Anatomy of Us

🎙️ Welcome to the latest episode of The Anatomy Of Us Podcast, where we delve into the crucial elements of effective communication in marriage. Join us as we discuss 'The Six Dos and Don’ts of Effective Communication in Marriage', a guide to nurturing a stronger, healthier relationship with your significant other. This episode is a part of our DO THIS, NOT THAT series for February! 🔹 About This E...

Welcome back to the Best of AOU series! Today we call up Bryan Ward of the Dad Up Podcast and talk about what it takes to show up fully for your kiddos! Bryan shares his personal background, reflecting on the impact of his parents' less-involved approach during his childhood and his commitment to being an actively engaged father. This discussion delves into the significance of open-ended questions...

Welcome back to the Best of AOU series! Today we have another insightful episode of Anatomy of Sex: "HELP! We've Only Had Sex 3 Times in the Last 4 Years!" 🎙️ In this candid discussion, we tackle a pressing listener question: "HELP! We've Only Had Sex 3 Times in the Last 4 Years!" 😱 Join us as we delve into the emotional and practical aspects of a sexless marriage lasting nearly 40 years. 🔍 In t...

We are giving you the Best of AOU, a short series giving you our most popular episodes to date! Today, we revisit a discussion about the power of Triangulation in families. Triangulation is partially defined as one person (often unconsciously) involving a third person to ease tension, gain support, or manipulate a situation. Triangulation can occur in various relationships, such as among family me...

Today, we share an excellent episode that Melanie recorded with Steven Murphy of The Nook Podcast, all about her faith journey, her time leading worship at Mars Hill Church, Coaching with her husband, and so much more. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power...

Today, we answer a listener question about a wife and her ANGRY HUSBAND! What should she do about it? Can she stop it? What does HE need to do about his anger?!  We help the wife with communication tools, encourage her to create a community of supportive people around her, and see if she can think of a man her husband admires to help him listen to reason.  Send your questions into hello@anatomyofu...

Today, we help a listener by sharing 5 ways to connect with his wife after realizing that they live more like roommates rather than a happily married couple! LISTENER QUESTION: My wife and I have drifted apart and are starting to feel more like roommates; what do I do? Here are our top tips! 1. SHAKE IT UP TO BREAK IT UP 2. GET CURIOUS 3. VISION BOARD TOGETHER 4. PRACTICE GRATITUDE 5. BUY THE POWE...

Today, we hear from a listener who shares a common observation experienced by people on a personal development journey: no longer being able to identify with what family and friends think about, talk about, and feel. This completely normal phenomenon can be jarring and confusing when first encountered, so Seth and I share how we have worked through this in our own relationships. Share what you are...

Today, we are sharing a concept we use with our High-Performance Marriage Coaching Clients called the Straight and Narrow Path. This idea helps couples identify a marriage goal and then (the most critical part) create a straight and narrow path to help them reach their goal! The Straight and Narrow Path reduces decision fatigue and gives couples clarity on how to have relationship success each and...

Today, we discuss how couples can transform their relationship by engaging in “Marriage Mode”! Similar to Marshawn Lynch’s Beast Mode, Marriage Mode uses six key points to help couples create and maintain a powerful mindset around their relationship. 1. Mental Focus and Determination 2. Increased Intensity 3. Flow State 4. Adrenaline Release 5. Preparation and Training 6. Positive Mindset LINKS: h...

Today, we are so excited to share two big announcements! The Holiday Hotline & The AOU Call-in Show! On the Holiday Hotline, we are letting you vent about your crazy in-laws, how your wife turns into a spoiled brat when she visits her parents for Christmas, and the annoying fights you get in over things like opening a present on Christmas Eve or Christmas morning! Bring it on because we can handle...

Today, we continue the conversation about Janet G. Woititz's book Adult Children of Alcoholics. This book provides wisdom and information for people who grew up in homes affected by addiction. It also addresses the patterns found in dysfunctional families and what folks can do to learn better relational skills. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance...

Today, we discuss the profoundly impactful book Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet G. Woititz. This book has had a significant impact on Seth, and it provides wisdom and information for people who grew up in homes affected by addiction. It also addresses the patterns found in dysfunctional families and how they impact those individuals, especially in relationships and decision making. LINKS: ht...

In today's episode, Melanie shares the true process of healing. Whether you are healing from an affair, healing from financial infidelity, trauma, or your own childhood, this episode will give you a deeper understanding of the timeline and nature of true and lasting healing. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coa...

Seth and Melanie recently completed 75 hard together, and Seth talks about how it hurt them and also how it can create so much connectedness and freedom--it's amazing! You've heard Melanie and Seth talk about this before and in this episode, Seth talks about what 75 hard is, how it hurt them, and 7 ways that it ignited growth like never before. Doing the program together with a spouse can create a...

In this episode, Seth talks about the concept of Self Validation vs. Others Validation. Credit to Rachel Wortman and Melanie here. Self Validation is the feeling of having recognized, confirmed, or established one's own worthiness or legitimacy. Do you like or prefer something if others like it too? This concept is fine if you're not in a relationship but can be very overwhelming for your partner...

Seth and Melanie answer a listener question about walking through the early phases of parenting with a wife who is touched out. With two young kids, this husband is struggling to feel connected with his wife and is looking for some helpful advice! https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https:/...

In today’s episode, we are talking about using artwork to help you see yourself with new eyes and to truly visualize your future in a new and empowering way. Melanie shares her personal journey of personal growth and wanting to level up in various aspects of life. She describes how she had a transformative experience in a Christian group where people described her as a warrior with armor. To solid...

Today we help couples focus on the things that they truly want in marriage, and we share how creating a laser focus (or a "narrow path") can help them succeed in creating a happy marriage! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics...

Today we call up Bryan Ward of the Dad Up Podcast and talk about what it takes to show up fully for your kiddos! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's...

Today we called up our friend Dr. John Delony and talked about his brand new book Own Your Past Change Your Future. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Wome...

Today we explore the Enneagram with the awesome Beth and Jeff McCord of Your Enneagram Coach. We talk about the impact that understanding the Enneagram has on your relationships, and how it is a tool for building compassion and empathy. Seth also shares his journey with discovering his own 9-ness and what that means in our marriage. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomy...

Today Seth shares the ways that he hasn't been stepping up to the plate in marriage in hopes that it will help husbands become stronger leaders and men. LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofu...

Today we talk with Dr. David Hawkins of Marriage Recover Center about all things Narcissism & Emotional Abuse! LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to Basics Bootcamp Course: https://anatomyofus.com/backtobasics Interested in Women's G...

Seth and Melanie talk in more detail about the impact of Spiritual Warfare in marriage, and they share tools to fight against it! Download the Power Couple List: https://anatomyofus.com/resources LINKS: https://anatomyofus.com/ https://www.patreon.com/m/anatomyofus High-Performance Coaching: https://anatomyofus.com/coaching Power Couple Planner: https://anatomyofus.com/power-couple-planner Back to...