All Out in the Open, Questions from the Closet

All Out in the Open

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All Out in the Open is a resource for LGBTQ Latter-day Saints and those who love them. Our goal is to help listeners connect with themselves, with their families, with their community, and with God. Hosts Charlie Bird and Ben Schilaty help listeners open up to themselves and those around them. Clare Dalton digs into the scriptures and teaches how they can be a catalyst for personal revelation. Iese Wilson takes listeners on a tour of LGBTQ Latter-day Saints all over the Church and introduces us to modern day pioneers. Michael Soto and Liz Macdonald highlight the amazing work of those who are b...

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Jan 13, 2026

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Episodes

What are the pros and cons of coming out? 09.03.2021

Ben and Charlie are joined by Stacey Harkey for a discussion of the pros and cons of coming out. 

How do I figure everything out? 02.03.2021

Ben and Charlie are joined by Joey, a current student at BYU, to discuss how they have made decisions in the uncharted territory of being a LGBTQ+ member of the Church. 

Bonus: Disney movies are totally about gay Latter-day Saints. 26.02.2021

Welcome to the first Bonus episode! Ben and Charlie joke about how Disney movies are about the gay Latter-day Saint experience.

Can I be in a relationship and stay in the Church? 23.02.2021

Charlie and Ben are joined by Summer Lee-Corry for a conversation about what it's like to attend worship services while in a relationship that is not sanctioned by the Church.

How do I start a support group? 16.02.2021

Charlie and Ben go through the logistics of starting a local LDS/LGBTQ+ support group with Michelle Sherwin and Byron Korth, who recently started a successful group in their home Stake.

What hurtful things do Church members say? 09.02.2021

This week Ben and Charlie are joined by T.J. Thomas, a therapist who identifies as bisexual, for a conversation about hurtful things that well-meaning members of The Church of Jesus Christ might say to an LGBTQ+ individual. They also have a discussion about bisexuality and what it's like for T.J. to be a male, bisexual, Latter-day Saint.

Why do you stay in the Church? 02.02.2021

Charlie and Ben talk about why they decide to move forward in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

How can I safely navigate gay culture? 26.01.2021

Charlie and Ben are joined by Derek Lundahl to talk about the moral "pendulum swing" that often accompanies LGBTQ+ individuals raised in religious cultures, and how to set boundaries and stay safe after coming out. 

What is asexuality? 19.01.2021

Ben and Charlie are joined by Tearza Foyston for an in-depth conversation about asexuality.

Can I date? 12.01.2021

Ben and Charlie talking about their experiences dating while staying active in the Church.

How can I help? 05.01.2021

Charlie and Ben are joined by Rachel Bloxham to talk about how allies can help support LGBTQ+ individuals.

How do I find gay people like me? 29.12.2020

This week Ben and Charlie are joined by Victoria Hutchings, group leader of Affirmation San Francisco, for a conversation about how to find community and support among other LGBTQ+ people. Ben and Charlie talk about finding community through coming out and Victoria shares some of her journey becoming more involved with church after stepping away when she was young.

Did pornography make me gay? 22.12.2020

Among the worries presented to us by gay Latter-day Saints, one of the most common is that early exposure to pornography might have altered their orientation. This week we were joined by Liam Essig, an expert in pornography use and addiction recovery, for a conversation about the myths of pornography use, associated shame, and how to overcome unwanted viewing.

What is the gay agenda? 15.12.2020

Ben and Charlie are joined by Sarah Kellar Langford to talk about the phrase "gay agenda" and what they hope to accomplish through visible LGBTQ+ advocacy .

Is there a place for me in the Church? 08.12.2020

Ben, Charlie, and McKay Bryson have a raw conversation about what it's like to be a gay member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

How do I talk to youth about LGBTQ+? 01.12.2020

Youth leaders often ask us how they should approach LGBTQ+ topics in a religious setting. Today we sat down with Dave Smurthwaite to talk about his experience as a youth leader and how he ended up doing LGBTQ+ trainings with seminary teachers in Utah.

How can my child be just like you? 24.11.2020

We (Charlie and Ben) both get a lot of messages from parents asking how they can help their kids stay In the Church and be just like us. This week we sat down with Jessyca Fulmer, who became one of the first "poster children" of the LDS/LGBTQ+ space when her coming out was featured in a Mormon Message. Jessyca talks about her experience coming out publicly, feeling social pressure from C...

How do I fit in the Plan of Salvation? 17.11.2020

Ben and Charlie are joined by LDS scholar and theologian Terryl Givens to talk about how LGBTQ+ individuals fit into the Plan of Salvation.

What are the stages of coming out? 10.11.2020

Ben teaches Cass's 6 Stages of Coming Out. Scott Christofferson joins Ben and Charlie to talk about their experiences in each stage, as well as give advice for how friends and family can support LGBTQ+ loved ones throughout the process.

How can I be an LGBTQ+ ally while supporting Church teachings? 03.11.2020

Ben and Charlie are joined by Ally Isom to talk about how active members of the Church can be allies to their LGBTQ+ loved ones while supporting current Church teachings and policies.

How do I teach my kids about LGBTQ+? 27.10.2020

Charlie and Ben are joined by Dr. Lisa Hansen to discuss how parents can safely and effectively teach their children about LGBTQ+ topics.

What should my pronouns be? 20.10.2020

Ben and Charlie are joined by Marina to talk about pronouns. Marina shares her journey coming out as transgender and how using she/her/hers pronouns has helped her feel more like herself. 

Where are all the lesbians? 13.10.2020

Ben and Charlie are joined by Sammi Taylor to talk about how coming out as lesbian differs from coming out as a gay man, and why LGBTQ+ women seem underrepresented compared to LGBTQ+ men.

What does it mean to be queer? 06.10.2020

Ben and Charlie are joined by Tyler LeFevor to talk about the "Q" in LGBTQ+. They discuss origins of the label, common assumptions about those who identify as queer, and how they view "queer" in relation to their own and identities.

What if I have a crush on my roommate? 29.09.2020

Ben and Charlie are joined by Zach Ibarra to talk about handling roommate crushes, straight crushes, gay crushes, and more.

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