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Do you like to say Merry Christmas? or Happy Holidays? Holiday greetings have become controversial and polarizing and I get it...but perhaps we're just struggling to find the right way to express all the extra feelings we experience during the holiday season. Listen in to this brief episode to explore with me.  Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender Finch  anywhere books are sold....

Prayer can mean different things to different people. To me, it is a powerful force necessary in the spiritual realm of our lives and is one component of living a well-rounded, three-part human existence with our spirit, soul and body. It can be a super power that helps you navigate, kind of like the Hollywood version of Wonder Woman but better, believe it or not. Tune in and listen for yourself....

November is Preemie Awareness month and November 17th is World Prematurity Day. 1 in 10 babies in the US are born too soon, which is before 37-40 weeks. Premature babies fight for their very survival and are at risk for significant short-term and long-term health challenges. The health equity gap in our health care system puts women and babies of color at the greatest risk, with racial and ethnic...

That urge or compulsion to document, to capture, to witness, to share, because some thing or moment touches you so deeply, is at the core of being human. This is what separates us  from other creatures and living things on the earth. Art separates us. Art is the vehicle we use to capture moments like these. Art is created when a moment, an experience, a sunset, a landscape, a person, overwhelms yo...

Divorce, Death, a Diagnosis, Disappointment...these are the four big Ds that kill dreams. Perhaps you never felt permission to dream or were intimidated by the gatekeepers...the good news is that WE CAN GROW DREAMS with intention and expectation. We can plant the seeds of our own dreams, give them love and water and light, and then let them grow! Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender F...

Those who struggle with mental health issues and/or suicidal thoughts can also do so silently. We need to be on the lookout and extend a hand if we can. Drowning can sneak up on you. In movies and television, drowning people are obvious. Screaming, flailing arms waving in the air, someone hears their cries and jumps in to rescue them, just in time.  In real life, people drown silently. Because the...

We say a lot of things we don't always mean literally. But words have power. Power to marginalize and devalue people, as well as perpetuate outdated cultural behaviors. Can we challenge ourselves to listen more closely to what we say to those around us and be more intentional with our words? Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender Finch  anywhere books are sold. Visit www.kellybarga...

We give power to the difficult things in our lives by keeping them a secret and allowing shame to suffocate our truth. We keep ourselves in life or death situations with our silence. We must save our own lives.  Tell your truth and Turn away. Take away the secret’s power. Maybe you don't have a secret but can be that safe person for someone to tell their secret shame to. If they do: Lean in....

Have you ever experienced that phenomenon where you catch yourself seeing the same number over and over again? What does it mean? Who knows, right? But perhaps we can find meaning in the message the universe is sending. For me, the message is, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? THE TIME IS NOW! Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender Finch  anywhere books are sold. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to...

In this kick-off episode of Season 2, we discuss the beauty that surrounds in this world and in this human experience. Yes, there is ugliness, sadness, tragedy and really hard things, but there is beauty to be found in all of it. Whether you are witnessing a sunrise over the ocean or a sunset, whether you are just starting out and entering the final phase of your life on this earth, it is all beau...

Eleanor Roosevelt said, "You must do the thing you think you cannot do." Overcoming fear, intimidation, procrastination and ambivalence and doing the things that scare us the most builds courage, confidence, strength and hope. Challenging ourselves to do the things we think we can't, is the very thing that will help us go the distance in this life. These are the things that will con...

In this episode, Lindsey asks, "Has that ever happened to you? You don’t even know how far you’ve gotten away from yourself? Have you ever gone months without feeling true joy? Months with your growing, healthy, happy babies…without feeling true joy? Fear and panic taking over your every thought? So much so that you don’t even realize it anymore? It’s just become the norm." Most of us ar...

Thanks to technology, filters are everywhere we need them. Virtual backgrounds, touch-up appearance options, studio edits and filters help us hide things, help us pretend, help us have fun. Filters are not a new phenomenon either...they've been around since the beginning when Adam hid his nakedness with a fig leaf.  But what if I told you that alcohol is a filter? A filter that helps distract...

Examining alcohol and its place in our life can be challenging and polarizing. We tend to be very black and white about it--you are either an alcoholic and need to get/be sober, or you are fine, which means you drink when you're supposed to and only then.  Tune in to this short episode,  to hear a poem I wrote about the prison of addiction.  Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender F...

Examining alcohol and drinking can be polarizing in our current party culture. In this episode we have an honest discussion about my journey with drinking & alcohol, what it means, what it doesn't mean and how I've tried to give it the appropriate place and power in my life. Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender Finch  anywhere books are sold. Visit www.kellybargabos.com...

I was almost ten years old when I started my first diet and began the cycle of believing that I'm either gaining or losing, and that my weight was worthy of taking front and center in my life and all of its events. Reaching my goal weight hung over me--a dark, looming presence that kept me unhappy and unsatisfied with who I was. I believed that I needed to achieve this goal in order to be oka...

Keep It Real: The Work of Changing the World—A Conversation with Afua Boahene Real people. Real stories. Real life. "The world is not really changed by what you say, the world is changed by what you do." What is ACTIVISM? Alice Walker once said, “Activism is the rent we pay for living on the planet.”  Archbishop Desmond Tutu said, “If we are neutral in situations of injustice, we have ch...

Mother's Day is one of those days filled with power and the potential for joy and celebration as well as pain, sadness, regret and longing.  As women, we are all somewhere on the motherhood spectrum...we have mothers, some of us are biological, step or god mothers to children, some of us care for and nurture four-legged fur balls, and some of us nurture and mother our friends or co-workers. R...

Life has been compared to a bowl of cherries, a box of chocolates, a race...I've decided that for me, life is like a week at the beach.  Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender Finch  anywhere books are sold. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.

As we age, we tend to focus on how our body and appearance is changing with a negative perspective, forgetting all that our bodies have done for us throughout our lives. What if we could change that narrative and remember all the work, all the pleasures, all that we have survived? What if we could realize that no matter what we look like on the outside, the same spirit that got us this far, is sti...

If you could spend a night with your seventeen-year-old self, what would you tell her? What do you wish you knew then? Do you ever wonder if you would make the same choices in your life if you knew at 17 what you know now? Have you spent a lifetime attaching your value to external things like other people, how much money you make, what you do or what you have?  Tune in to share and witness these t...

Real people. Real Stories. Real Life.  A "Keep It Real"  Interview with Stu Slomberg. Stu Slomberg has completely transformed his life through grit, determination and consistency. Stu hasn't missed a day of exercise in more than two years and was able to reverse a type-2 diabetes diagnosis, lower his blood pressure and improve his health in all areas. More importantly, he addressed...

I love my life and the age I'm at, but still...every once in a while I find myself longing for a simpler, more carefree time.  Do you come from a big family and long for when it was just you and your siblings? Or is it just me? Tune in to share the human experience of longing, reminiscing and family. Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender Finch  anywhere books are sold. Visit www.k...

We don't like to talk about it, but aging, mortality, loss--our own and our parents--is a very real weight we all must bear.  But maybe sharing it with each other makes it a little easier to find peace with it.  This essay explores things that were lost with youth being one of many.  Send us Fan Mail Get your copy of Loving Lavender Finch  anywhere books are sold. Visit www.kellybargabos.com...

The world-changing, life-saving, mind-bending power of love can be hard to understand and make sense of. Just like gravity, love is a powerful, invisible force that exists in our world. It is constantly working and pulling us toward each other and we don’t even realize it is happening. We can’t explain it, we don’t know how it works, or why it works, but we know that it does.  Send us Fan Mail Get...