Alive and Free

Most people who struggle with their emotions or mental health first turn to "mind exercises" like therapy or meditation.  While therapy and meditation may help, they're not as powerful or effective as working with your body to reverse your mental turmoil.  Why?  Well, your thinking mind came after your functioning body. And as you allow your body to function properly, you correct the problems of y...

There is a musical world all around us. Scientists discovered that even plants play "music" through their electrical signals.  And your brain works the same way: It sends electrical signals throughout your body every moment of the day. These electrical signals either create "music" and bliss or "noise" and misery.  These electrical signals have brainwashed us with the ideas of limitations in the h...

We experience the world through our senses. They are feelers that let us connect with ourselves and others. But there's a common misconception. At school, we're taught to believe that we have five senses: eyesight, hearing, taste, touch, and smell. That's not true.  Humans actually have nine senses. Not being in touch with them will cause you to feel emotionally or physically stuck. It's the reaso...

Do you feel like you're living in a prison sometimes…one that you built yourself? You're not alone.  Too often we let fear, shame, or other negative emotions take control of our lives. We fear these emotions because they take us out of our comfort, forcing us to be in situations that don't make us feel 100% safe. That feeling robs us from experiencing new and exciting parts of life. But by learnin...

The internet is a dangerous place for your children. You might be shocked to discover - most children see pornography before they leave elementary school. We know what disastrous effects porn has on childrens' brains.  And as parents, it's our job to shield them. But taking away their smartphones won't help, because you can't control what they see on the schoolyard.  Luckily, you don't need to.  I...

Most people don't understand happiness. And it robs them of feeling blissful every day. Happiness isn't tied to achievements, purchases, or other life events. In fact, thinking of happiness this way creates untold suffering.  Why?  Because pain and pleasure are two sides of the same coin. Your brain has certain homeostatic mechanisms that create pain if you're feeling too much pleasure and vice ve...

We live in a backwards society full of illusions. We take people's word for things without experiencing it ourselves. We buy into their theories about addiction and depression, only to become more addicted and depressed.  Why?  Because we'd rather be right than happy and free. This crushes your soul, steals your enthusiasm for life, and creates endless mental suffering.  But the antidote is easier...

Most people treat their problems like moving into a new house: They fill their new place with all their old stuff from their past so it feels like "home." But clinging to your memories causes untold amounts of suffering, misery, and anguish in your psyche.  Why?  Because your past—no matter how glorious or how traumatic—doesn't exist. The more you reflect on your past, the more misery you unleash...

People treat their addictions, traumas, and mental suffering like unwanted pets. After dealing with it for a period of time, leaving it behind creates sadness.  But there's a big, fat problem with this mindset:  Your struggles—mental or physical—aren't unwanted pets. You can ditch them whenever you want. And it's easier than you think.  In this episode, you'll discover how to free yourself from ad...

As humans, we try to separate ourselves from animals and nature as much as possible. We believe that thinking makes us different from every other type of life on the planet.  But this is a mistake which creates suffering.  Why? Because we're not special because we can think.  Thinking is a garnish and your body is the main course. When we try to replace the main course with only a garnish, we crea...

Humans trap themselves in the pursuit of becoming special. We learn new amazing skills, ditch our worst habits, and try our darndest to improve ourselves instead of living a mediocre life.  But this actually makes us more miserable because we're never satisfied.  Let's use addiction as an example. Freeing yourself from addiction won't instantly make you happier because your brain finds other ways...

Our society glorifies shortcuts and band-aids to heal deep-rooted suffering. But these shortcuts don't work. In fact, they prolong our suffering.  Why?  Because any affliction suffocating you—from depression and anxiety to addiction and trauma—is a byproduct of the real problem.  This is why talk therapy doesn't work. It's like trying to season a rotten fish instead of finding a fresh one.  That's...

Most people live with their suffering for so long, they don't even realize it's affecting them. This can come from trauma, past addictions, chronic pain, and even autoimmune diseases.  But that doesn't mean that you still can't experience true freedom, peace, and joy.  That's what Amber, a Freedom Specialist client, realized after going to a retreat and getting coaching.  Amber battled chronic pai...

Many younger guys—and some older—wonder how much they should tell their significant other about their addiction-filled past.  Should you just spill the beans and get it out of the way as soon as possible? Or should you wait until your significant other brings it up? While there's no correct answer, there are some pros and cons to each approach.  In this episode, you'll discover how to handle this...

Almost every trauma started in your childhood. And no parent wants to repeat this trauma cycle with their children. Parenting is already hard enough, and not knowing what the future holds makes your job 100x harder.  How can you raise your children to live a happy and trauma-free life?  In this episode, Jasmine and I reveal how our two differing parenting styles complement each other. And how you...

Disney movies, popular books, and rom-coms ruin more relationships than you'd think. Too often, angsty, single men with no relationship success create these fantasized stories. And it fools the best couples into sabotaging their marriage.  You don't need to share every interest, have the same faith, or enjoy the same hobbies to build a healthy relationship. In fact, that would mean you're the same...

Conquering traumatic events doesn't instantly relieve you of your emotional baggage. This applies even more to couples than it does to individuals. It's possible your trauma seeps into your spouse too.  Overcoming addiction or depression doesn't magically make your spouse's trauma disappear. But you can speed up this healing process and restore the love you first felt in your marriage.  In this ep...

Most couples believe they need trust to build a healthy, long marriage. But trust doesn't create unity like paying attention does.  Here's what I mean:  When you pay better attention to your spouse, you can accept them for what they are. Too often, we try to impose change on our spouse — which only leads to suffering for both people.  By paying attention, you can build a marriage bonded by true un...

Something weird happens when your husband ditches his addiction for good. He heals much faster than you. And this causes turmoil in the relationship.  The husband wonders why his wife seems distant and disconnected. That's because the wife often thinks this is another lie and waits for the addiction to come back in full force.  Here's the good news:  If you've reached this place with your partner,...

Addicts feel alone and isolated when battling their addictions. But they don't realize their spouse feels even more detached and miserable.  How do wives keep their lives (and family) together when their husband has these issues?  My wife Jasmine joins me on this episode to discuss some coping strategies for wives dealing with their addicted husbands. She covers bad strategies that can wreck your...

When you're dealing with addiction, it's easy to feel all alone. To feel helpless. To feel like a victim.  But you know what?  It's even harder, lonelier, and heartbreaking for those close to you.  Wives of addicts keep asking me how Jasmine felt when I battled through my porn addiction. And today, I'm letting Jasmine describe how she felt.  Whether you're an addict yourself or your spouse is, thi...

There's a common thread between most people battling a porn addiction: Their sexual energy is out of control, which turns them into a helpless victim because of their urges.  But here's the thing…  Sexual energy doesn't exist. It's simply a sensation in your body. And when you realize you're in control of the sensations you feel, you'll never find yourself searching for porn again. Best yet: you w...

Setting goals helps you experience happiness, strive for something greater, and can add to your fulfillment. But setting goals can also make you miserable, fill you with darkness, and sabotage your life.  Why does this happen?  When you set goals that are too big, you lose sight of all the small joys in your life right now. The more overwhelming your goals are, the more you feel like a failure. An...

If Jesus came back today, do you think you'd drop everything and follow him? How many other people do you think would do the same? In the Bible, a rich man refuses to follow Jesus because he was too attached to his possessions. In the real world, we're all the rich man — no matter how wealthy we are.  Chances are, you've prayed about or wished for something that you've had an opportunity to pursue...

Humans are weird. We worry about our kids, our jobs, our relationships, our finances, and everything in between. But we don't have control over these things most of the time.  Do you worry around the clock over things big and small? Worrying sends you down a vicious cycle that makes you less capable of fixing whatever you're worrying about. And often, you even worry about being worried.  The resul...