background in brand strategy and research mixed with my psychology training, I bring together history, culture, and real stories to highlight some of our dysfunction. Listen in to learn about the lost art of...

In this episode I explored the duality of patrimony and matrimony. While we barely discuss matrimony in our culture, we definitely don't think about patrimony. Our dismissal of patrimony's importance in sustaining a healthy society is one of the reason's we are unraveling. Listen in as I draw on myth, tribal wisdom, and an exploration of the meanings of patrimony and matrimony and how they work to...

In this episode I continue with the exploration of men, women, and work. Last week I looked at how the Industrial Revolution broke the initial bond between men and women and what has occurred since then. Watch it here: How the Bond Between Men and Women Broke D...   I continue on here with the question - how can men and women find harmony today? I...

In this episode I explore what really happened to men and women when work first left the home. The effects of the Industrial Revolution on the bond between men and women is something that is not spoken about often. In the name of productivity, progress, and consumption - we have traded many things most of all meaning. Listen in as I highlight some pieces of history that are important in putting to...

About This Episode In this guest episode I sit down with Professor Marc J. Defant, Professor of Geology and Geochemistry whose work spans the physical sciences and evolutionary psychology. Recently he published a peer-reviewed paper in Sexuality & Culture titled “Evolutionary Psychology and the Crisis of Empirical Rigor in Feminist Studies” - https://rdcu.be/eOkjZ The paper argues that much of...

In this episode I highlight the pervasive heteropessimism that exists in the culture today (on both sides of the aisle). Inspired by this recent article written by Mana Afsari - https://thepointmag.com/examined-life... I dive into one of the blind spots I see happening in dating: categorical thinking. I wrote a short piece about this - find it here: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-... Listen...

In this episode I dive into a teaching that can help us understand the difference between solid and sturdy love versus insecure attachment (or filling a void). In the midst of the gender discourse, conversations about love and humanity can get skipped over. There is a foundational human-ness that exists in men and women that is found through trust, respect, and appreciation that must exist first....

In this episode I am joined by Igor Vasilevitsky, a counselor, father, and exceptional writer on all things healing, masculinity, and femininity. He works with archetypes to help men and women heal and grow (he has helped me on my own journey). We dive into the benevolent or divine father archetype and unpack why he is so important in our world. The father represents guidance towards what is good...

Girls and women are driven by one central evolutionary purpose - to protect their bodies well enough to create and sustain life. A woman’s survival strategy and inner drive is fundamentally different from a man’s because while his is focused on the macro, hers is on the micro. I get into the evolutionary psychology of boys and men in the previous episode which can provide context here. Listen in t...

Boys and men are driven by a foundational fear that modern culture has forgotten about - the enemy. The inner drive that boys and men have is to defeat the enemy and keep us safe - this is one of the most noble things that exists in our world and yet it is ignored and misunderstood today. In this episode I break down why boys are naturally drawn to competition, strategy fighting, and testing thems...

One thing that gets missed often in discussions about men and women is how little men around the world experience non-sexual touch and affection. This goes hand in hand with the lack of care our culture exhibits towards men. Listen in to learn about three myths and truths reflecting men, the data behind touch, how testosterone and attachment work together, the origin of the word wife, and much mor...

Happy New Year Everyone! In this episode I unpack why healthy male power is actually a force for good in the world and why the true danger lies in powerlessness. I trace how unacknowledged boys can grow into passive or angry men and I talk about the three most important ways that a young boy finds his healthy power as he grows up. Listen in to learn about the differences between male and female po...

In this episode I break down gamma bias - what it is, why it matters, and how it’s hurting relationships between men and women. I break down the 4 areas of gamma bias and how it shapes headlines, culture, and media reporting. I look at data around domestic violence and women in universities. Listen in to learn about how gamma bias has eroded female accountability, why we don’t publicly celebrate m...

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I had the privilege of sitting down with Paul Elam for this enlightening conversation. Paul is a well known advocate for men’s rights. He is the founder of ‘A Voice for Men’ - the international conference on men’s issues. He inspired the making of ‘The Red Pill’ movie that aired in 2016. He’s been a men’s advisor and counselor for many decades now, and I appreciate how deeply he cares about suppor...

In this episode I dive into an excerpt from G.K Chesterton’s essay, The Emancipation of Domesticity, which gives us an important insight about the roles of men and women. Chesterton argued that men are specialists and women are generalists and paired with the greater male variability, we can use this insight to uncover many of the cultural, domestic, and social issues that exist between us. Listen...

This week I thought it would be interesting to do a deep dive into the ‘Cool Girl’ archetype because it’s so prevalent in our culture. Most of us can relate to either being her, knowing her, or dating her. Listen in to learn about what drives the cool girl, how she relates to men, where her biggest pain point is, why the ‘nice guy’ is her opposite-sex mirror, and much more. The first part of the v...

In this episode, I unpack the question - could much of the frustration and difficulty in dating and mating be attributed to (at least in part) to hyper-elite women practicing what is known as ‘Reproductive Suppression’? Vogue published an article titled ‘Is Having a Boyfriend Lame?’ Which prompted Rob Henderson to put forth his hypothesis about Reproductive Suppression in this brilliant piece titl...

In this episode I get into a soulful conversation about what it means to be a woman. I break down the three deep desires a woman has and how they are perfectly complementary to the three desires a man has. I get into why women don’t seem to be very inspiring to men these days. Listen in to learn about what a woman’s rites of passage look like, what a woman teaches a man if she’s tuned in, what is...

In this episode, I get into the harmony that exists between dominance and submission through the lens of masculine and feminine energy. I break down what true dominance looks and feels like and why domineering energy is not dominance. I reflect on ancient rites of passage with an example from Africa and bring in an example from salsa dancing as well. Listen in to learn about the spiritual purpose...