All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Sharing your life with another person can be a challenge. Marriages take work and some of this work is work that you have to do on your own. Our guest today, Dr. M., will share her success story of how she improved not only her marriage but your emotional well-being after deciding to work with me via private coaching. You will hear how she has gained the clarity that she needed to move from where...

How self-aware are you? Self-awareness is probably one of those things where you have an idea of what it is, but if someone asked you to define it, you might stumble a bit to find the words. By definition, self-awareness is a conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires. Being self-aware is how you live as your true, authentic self. When we know ourselves deeply, we a...

It's not easy to see your husband's imperfections and then choose to allow him to be who he is without you complaining or trying to fix him. But exercising allowance makes your marriage more peaceful and enjoyable. Allowance is you suspending your thoughts and beliefs of who you think your husband should be according to your opinion. This does not mean that you don’t ever stand up for yourself. Yo...

Throughout your marriage, there will be times when you need to have "must-have" conversations to work out some issues. Other times you may just need to manage those perceived issues differently in your mind. If you find yourself often struggling to have productive conversations it could be a sign that the approach to those must-have conversations needs a revision. Today, I will share five reasons...

Improving your marriage can be very hard and confusing when you don’t have a step by step plan. There are stages when going from a relationship where you don’t get along, to one where you are passionately in love again. In this episode I’m sharing the 5 phases of making your marriage work. As you listen, think about which stage you are in and what needs to happen to move you to the next stage. Und...

Do you feel like you are doing all the things to improve your marriage but you still feel stuck? This is a common situation that many people have faced at some point in their marriage. You diligently take all the right actions and patiently wait for that new season of your marriage to arrive but it feels like your marriage is nowhere near what you dreamed it would be. Though it may feel overwhelmi...

Today I want to share with you a new concept that I created and recently shared with my private coaching clients. I call this concept the Trigger Triad and it’s all about self-awareness. This idea offers you an opportunity to navigate and quickly recover from your triggers so that you can move on to the […]

When people think of self-care they usually think of ways to physically care for themselves. Physical self-care is important and should not be ignored. There is, however, another type of self-care that I would like us to discuss today and that is emotional self-care. This form of self-care is important because when a spouse who […]

It’s perfectly normal to disagree from time to time. But when your focus is more on being right and convincing your husband to see things your way, it can lead to bickering and arguing. If this unhealthy communication habit has created a wedge between you and your spouse and if you are ready to get […]

Do you ever do something not because you truly want to, but because you feel like you should? We are currently living in a unique time where life feels like it’s happening to us and you’re just going through the motions. Obligated living can create stress and strain in marriage as you deny parts of […]

Every marriage is going to have some hard, rocky times that you will need to navigate. The goal is not to be happy all the time, but to maintain your inner joy and contentment even in the hard times. The best way to do this, regardless of external circumstances, is to focus on self-improvement and […]

Our brains are wired to want more. This happens all the time in marriage. It could be wanting more help, communication, attention, or passion.  Having more of whatever that thing is, seems to be the cure-all to the marriage struggles. What I have observed is that in the various scenarios, most people are making some […]

Loving your marriage again is something that is within your control. It doesn’t require your husband to do a complete 180. It doesn’t need to take a long time. In this episode, I break down five specific mindset shifts that can change your experience in your marriage and get you back on track with loving […]

Welcome to another episode! I am so happy that you are here. Today we are going to talk about God and your marriage. I believe that if you want to transform your marriage, consider how you can make God’s presence the center of your union. I would like to share with you five practical steps […]

Happy New Year! Welcome to 2021. Today, I want to continue the conversation from last week’s episode. I hope that you took some time to answer the 20 questions provided to paint a clear picture of 2020’s lessons and successes in your marriage. It is now time to focus on how you want to experience […]

It is that time to wrap up 2020 and make way for 2021. This year is definitely one for the books. Whether you experienced successes beyond your wildest dreams or became a stronger person for the hardships you endured.

Merry Christmas to you all! This is the time of year that we can be refueled with hope, joy, and reminded of the miracles of this world. The level of your belief in what’s possible is one important key to your happiness, growth, and success in your marriage. Your beliefs determine your actions and your […]

What if I told you that the fastest way to change your husband is to change the way you think about him. I know you’re probably thinking, “why am I always the one who has to change something to make our marriage better, he’s most of the problem?” It seems unfair, but it can also […]

Becoming your best self involves enhancing all areas of your life to encourage growth, reduce distractions, and focus on the goals you want to achieve. While you may feel that your best self is an unattainable version of you in the distance, you can take action now that allows you to start experiencing a better […]

Oftentimes we ruminate on the things about our husbands that we don’t like. But these things are beyond our control. Doing this makes us feel worse instead of better. I want to offer you another option that will make you feel empowered and positive about your marriage. This involves focusing more on you – your […]

As‌ ‌the‌ ‌Thanksgiving‌ ‌Holiday‌ ‌approaches,‌ ‌I‌ ‌am‌ ‌reflecting‌ ‌on‌ ‌the‌ ‌meaning‌ ‌of‌ ‌gratitude,‌ ‌and‌ ‌in‌ ‌particular,‌ ‌about‌ ‌how‌ ‌feeling‌ ‌and‌ ‌expressing‌ ‌gratitude‌ ‌can‌ ‌help‌ ‌us‌ ‌create‌ ‌a‌ ‌marriage‌ ‌we‌ ‌genuinely‌ ‌enjoy‌ ‌again.‌ ‌Gratitude‌ ‌helps‌ ‌us‌ ‌feel‌ ‌more‌ ‌positive‌ ‌emotions,‌ ‌improve‌ ‌our‌ ‌health,‌ ‌deal‌ ‌with‌ ‌adversity,‌ ‌and‌ ‌build‌ ‌stro...

It’s common for many couples to fall out of sync. If you are looking for ways to improve the dynamics in your marriage, this episode is for you. Today I’m sharing a three-step framework that will bring you immediate improvements to have a better experience in your marriage. These strategies will help you argue less, […]

The goal of marriage for all of us is to have a happy and nurturing relationship. This goal can seem impossible when you don’t get along with your spouse. So what do you do if this is the reality of your marriage?  Well, there are many ways to revamp your relationship to make it better […]

In every marriage, there are things about our spouse that are going to irritate, annoy, and frustrate us. Whatever it is that you feel is not balanced or moving in a positive direction for your marriage,  I’ve come up with a tool that will be extraordinarily helpful for you. This exercise will direct you with […]

Today we are going to talk about the difference between responsibility vs. responsiveness. Typically, when we experience a negative emotional reaction towards someone else, our first inclination is to blame the other person. I want to empower you to own your emotions and not make anyone else responsible for how you feel. I also break […]