All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Most couples get stuck in a pattern of blaming each other for the issues they’re facing—whether it’s the partner withdrawing, being overly critical, or just not feeling understood. But the key to shifting these dynamics lies in understanding yourself first. In this episode, we are doing an even DEEPER dive into the often overlooked ways couples keep themselves stuck. Continuing our previous conver...

Ever feel like you and your partner cannot communicate effectively? You're talking one thing, and they are hearing and reacting to another. Communication break downs are very common for couples who have different attachment styles. Today we are taking another deep dive into how the anxious and avoidant dynamic leads to communication issues. I break down exactly why communication breaks down betwee...

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the most common and challenging dynamics in relationships: the anxious-avoidant cycle. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a push-and-pull where one partner seems to be pulling away just when you need them the most, and the other feels suffocated by emotional demands, you’re about to discover why this happens—and how you can break free. We’ll dive into: Why one...

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, one of the most common yet frustrating patterns in relationships. Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, understanding this dynamic is the first step in breaking the cycle of emotional push and pull. We’ll explore 10 key things you need to know about this dynamic—including why both partners feel unfulf...

What if the key to transforming your relationship (and your life) isn’t about rushing to the finish line, but instead giving yourself the patience to truly grow? In today’s episode, I challenge you to think differently about time, progress, and change. For many of us, impatience leads to feeling stuck, frustrated, and drained. But what if the opposite—infinite patience—could actually be the secret...

In this episode, you’ll discover the top 5 beliefs that are essential for transforming your relationship and creating lasting change. If you’ve been feeling stuck, frustrated, or disconnected, shifting your mindset is the first step toward a better, more peaceful partnership. Inside you'll discover why these essential 5 mindsets are so important, how they will help you change the dynamic with your...

In this episode, we explore how different attachment styles define effort in relationships and why understanding these differences can be a game-changer. Whether you're more anxious, avoidant, or secure, your unique way of showing effort shapes how you connect with your partner and navigate challenges. I dive into the primary driving factor that determines what effort looks like for each attachmen...

In this episode, we dive into how to recognize where your triggers are really coming from—whether it’s from you, your partner, or the relationship itself. Understanding the root of your emotional reactions is key to breaking unhealthy patterns and building a stronger connection. By identifying the source of your triggers, you can begin to heal, have more productive conversations, and break free fr...

In this episode, we dive into the concept of communicating from the self. This is when, instead of blaming, shaming and criticizing your spouse, you simply express your feelings, your experience, and what's going on for you. It's a powerful way to express your needs and work through issues in a way that opens up the lines of communication, increases understanding, and helps you feel seen and heard...

In this episode of the podcast we dive deep into the results you’re getting in your relationship—both positive and negative. Are you feeling connected, supported, and fulfilled? Or are arguments, frustration, and disconnection more frequent than you’d like? We often point to surface-level reasons for struggles in relationships—poor communication, unmet expectations, and stress. But those are just...

In this episode of the podcast, we dive into the power of a marriage reset—why taking a step back from the chaos of everyday life can bring you closer together and reignite the spark in your relationship. Whether you’re feeling emotionally distant, disconnected, or simply stuck in the day-to-day routine, a reset can help you reassess your connection and renew your commitment to each other. You’ll...

In today’s episode, we explore how to manage intense emotional moments in relationships, especially when triggered by something your partner says or does. I break down the four key steps that happen in these moments and provide practical strategies to help you slow down and navigate the emotional storm. We start by understanding how a trigger is created and what it does inside your body and how to...

What makes a marriage truly thrive? Whether you're engaged, newly married, or years into your relationship, there are five key areas that every couple must get right to build a strong foundation. In this episode, we’re breaking down the essentials that lead to long-term love and connection. I cover: How to communicate effectively (even when you disagree) The money conversations that prevent stress...

In this episode, we’re diving into a transformative topic: Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married To. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or have been together for years, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to reflect on your role in creating the kind of marriage you desire. What You’ll Learn: The common trap couples fall into: focusing on your partner’s flaws while downplayin...

Welcome to the NEW podcast! We’re shaking things up to better reflect the work I do with couples and individuals—helping you love your marriage again, navigate major decisions, or build a strong foundation for your future. Marriage isn’t just about the partnership; it’s deeply tied to how you show up as an individual. Your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors shape the connection, communication, and...

Does it ever feel like you and your spouse just go around in circles over and over again? It's so common for couples to stay in the same kinds of negative cycles. In this episode, we dive into why we repeat unhealthy patterns in relationships and how to break free. I share with you where your patterns come from, why we choose familiar over the "right and healthy" thing, and how our brains are driv...

What does it mean to grow together as a couple? It’s not always as simple as it sounds. This episode is all about navigating those differences and creating a process that works for both of you. Here’s the thing: growth will look different for everyone. I break down what growing together as a couple looks like, particularly for couples that experience the anxious - avoidant attachment style dynamic...

Even though it's so easy to avoid them, hard conversations have the potential to move your life forward in the direction you want to go. Hard conversations can happen with yourself, with your spouse, with your children, and anyone else you have an important relationship with. In this Episode of the podcast, I'm breaking down all aspects of having hard conversations. From your intentions and goals,...

There are stages of changing your life. In this episode, I share with you the process of change, and offer the most important things to focus on when you are getting ready to change. I also share one of the biggest obstacles to your success - managing your emotions. I walk you through a process that helps you to understand, process and manage your emotions in way that fuels you to move forward ins...

What we all crave in our human existence is a sense of emotional fulfillment. We want to feel content, satisfied and happy. Often we seek emotional fulfillment inside a marriage or within other intimate relationships. Yet, when for various reasons, when those relationships are not fulfilling or there is constant strain, it can be difficult to know how to create emotional fulfillment in other areas...

What would it be like to truly choose yourself? To have an lived experience where you WANT you? You are a priority to you. You fully accept and love you? In this episode of the podcast, I invite you to overcome the specific obstacles that often stand in the way and prevent you from fully choosing yourself. It is my hope that you walk away completely inspired and more committed to YOU and your well...

I'm so thrilled to introduce you to my client Carolyn, who joined The Well Made Woman Program last year. In this conversation, you'll hear what helped her go from being a long-time podcast listener (and note-taker) to officially joining one of my coaching programs. You'll hear how her commitment to make the most out of the experience lead her to do the work and ultimately achieve the progress she...

Anger in relationships. It's a natural human emotion that when misunderstood can create a lot of conflict and disconnection. In this episode, I break down the most common reasons for some of the anger you have been feeling and offer a pathway forward to help you use your anger to create positive progress in your life. The work of navigating difficult emotions is so essential. When you have the too...

Diana's story is that of a woman who is committed to finding her place of power rather than always blaming her husband. Through our work together in The Well Made Woman, she realized how much of her resentment and frustration came from not being able to see her role, and not doing things to create better situations for herself. In this episode we talk about her Transformational Goal, and how achie...

In this episode, we are diving into the idea of Transformational Goals - goals that change YOU, and thereby change your LIFE. This is a new concept I created that I am SOOO excited to share with you. Because, it really does have the potential to change your life. Whatever you are wanting to be better - in your life, your relationships, you marriage, it starts with critical shifts inside of YOU. Wh...